XP: OMG help me with these tantrums!!

Re: XP: OMG help me with these tantrums!!

• Kmills678

  November 2010

  The ONLY thing that works for us is ignoring it till he calms a little then i try to distract / redirect but he usually has to scream it out a bit and yeah it happens alot even if you just look at him the wrong way. Just gotta try not to feed into it.

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• SparkFish

  November 2010

  I haven't read Happiest Toddler on the Block, but I do find that it's sometimes helpful to talk calmly to DD when she is having a tantrum. I get down on her level and say something like, "I can see that you are frustrated/angry/upset, do you want to tell Mommy what's going on. Mommy doesn't understand you when you shout, can you use your words?" It only works about half of the time, but I figure it's useful to give her the language to describe her emotions. Sometimes though, the only thing that works is ignoring it all together until it's over. 

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• Boston2Bermuda

  November 2010

  Ignore, ignore, ignore.  Trying to reason with a tantruming child is not typically a successful method.  I always equate it to trying to teach some who is drowning how to swim...they are so overwhelmed int he moment they won't hear anything or have the ability to comprehend your talk.  In addition to ignoring (which the more consistent you are, the better) you can try some pro active strategies.  Does your son say the word "help" consistently?  If not, I would work on it when he is happy during the day.  If he cannot vocally say it, you can create a picture that he can hand to you when he needs you help.  If you need more specific logistics on this, you can contact me.  Good luck and stay strong!
  

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• Echowysp member

  November 2010

  Oh, being pregnant with a toddler is a special thing, isn't it? 

  Ignoring helps.  That kind of snuffed them out.  What helped the most was when he got more words, so when your LO does, you should see a reduction in the fits.  I also try to give him the words when he's upset about something... "Oh, you wanted your blanket on the couch, but it's stuck.  Here, let Mama help". 

  I taught him to say help when he needs help, which cut down on whining and fits when he needs help a lot.  That one took a long time though.

  Congrats on baby coming.  It's a wonderful club to belong to!
  

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• MrsR0908

  November 2010

  I could have wrote this post myself. I am going crazy!!

  

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• Kellina

  November 2010

  Echowysp:

  Oh, being pregnant with a toddler is a special thing, isn't it? 

  Ignoring helps.  That kind of snuffed them out.  What helped the most was when he got more words, so when your LO does, you should see a reduction in the fits.  I also try to give him the words when he's upset about something... "Oh, you wanted your blanket on the couch, but it's stuck.  Here, let Mama help". 

  I taught him to say help when he needs help, which cut down on whining and fits when he needs help a lot.  That one took a long time though.

  Congrats on baby coming.  It's a wonderful club to belong to!
  

  Oh yes it is! I keep saying- omg we should've waited like 6 more months! But I'm sure there will be different challenges at that stage too!! 

  Thanks girls... I have Happiest Toddler, but I seriously cannot do the "toddlerese"- it is just too stupid sounding to me!! I know that's a dumb reason, but if I can't do it seriously it won't work, I'm sure!

  We have been ignoring and the time length has gone down for the tantrums... I'll try to give him more choices and control while he is happy- hopefully that'll help! 

  I was all too glad to take him to daycare today after his fit this morning! He's awake, but does NOT want to get out of his crib!! He would seriously stay in there for like 3 hours, I swear!
  

  

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• Kellina

  November 2010

  duplicate post
  

  

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