I want my old life back

acesup · November 2010

I love DD more than anything and would never do anything to hurt her- but right now at this minute-- I want my old life back. You know, the one where I could sleep whenever I wanted. And I could take my time to eat or shower or go to the bathroom. I could shower and brush my teeth and do my hair everyday. I didn't have horrible, debilitating, vomit-inducing headaches from lack of sleep. I didn't bleed for 3+ weeks. I wasn't recovering from surgery. I didn't have to walk laps around my house for hours carrying a ten lb weight until my arm felt like it would fall off. Nothing screamed in my eat. No one depended on me. And I didn't feel like a horrible useless mother for not being able to fix whatever is wrong and for feeling this way and for wanting my old life back!!!! vent (sorry for typo's--iPhone)

tresmama · November 2010

Yup- sounds normal. It will get better, it just might take a while.

MrsLidiak · November 2010

Get over yourself.

acesup · November 2010

MrsLidiak:
Get over yourself.

kiss my ...

Geback723 · November 2010

It gets easier with each day. I had a day like this today though, DD was super fussy and it was the first day I actually missed my life before her, than she smiled at me and I felt awful for even thinking I missed my old life.. I will get better, just give it time *hugs* Left Hug

acesup · November 2010

Geback723:
It gets easier with each day. I had a day like this today though, DD was super fussy and it was the first day I actually missed my life before her, than she smiled at me and I felt awful for even thinking I missed my old life.. I will get better, just give it time *hugs*

Thanks. It does feel awful to feel this way. I love her so much but I do look forward to her sleeping through the night and having more happy wakeful times

HisSunshine1220 · November 2010

It will get better. Especially the older your little one gets. Its hard at first... your emotions are out of wack, your body is completely destroyed, your little bundle of joy doesn't do anything besides sleep, eat, cry, and poop. But pretty soon you will start to get into a rhythm, the hormones will fade, and your LO will start to become more of a person. Just hang in there... everyone has these days.

mom2hay · November 2010

MrsLidiak:
Get over yourself.

WOW really?? This was uncalled for.

mom2hay · November 2010

I am feeling the same way. All I do is cry anymore. I am going on Wed. to talk to my doctor about everything that is going on. Good luck!

NillaWafers · November 2010

MrsLidiak:
Get over yourself.

Wow 6 posts....you could try to troll a little less obviously...

I feel the same way too at times...things get better though!

mom2hay · November 2010

NillaWafers:
MrsLidiak:
Get over yourself.

Wow 6 posts....you could try to troll a little less obviously...

I feel the same way too at times...things get better though!

I didn't even notice the post count. I really hope it is a troll and a real woman would not say this to someone who is going through this.

aribs2010 · November 2010

Those first weeks are kind of rough for everyone. Before you know it, your baby will be out of this stage and on to much cuter and more enjoyable times. I had my LO 20 years after my first one. I had forgotten the newborn stage completely. I did think "what have I done" a few times. By week 4 things were MUCH easier, and now at week 8, I can't imagine life without her. Hang in there!

LadyDelilah · November 2010

mom2hay:
MrsLidiak:
Get over yourself.
WOW really?? This was uncalled for.

Seriously.

It does get better there were days where all I could do is cry along with her and sometimes its still frustrating you will eventually get a routine down and she will sleep and life will become a new functional normal. It will not be like this forever. Promise.

bradley&cassie · November 2010

MrsLidiak:
Get over yourself.

What a terrible thing to say to someone trying to vent and get some support! We all feel overwhelmed at times... we should at least be able to share our true feelings and not get comments like this. ESPECIALLY from other Moms!

OP, I hope things get better for you soon and you feel more adjusted to your new lifestyle! *hugs*

acesup · November 2010

Thanks everyone for the kind words... Minus the one A-hole lol. I know it will get easier. Sometimes it's just so hard- especially when I'm aline with her at night (Dh works overnights). I just have to hang in there. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.

jazmynalex · November 2010

I was feeling the same way, especially since I'm so young and watching all my friends have the times of their lives in college. I went through that for probably a month and a half. It really does get better though, everyone would tell me that and I wouldn't believe them but it really does. Just give it time and I'm sure you'll be fine! Smile

MSC03 · November 2010

Is your DH helping much? I was feeling a little over-stimulated a few weeks ago and handing her off to him for a few morning feedings (I got up and pumped ahead of time) and running to Target by myself really really helped.

acesup · November 2010

He helps so much- unfortunately he works nights which is her worst time. And then we have to take turns sleeping in the day. He has to work OT sometimes too and when he does he doesn't come home because with the commute and his need to sleep it isn't worth it. He is currenly trying to get onto day shift. Fingers crossed. But when he is here he is super helpful.

SimoneSays22 · November 2010

OP, I understand the feeling. I think what makes it worse is when I have those feelings, then I feel guilty for feeling that way, and it makes it sooo much worse.

So I'm sorry. Know you are not the only mom who feels this way and it gets better!!

Sweets2005 · November 2010

Agreeing- It gets easier! The tiny baby days can be hard. You are not alone, I have read many posts like this from other bumpies before. Also, I have read where some bumpies said they didn't really enjoy the first year. So it is normal. Taking care of a baby is hard and often lonely- especially before they talk. But it definitely has its fun times, too.

m&m2006 · November 2010

did i write this? i'd say that this is totally normal. everyone keeps telling me that the first few weeks are the hardest, and then it gets easier. hang in there. i'll bet in a few more weeks, you won't feel this way.

wife1014 · November 2010

I am right there wih you...I never felt like this with #1, but when you have a baby who isn't easy, it sucks. #1 was amazing...she was always happy, soothed herself instantly, STTN at 7 wks old. Perfect baby! #2...oy vey. I am spent. I hate this phase and cannot wait til it's over. This sucks. I desperately want our old (family) life back and long for the day when it all becomes worth it.

Now, I'll get over myself Wink

wife1014 · November 2010

I am right there wih you...I never felt like this with #1, but when you have a baby who isn't easy, it sucks. #1 was amazing...she was always happy, soothed herself instantly, STTN at 7 wks old. Perfect baby! #2...oy vey. I am spent. I hate this phase and cannot wait til it's over. This sucks. I desperately want our old (family) life back and long for the day when it all becomes worth it.

Now, I'll get over myself Wink

monkiem · November 2010

mom2hay:
NillaWafers:
MrsLidiak:
Get over yourself.

Wow 6 posts....you could try to troll a little less obviously...

I feel the same way too at times...things get better though!
I didn't even notice the post count. I really hope it is a troll and a real woman would not say this to someone who is going through this.

I honestly could care less about how many posts she has. I would say it to anyone who said something that reeked of so much insensitivity. At least OP has a living, breathing child in her arms.

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RikaNTim05 · November 2010

I had many of the same thoughts and feelings when my son was born. He was a colicky /miserable baby. Everyone told me it would get better but I wasn't so sure. I thought my life would be like that forever. It wasn't. It did get better. A LOT better and it will for u too. Around 4 months he was a much better happier baby. Now he is 2 and the light of my life and I wish he was a baby again! Hang in there! The first few months are all about survival. Before you know it you'll be through them and onto better days!

mommabear85 · November 2010

it will get better. Hang in there. Remember you are not alone in them feels. I get my stuff done when i know he will sleep for 1 hour or more. **Blessings**

Obonka · November 2010

I went through that. I got over it last night while rocking her to bed. I ran out of things to sing to her so I just starting singing things I wanted to tell her. It made the fact that by bangs look like garbage pointless.

drewiekc · November 2010

Like everyone has said, it does get easier. The first month or so was not fun at all. I dont know that I really expected it to be "fun", I mean I knew it would be hard, but NOTHING can compare you for how utterly exhausting and thankless it is. There was more than one day that I called DH at work in tears because I was just so tired and DD was crying and hadnt napped all day. Once she started to build some semblance of a routine (even though it didnt necessarily involve sleeping at night) I started feeling better. And once she started smiling at me, really smiling AT me and not just those random grins you get the first few weeks, man, my heart just melted and it made it all worth it. Hang in there, you will start feeling better and enjoying this whole motherhood thing!

CinemaGoddess · November 2010

I feel your pain.

J+MS · November 2010

As I do not have a baby who has colic, I can't say I understand. But I will say this, it will probably help you to get a different attitude. You and your husband made this child, she is your responsibility..she can't help that she is sick. Change your way of thinking and try to be positive. This will come to an end.

LoveBeingAWife33008 · November 2010

I am in the same boat :-(

acesup · November 2010

Thank you for letting me know that I am not alone. That said- to those who were rude... I am extremely thankful to have my baby and as I said in my post I love her more than anything. I said that AT THAT MINUTE I wanted my old life back. Sometimes when I am overtired and exhausted and I can't calm her I feel like a horrible mother and I miss my old life. I'm sorry- that does not make me a bad person because for a very short time while I couldn't soothe my baby I became frustrated and upset. I am grateful to have her and would t change it for the world-

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