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What do you call your IL's?

BrandiebabeBrandiebabe
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I just got off the phone with SIL (DH's brothers wife) and she was called our IL's Mom and Dad. I was speechless at first, then asked, "what did you call them?" Her and BIL have only been married for less than a year and this is only her second time to visit the IL's. I just found it funny and wanted to get some feedback, maybe I am the weird one who does not do this.
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  • thediarywithinthediarywithin member
    I call my ILs Mom and Dad at times and sometimes their names.
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  • Erin1010SkyErin1010Sky member
    My IL's are Mom and Dad to me...but we visit multiple times a week and have a standing Sunday night dinner at their house.
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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    I know plenty of people who do call their ILs "mom and dad," so I don't think it's weird that your SIL did so. I don't think it matters how long they've been married, if that's what she wants to call them.

    Personally, I call them mine by their first names, as that's just my comfort level. I'm quite close with them, but it just feels more natural to me.

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  • RachieTKRachieTK member
    I call them by first name.  When we write cards to them, we write "mom" and "dad" because it's from both of them.  When they talk about DH and I, they refer to us as their kids and FIL has more than once mentioned that I'm his daughter and not an in-law.
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  • LadyXaverianLadyXaverian member

    imagediscobelle:
    I call them by their first names.  I already have a Mom and Dad.  :)

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  • erbearerbear member

    First names.

    It's weird though. DH and I started dating when we were 15, so they were Mr. and Mrs. X for a long time, but when we got married, they asked me to call them by first names.

    I'd never call anyone but my own parents Mom and Dad.

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  • hmonttyhmontty member
    Mostly Mom and Dad, but very rarely their names.
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  • MolluskwranglerMolluskwrangler member
    My SIL calls our ILs mom and dad, I call them by their names.  She has been married to my Hs brother for a lot longer then we have been and I'm just not comfortable with it, it feels awkward to me.
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  • BrandiebabeBrandiebabe
    The thing I found funny, was that she was referring to them as Mom and Dad to me. I do not call them that, and she knows that. She can call them what ever she wants, I agree with that.
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  • tiesqtiesq
    Nana and Grandpa, because that's what DD calls them.  Before she was born I called them by their first names. 
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  • BrandiebabeBrandiebabe

    imageLovingBaz:
    My SIL calls our ILs mom and dad, I call them by their names.  She has been married to my Hs brother for a lot longer then we have been and I'm just not comfortable with it, it feels awkward to me.

    DH and I have been married for 7 years, and I was surprised how fast she felt comfortable with calling them Mom and Dad. To each their own, I guess.

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  • sparkymcgeeesparkymcgeee member
    Always their names. I have a mother and a father.


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  • tamarninatamarnina member
    My husband and I each call our in-laws by their first names. I don't think calling them Mom and Dad is really weird, I just never have.
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  • corinneoestreichcorinneoestreich
    I didn't meet my inlaws until after DH and I got married, and for me they were so kind and welcoming I had no problem calling them Mom and Dad right off the bat. Plus I grew up hearing my parents call their inlaws mom and dad so it was kind of something I expected.
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  • *Scuzzlebutt**Scuzzlebutt* member
    I only call them by their first names.  My SILs call them Mom & Dad.
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  • ams8099ams8099 member
    Mostly by name, sometimes mom and dad.
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  • AmyfromMIAmyfromMI member

    imagediscobelle:
    I call them by their first names.  I already have a Mom and Dad.  :)

    This exactly; I am very close to my parent's and I feel sort of like I'm disrespecting them by calling someone else Mom and Dad.

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  • katlizabethkatlizabeth member
    When I address them directly, I call them Peter and Marilyn.  Most of the time, if I'm talking about them, I'll call them Grandma and Grandpa (ds is always around).
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  • gymnst1013gymnst1013 member
    I call FIL Joe.
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  • StellarStina26StellarStina26
    I call them by their first names... actually all of us kid in laws call them by their first names.
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  • mishu917mishu917 member
    I call them by their names, I could never give them the Mom and Dad title as they are so different from my parents and this would totally weird me out.
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  • jtenebackjteneback member
    I call them by their first names, and I have known them over 5 years.
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  • jodyrmjodyrm member
    I call them both by their first names, but sometimes I call my MIL 'mama' because we're extremely close and and she refers to herself as my 'mama number two'.
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  • LynsiBHMLynsiBHM

    I call them Momma ____ and Poppa_____ (their last name)

    I used to call them Mr & Mrs ____ out of habit (I was raised to call my friends parents Mr & Mrs) but then as hubby and I got more serious, and then married, they became Momma and Poppa.  I don't think I could call them Mom & Dad to their face, since that's what I call my parents, however I do refer to them that way to my hubby. Like if he gets of the phone with them, i'll say "what are mom & dad up to?"

    When the baby is here I will probably start calling them Nana & Papa as that's what he will call them.

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  • MandusMaximusMandusMaximus
    I call her by her first name and always refer to her as "your mother" usually in an annoyed tone...
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  • nici84nici84 member
    Im not married (yet), but my mom calls my grandparents by their first names, and my mom and stepdad have been married for 13yrs. lol
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  • meghanchrisazmeghanchrisaz member
    I call them by their first names.  If I'm writing a birthday card, gift tag or whatever from the both of us, I'll write "Mom/Dad".  But, that is the ONLY time I call them that.  DH calls my parents by their first names too.
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  • FemmeNat01FemmeNat01 member
    By their first names. We're extremely close but I would feel weird calling them mom/dad.
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  • tistampsuptistampsup member
    A bad time...Oh wait to their faces...just by their name.  I couldn't imagine calling them mom and dad with the way our relationship works. 
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  • sweetpea18sweetpea18 member

    A pain in my a$$.  I kid (sort of).  I call her by her first name, unless dd is with, Then I call her grandma. 

    Dh's dad passed away before we met, but I'm sure I would call him by his first name.  Dh calls my parents by their first names. 

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  • Ivana_StolichnayaIvana_Stolichnaya member
    By their first names.  Mom and Dad are reserved for the two people who raised me.
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  • SweetBaby2004SweetBaby2004
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    I know plenty of people who do call their ILs "mom and dad," so I don't think it's weird that your SIL did so. I don't think it matters how long they've been married, if that's what she wants to call them.

    Personally, I call them mine by their first names, as that's just my comfort level. I'm quite close with them, but it just feels more natural to me.

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  • Phil&CorinnaPhil&Corinna member
    90% of the time, by their first names - 5% Mom and Dad (we're very close) and the other 5% when SS is here, Grandma and Grandpa.  Depends on the situation, I suppose!!
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  • luvdv8luvdv8 member
    To their faces? First names. I have a mom and dad. I sometimes refer to them as Nana and Granddad, since that's what DD knows them as. At home though they are referred to as "your parents" (in a snarky tone) with DH.
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  • perplexed59perplexed59
    I call them  by their first names. I don't even call my step dad "dad" I refer to him by his first name. He has been my step dad for 25 years and is definetly the one who is most like a dad in my life.
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  • MegZRNMegZRN member

    imagediscobelle:
    I call them by their first names.  I already have a Mom and Dad.  :)

    Exactly! My MIL wants me to call her "mom" but I just can't bring myself to do it...  

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  • CarrieB.CarrieB. member
    I call my ILs by their first names. They are not my parents. 
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  • SugarChick10SugarChick10

    I call my IL's mom & dad.  When DH & I were dating I called them Mr. & Mrs. LastName, and I was most comfortable with that.  When DH & I got got engaged, his mom told me to call them mom & dad, but only if I was comfortable with it.  I am, so I do.

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  • MissLadyTayMissLadyTay member
    Mom & Dad.  I started calling them that on our wedding day.  They indicated that they would be honored if I called them that.  Their son-in-law (their only other child-in-law) calls them by their first names.  But they are practically like parents to me, so it feels very comfortable.  It was weird the first few times, but I got through it.  :)
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  • m0132m0132
    I don't ever call them mom and dad when I am talking to them but I write it when I am filling out card or something of course since it would be from DH also.  I just call them by their first names..If FIL is telling me something about MIL or vice versa they say mom or dad though.  I'm pretty close with them but my mom would die if I called MIL mom lol.
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