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FishNchips1
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4-7-11 - Natural MC @ 4w5d 6-27-11- MC @ 5w6dPgAL/PAL WelcomeDD#1- 8/20/2010DD#2- 6/21/2012EDD #3~ 5/1/2014 ~ Team Green
Did anyone plan 2U2 or 2U1?
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I have baby fever like crazy! I want another baby so bad but I always get comments from my family (when they found out i had baby fever ) that So close in age its really hard blah blah blah.. I would LOVE another baby now! ahhh!
Anyone plan this out? Whats your advice when I get those comments ( or if I get pregnant how to deal with them )
Oh and was your DH on board with you?
And I totally love lurking your board lol!
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Re: Did anyone plan 2U2 or 2U1?
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It took us sooooo long to get pregnant with DD (and so many medical interventions) that we started trying once we passed out 6 week postpartum checkup. It didn't work out until DD was 10 months, but yes, we decided we'd rather have them close together than several IF filled years apart (or no second one at all).
DH was very much so on board. I don't think you can consciously try for 2u2 without both parties being up for it- 2u2 is really a 2 parent job and I believe you both have to be willing to step up to the challenge.
Ours was planned. I wanted my kids close together. DH also wanted them close together, so he was on board.
I wouldnt worry about what other people say, they dont have to raise the kids...you do! So I say do whatever you and your DH want. Better to have your hands full than empty.
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I love having 2u2 (they are 16.5 months apart)!! Sure, there are hard times but there are many more wonderful times.
Haha, I had MAJOR baby fever about 2 weeks post partum, too. Once I realized the mini-pill was killing my milk supply, I said to hell with it and stopped taking it. I think in the back of my mind I was hoping for a bfp. Well, I stopped bf'ing after I returned to work and never started taking any other form of bc. What do you know...a bfp! It wasn't exactly planned, but we didn't do anything to prevent it, either.
I did plan on getting on bc after this month though, since I just got a new job. That's obviously not happening! I don't look forward to telling them I'm pregnant in 8 weeks...but it is what it is.
We planned 2U2 due to age. I wouldn't have wanted them 2U1 because an easy baby at 3 months doesn't give you a good indication of what an active and fussy 12 month old is like and adding a newborn to that was not my cup of tea.
I think we timed it well. Ds was 14 months when we got pregnant. As far as hard, yes it's harder than having one, but not as hard as I thought it was going to be. Again, I have a mobile and more independent 2 year old. I wouldn't want to be dealing with carrying a crawling/barely walking 1 year old and a newborn.
We didn't plan on having 2U1, but that's how it worked out.
Adding a second child isn't easy whenever you do it. I'll be 100% honest: being pregnant and schlepping an infant at the same time is tough. Having a newborn and a one-year-old is REALLY tough. Getting through that first year was an exercise in stamina and patience for both me and DH.
But...I look at DH's sister and BIL, whose kids are six years apart, and that doesn't look any easier to me. My kids like the same toys, they nap at the same time, they go to bed at the same time, they play well together, they have the same friends, et cetera. Our niece and nephew aren't into the same things at all. It drives Nephew crazy when Niece gets into his toys. Niece gets toted around to lots of Nephew's events. Their sleep schedules were and are really different, so that's a tough balancing act.
At the end of the day, other people's comments and opinions aren't that important. It's not their life!
Yes we did both times. DD#1 and DS are 19 months apart. DD#2 and baby #4 are going to be 15 1/2 months apart.
We would have loved to have #3 sooner than we did, but I suffered with secondary infertility due to an unknown thyroid condition (that has recently been diagnosed/treated) so it did not happen as soon as we had hoped.
We were planning to start TTC at 6months so we would have been 2u2, DH wants a large family too so his idea was the sooner the better (also it got him laid).
2u1 was not planned but very welcome
BFP #2 11/30/09 EDD 08/12/10- Sophia Grace born 8/1/10
BFP #3 11/16/10 EDD 08/04/11- Samuel Richard born 7/28/11
BFP #4 01/04/12 EDD 09/19/12- Simon Nathaniel born 9/6/12
BFP #5 03/27/13 EDD 11/25/13- Savannah Lee born 11/18/13
We planned our 2u2. We were initially planning on a 16 month age gap, but things happened a little earlier for us so we're looking at about a 13 month gap (LO #2 will come a week before DS turns 13m). We planned on having kids close together even before DS was even conceived for lots of reasons-getting the newborn/toddler stages out of the way, overall less time in diapers, made better sense financially long term since I'm not working full time, etc.
So far, I have loved this gap. Pregnancy during this time has been really good. DS didnt start crawling until after my 1st tri, so when I was feeling exhausted I got to rest a ton. DS is still napping 2-3 times a day, so I get a lot of rest, have tons of energy to chase him, and am feeling great, even as I'm getting closer to the end. I only have 6 weeks until my c-section, so even if the last few weeks are hard between being uncomfortable/taking care of DS I'm grateful to have gotten through the bulk of this pregnancy so easily.
Everyone seems to think that having 2 that are younger is more difficult, but I think having older kids is more challenging! I would think taking care of an older toddler and being pregnant/having a newborn would be even harder. Seeing a friend of mine try to survive pregnancy/having a newborn with a 3.5 year old that needs a lot of attention, is throwing tantrums and acting out because of the new baby, etc. seems much tougher than what I'm facing! Taking care of my almost 12m old is still a breeze. Even though he's mobile and I'm constantly chasing him, he's feeding himself, still plays independently with his toys really well, has not gotten to the age where he throws tantrums yet, etc. I hear the 15-16 month stage starts getting tough so hopefully by that point I wont have a brand new baby anymore and will be (somewhat) getting used to our new life. I'm fully aware there will be tough moments when DD gets here, but there will be with any age gap.
I tell DH all the time that I wish we tried a few months earlier because this stage is still so easy for us! I think in a perfect world they would have been 11 months apart and it would be nice to be in the middle of an easier stage with a newborn. I know, I'm crazy!
There are a lot of things to consider, so I wouldnt make this decision solely because you have baby fever. You need to sit down with DH, go over the pros and cons, and have a plan as to what works best for you and your family.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
DH comes from a large family with lots of children so his family has always encouraged us to have several children as close together as possible. My parents have always encouraged us to wait, however, since DD can be a bit of a handful and they think it will be too difficult to add another child into the mix. Just do what you feel is best for your family and don't give much weight to what other's opinions are.
We had planned on trying for #2 around my DD's first birthday through an FET cycle. If we had done that, we would have been trying for them to be about 21 months apart.
Instead, we were happily surprised with a "natural" (non fertility treatment - I realize all pregnancies are technically natural) pregnancy in March and they are 16 months apart.
So far we are exhausted but having fun and feel extremely blessed. I feel lucky I will be able to watch them grow up together
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Mine our 18 months apart to the day:) Ours were planned, in fact if we would have gotten pregnant right away with #2 they would have been 15 months apart. We plan to do 2u2 again:)