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I need an extra hand... and my husband back home. vent.

mollylilamollylila member
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I had been doing VERY well so far, and tonight... I just feel broken down. My DH deployed before LO was born, and I just need a break. My mom watches her for a few hours one night a week, but other than that... I'm on duty 24/7.I moved in with my dad so I don't live alone, but I cannot leave DD with him or even just hand her over for a few minutes. Almost without fail, she screams for him.

 

On top of that, DD is being THE fussiest eater, and after about a month of this behavior, I still haven't figured out what the problem is (I have consulted with the pedi, LC, bumpies... no answers). Right now, I just feel like I can't even feed my baby and I feel so overwhelmed. I thought I was free and clear of any PPD but tonight I kind of feel like I am drowning... its always the worst after I see a friend with a baby AND husband at home. That happened tonight, and I just want my husband home. I have been doing this on my own for two months now and should be used to it by now, but I just need a break. 

 

 

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Re: I need an extra hand... and my husband back home. vent.

  • ehsgurl44ehsgurl44

    I couldn't imagine doing it all alone. Its the hardest thing I have ever done. The first few nights I think I would have lost my mind with my DD's dad. 

    I would say your doing a great job. Missing your H and basically being a single mom is a rough job. I can only imagine how hard it is and I bet your doing a way better job then your giving yourself credit for. 

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  • PNWmommyPNWmommy member
    I can relate... Dh deployed a couple months before our L Was born & he has yet to meet her. He is on a sub. Anyways, I'm on my own too, so just wanted you to know that there are others out there thay are in the same boat. Lets just hope & pray that our men make it home safe asap!! :) we could use some relief (& a damn neck rub)...

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  • mollylilamollylila member

    imagetamberlee:
    Lets just hope & pray that our men make it home safe asap!! :) we could use some relief (& a damn neck rub)...

    xoxo

     

    so true!! 

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  • Chick7806Chick7806 member
    imageehsgurl44:

    I couldn't imagine doing it all alone. Its the hardest thing I have ever done. The first few nights I think I would have lost my mind with my DD's dad. 

    I would say your doing a great job. Missing your H and basically being a single mom is a rough job. I can only imagine how hard it is and I bet your doing a way better job then your giving yourself credit for. 

    This. I can see how you'd be feeling overwhelmed. I don't really have any advice, but I commend you for being an awesome mommy who is making the most of a rough situation. 

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  • saturdaynightdoubletreesaturdaynightdoubletree member

    Have any friends or family that could come over for a day/night to help out? Sounds like getting out of the house without LO, or even a night home without being on mommy duty could help you out. DH is also military, and I can't imagine him being deployed while I was on my own for two months with a newborn... he works 6pm-6am and I still feel like I'm drowning when I'm up in the middle of the night with one kid, or sometimes both. Another thought would be hiring a mother's helper for a week to help out. Good luck and hang in there ::hugs::

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  • mollylilamollylila member
    Thanks for all the advice and encouragement! 
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  • SarahWaggySarahWaggy
    I totally feel you right now. My husband deployed two weeks ago and I am losing my mind. I am lucky enough to have my best friend/son's godmother living with me currently, but she works and I have my 2 month old who only wants to be held and is cluster feeding like none other right now, a hyperactive puppy who terrorizes all she comes in contact with, and two very needy cats to watch over. I am massively missing my husband right now also. And his help.
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