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Anyone else feel this way - be honest!

kimikins79kimikins79 member
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Jealous as all heck at people who don't even try to get pg, but are?  People who are totally not settled and ready to be a parent, but get pg?  People who have no idea how their body works, but get pg?  People who cant really afford to have another child, but are now pg?

I know it's thanksgiving, and I have TONS to be thankful for, but I am getting ready to head out and started thinking, wondering when it will be our turn, if it'll happen, how long it'll take.  See, I am a control freak, and I am so frustrated by the fact that I can't control my body!  Then I get jealous at people for whom this process seems so darn easy! 

 Good luck to all, I am excited for everyone who is pg, but it is just hard sometimes, and I've only been trying for 3 months!

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  • tandb2010tandb2010 member
    I do for sure.  I am happy for the my friends and and family that are having LO's 'cause then I get to play.  But I work in a kids shoe store and it really sucks to see the teen moms in there getting their LO's shoes.  It's even worse when I have to call the cops cause I found out that mom is trying to steal shoes for her LO. 
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  • pinkflipflops44pinkflipflops44 member
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     Good luck to all, I am excited for everyone who is pg, but it is just hard sometimes, and I've only been trying for 3 months!

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  • mchupiemchupie member

    The control thing was really hard for me, too.  That's why I loved charting so much...while I couldn't actually control my body, at least I knew and understood what it was doing.

    Keep in mind that it can take a perfectly healthy couple up to a year to conceive, and that's normal.  I know it's easier said than done, but try not to get stressed and jealous after only 3 months.  It will only make things more difficult for you if it does end up taking a while.  Hopefully it won't, though, GL!

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  • Dman85Dman85 member
    I know how you feel. I've been trying for 3 months also and the earliest it would happen according to my doctor is at 7. I'm not jealous, I just think people take for granted things that come easy to them.
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  • JuneButterfly85JuneButterfly85

    Yes, its frustrating.  I try not to feel like "I deserve to be a mommy more"...but I can't help it.

    The little boy I babysit...his mom is back AGAIN with her stupid abusive boyfriend.  She says she doesn't deserve any better anyway.  WTF!  Then just stay single!  You have a LO to worry about.

    It breaks my heart because this little boy keeps saying "I want you to be my mommy, okay?"  DH and I have always said how much we'd love to adopt him, but we've NEVER said this anywhere near him.  So I have no idea where this is coming from.  He just hugs me and tells me he loves me...where his mom has to basically force it out of him.  It makes me sad.  I would love to be his mommy =( 

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  • christy619christy619 member
    I understand your feelings too.  DH has 3 nieces and nephews, all unplanned and in not very stable environments.  I just want to adopt them all!  I'm dreading the "Are you guys trying?" questions that will surely be coming today.  But I'm going to try not to dwell on it too much because we do have so much to be thankful for.  It's hard not to focus on the one thing that you want so badly when others around you are taking it for granted.  I just don't want to take all the things that I already have for granted either!
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  • dieselsmommadieselsmomma
    Yesterday was CD1 so I definitely am I feeling those feelings today. I hate that I feel this way. I'm just trying to keep in mind that for the most part I do not know what it took or how long it took for those people to get pregnant so I can't jump to conclusions.

    And I'd have to agree with Christy, and I'm thankful that this way so when I get my bfp I won't take it for granted :)
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  • WeWearCombatBootsWeWearCombatBoots
    Definitely feel the same way. It doesn't seem fair at all, those people that have one night stands and just do it once and end up pregnant.I also get p.o-ed at all the time and effort and money I put into trying NOT to get pregnant and it turns out I probably didn't have to do that!
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  • brandyleighxxbrandyleighxx member

    Well I'm the 2nd oldest cousin of 5 girls and only 1 of 2 that do not have children.

    Oldest cousin got knocked up & married at 16. She had her 2nd around 19 or 20 and her last around 22ish? She didn't plan any of them and is no longer with their father (3 kids, 2 dads). Luckily she has a wonderful husband now and has made a great life for herself.

    Now, 2 of 3 youngest cousins each have kids. 1 cousin (age 25) has 2 boys but is no longer with father, didn't finish college, isn't working right now, and lives with our grandparents.

    Other cousin (age 22) has 1 girl and 1 on the way. Again, didn't plan either pregnancy and no longer with either fathers, also didn't finish school and has a part-time dead end job.

    My brother.. 29 and lives at home & didn't finish high school.. he has twin girls and no longer with the mother (her choice, not his).

    Now, me.. I'm 26 years old. I've been with DH for 6 years, married for 1. We both have good careers and trying to buy our first home. Are we pregnant? Nope!

     It seems when you do things the right way... college, career, marriage, home... you have difficulty TTC when ready.

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  • bandwife928bandwife928 member
    imagemchupie:

    The control thing was really hard for me, too.  That's why I loved charting so much...while I couldn't actually control my body, at least I knew and understood what it was doing.

    Keep in mind that it can take a perfectly healthy couple up to a year to conceive, and that's normal.  I know it's easier said than done, but try not to get stressed and jealous after only 3 months.  It will only make things more difficult for you if it does end up taking a while.  Hopefully it won't, though, GL!

    Hi mchup!  I've missed your answers so much!  I can't believe you're 33 weeks pregnant.  Time flies!  Good Luck!

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  • mchupiemchupie member
    imagebandwife928:
    imagemchupie:

    The control thing was really hard for me, too.  That's why I loved charting so much...while I couldn't actually control my body, at least I knew and understood what it was doing.

    Keep in mind that it can take a perfectly healthy couple up to a year to conceive, and that's normal.  I know it's easier said than done, but try not to get stressed and jealous after only 3 months.  It will only make things more difficult for you if it does end up taking a while.  Hopefully it won't, though, GL!

    Hi mchup!  I've missed your answers so much!  I can't believe you're 33 weeks pregnant.  Time flies!  Good Luck!

    Hey there!!  Thanks so much, it's good to see you :) 

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