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SmlTownGirl87
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TTC Journey:
Me: Dx stage I endometriosis DH: minimal MFI - 3% morph
IUI #1 - cycle converted to IVF #1 due overproduction of follies.
BFP - m/c
IVF #2 (finally) - Lupron + FSH + Ovidrel + Crinone = 10 eggs retrieved, Two grade A embryos transferred, 3 frosties!
BFP - Beta #1 39.4 Beta #2 22 = c/p
FET #1
And it starts......
SmlTownGirl87
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I know we have only been trying 5 months. But I have this huge fear that I am infertile because I have endo (I know, I know.. ridiculous at this point, but I can't help it). So last year at this time I thought that I would be pregnant by now. So I told DH that I was a little sad and that I wasn't really looking forward to going to the fams for thanksgiving because of my recent diagnosis and nothing in my family is secret. I just don't really want to talk about it. I am sorry if I am being a bit "sensitive." But after I told DH I was sad he says, "what? every holiday that comes around you are going to be sad because you aren't pregnant yet?" Who the F says that? I am so pissed. I don't care if I am being f'ing sensitive.
And the a$$hole award for the day goes to............ SmlTownBoy87!
TTC Journey:
Me: Dx stage I endometriosis DH: minimal MFI - 3% morph
IUI #1 - cycle converted to IVF #1 due overproduction of follies.
BFP - m/c
IVF #2 (finally) - Lupron + FSH + Ovidrel + Crinone = 10 eggs retrieved, Two grade A embryos transferred, 3 frosties!
BFP - Beta #1 39.4 Beta #2 22 = c/p
FET #1
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Re: And it starts......
:::Hugs:::
Sometimes they don't understand, but then others they really surprise you and you realize they do get it.
Today was just an off day for STBoy!
Sorry about that. Boys need a swat sometimes. DH asked me the other night if I was putting on baby weight and hadn't told him about a + pee test? REALLY!!!!!
Maybe we can all get together and beat them with pool noodles for a bit hehe
Hugs to those who want them
It almost sounds like maybe he's upset that you arn't pregnant too..and he can't really process the emotion.
I'd just call him out on it, say that was really hurtful.
Sorry, SmlTown. I understand why you are sad. I also understand the anxiety about have to discuss everything at Thanksgiving. Nothing in my family is a secret either.
I couldn't help but laugh at you naming your H, SmlTownBoy87!
I hope that today isn't as painful as you anticipate. ((hugs))
He's not upset that I am not pregnant yet. He just wasn't thinking before he spoke. I already called him out. Thanks.
TTC Journey:
Me: Dx stage I endometriosis DH: minimal MFI - 3% morph
IUI #1 - cycle converted to IVF #1 due overproduction of follies.
BFP - m/c
IVF #2 (finally) - Lupron + FSH + Ovidrel + Crinone = 10 eggs retrieved, Two grade A embryos transferred, 3 frosties!
BFP - Beta #1 39.4 Beta #2 22 = c/p
FET #1
Sorry STG
I know the fear you are feeling, but I admit I don't have the experience to relate to your dread of the family gathering. I can imagine, though, based on past family gatherings with my dad's psycho family (whom my sister and I both cut off about 8 years ago).
Your DH could have been more sensitive and understanding. I can totally see why you were hurt by his comment. But try to see his side, too. Yes, he was a douche for saying that so abruptly and insensitively, but aside from that he does have a point. Hopefully, you'll have a BFP by Christmas, but if you don't...it's not good for anybody, including you, to let all those negative feelings ruin what should be a fun time with family. Somehow, try to remind yourself of the joy you should and can still be able to feel at all the good things you have in life right now.
I know that's a hel7 of a lot easier said than done, and I definitely struggle with this, too. Hopefully, you won't have to worry about this for much longer because you'll get that BFP soon. But if you have a few months yet ahead of you, you can't let it take over your life.
I think I can safely say that so many of us have felt the despair you are feeling. But we have to find ways to keep a positive perspective and allow ourselves to enjoy the other things we are thankful for and lucky to have in life.
I truly hope you have a good Thanksgiving today with the family, however stressful it might be for you. Maybe prepare yourself with a few conversation stoppers in case the topic comes up. If asked, could you say something like "We'd like to focus on enjoying our time together today, and would rather not discuss that just yet." Or find ways to initiate conversation to focus on other members of the family.
Good luck, today! I'm sorry you're feeling down
ETA: holy crap, sorry for the novel
love you angie.. ((hugs)) we understand.. good luck today, you'll get through it!
I'm working tonight - i should be in chat tomorrow..
also.. men really don't think before they speak, ever. grrr men - must be a gene problem
anddd HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!
That sucks, Smalls, I'm sorry.
He sounds cranky, he better shape up or else!
Drink some wine today, enjoy the time with your family.
11/09- off BCP 08/10- TTC w/ charting
Dx- Stage 3 Endo, Septate Uterus
DH SA Normal (phew!)
06/11- Lap/HSC removed endo and resected septum
8/11-10/11 Femara + TI = BFN
Currently undergoing testing with RE, repeat HSC scheduled next cycle
On to IUI in Dec 2011
P/SAIFW
bfp 1 - m/c 1.31.11 @ 10 weeks
bfp 2 - baby born via c-section on 5.4.12 @ 37 weeks
bfp 3 - blighted ovum/d&c on 4.13.13 @ 8 weeks
bfp 4 - 3rd IUI, very late BFN with super low P, c/p
bfp 5 - natural bfp while on lupron, baby born via RCS on 4.27.15 @ 39 weeks
bfp 6 - surprise! baby born via RCS on 11.13.16 @ 38 weeks