What Issue Can You Just Not Let Go?

heatherlane · November 2010

I'm pretty laid-back an non-judgmental when it comes to the mom stuff.

I've watched enough moms in action to know that different things work for different people.

However, when someone (esp. another mom) thinks that Nursing in Public is inappropriate or gross, I just have to get into it. I cannot let that go. I feel like it will never become a societal norm when we still let people react that way.

I was told earlier this week that "you're not going to change anyone's opinions, so just let it go" but I just can't. I feel the need to educate people about their ignorance.

So what can you just not let slide?

kimthgrt · November 2010

On TB, people that flame those who have gotten pg unplanned. I got TONS of crap when I got pg with J.

the infamous ff vs bf debate.

ummmm....hmmm

those that say they let their __week old CIO. (I mean fresh out of the hospital young)

ToledoDeux · November 2010

Non-vaccinators. Bitches be crazy.

LittleMissParis · November 2010

Forward facing b/c LO turns 1, are bored being RF, their legs are too long for RF, b/c the parents think FF is a milestone to celebrate, etc. I feel like so few people know the benefits to extended RF and I try to educate them how much safer it is for LO to stay RF. I try not to be too too pushy but give them a brief overview of some of the benefits of extended RF and then advise them to google and youtube the topic for additional information and facts.

SCBride2007 · November 2010

fredalina:
CIO with newborns. NEVER going to think that's okay. Never ever ever ever!

This.

But also, NEEDing to drink around your LOs, especially if they are really young. on 9-12, when people would say, "Oh, man... I am afraid it'll look bad if I have a keg at my DD's 1st bday party... but it's a bar-b-que, so it's just a cookout, right? Right??"

If you can't go three hours without a beer, you shouldn't be at your LO's birthday party-- you should be at an AA meeting.

kittylove · November 2010

CIO when you still count a childs age in weeks rather than months. Really anything uner 6 months is to young for my taste but under 4 months and I can't keep myself from voicing my opinion.

BFing in public. They are boobs people, get over it!

jessicaclare · November 2010

ToledoDeux:
Non-vaccinators. Bitches be crazy.

I have noticed this about you, and I just have to say, I think its awesome Big Smile

The only thing I take real issue with is stupidity. That probably encompasses a lot of the things previously mentioned.

Kmills678 · November 2010

My pregnant sister in law who is high risk for pre-term Labor SMOKING WHO THE FVCK in this day in age dose that?!!

I haven't seen her at all during her pregnancy but i will see her tomorrow and I swear if I catch her I will loose my *** on her not that it will make any difference. She did tell me via email she "fingers crossed" hopes the high risk doc says she can be induced early December so she dosn't have a christmas baby.... She is due January 15th.

Edit** That turned into a rant i apologize id have to say i cant let go of people being selfish and Stupid!

Stellasmom · November 2010

Germophobia.

I can't stand the use of hand sanitizer, or people that freak if their kids eat something off of the floor, etc.

I feel like we're raising a generation of kids that aren't immune to the right things (pathogens) and their immune systems spazz over minor irritants (allergies).

We absolutely need to stop raising children in sterile environments.

Tara n Mike · November 2010

I can not stand when people let their sick children touch my child or my child's toys!!!! I think it is SO incredibly rude.

Scarlett has been sick all Fall...colds back to back so I am a little crazy about this. I can only hope she is building up some immunity.

ToledoDeux · November 2010

Stellasmom:
Germophobia.

I can't stand the use of hand sanitizer, or people that freak if their kids eat something off of the flor, etc.

I feel like we're raising a generation of kids that aren't immune to the right things (pathogens) and their immune systems spazz over minor irritants (allergies).

We absolutely need to stop raising children in sterile environments.

I'm certainly doing my part on this front.

heatherlane · November 2010

Stellasmom:
Germophobia.

I can't stand the use of hand sanitizer, or people that freak if their kids eat something off of the floor, etc.

I feel like we're raising a generation of kids that aren't immune to the right things (pathogens) and their immune systems spazz over minor irritants (allergies).

We absolutely need to stop raising children in sterile environments.

We are pretty middle of the road on this one. We used sanitizer when he was an infant (first 8-10 weeks) but we have never been Nazi about it. His fave thing to do now is eat the food he threw on the floor during his meal. I don't let him sit there and finish dinner, but I don't freak if he eats a couple of Cheerios, either.

sgrl · November 2010

CIO for little itty bitty babies.

Also people like the guy at my work who I don't even KNOW who told me that his wife quit work when their son was born b/c they didn't want "strangers raising their baby." Thanks dude . . . since I was just talking about my BABY and clearly I'm at WORK - guess I wanted strangers raising mine . . . crazies on the bump saying things like that don't bug me b/c they're usually just looking to start drama but IRL people saying *** like that drive me CRAZY.

heatherlane · November 2010

Kmills678:
My pregnant sister in law who is high risk for pre-term Labor SMOKING WHO THE FVCK in this day in age dose that?!!
I haven't seen her at all during her pregnancy but i will see her tomorrow and I swear if I catch her I will loose my *** on her not that it will make any difference. She did tell me via email she "fingers crossed" hopes the high risk doc says she can be induced early December so she dosn't have a christmas baby.... She is due January 15th.

Edit** That turned into a rant i apologize id have to say i cant let go of people being selfish and Stupid!

No need for edits. I have a cousin who smokes in the house. Both of her daughters have asthma. Trust me, the conversation has been had. I want to grab her by the throat and shake her.

I don't care if it's drama, if that was my SIL and I saw her smoke while pregnant, I would smack the cigarette right out of her mouth in front of everyone.

jessicaclare · November 2010

SCBride2007:
fredalina:
CIO with newborns. NEVER going to think that's okay. Never ever ever ever!
This.
But also, NEEDing to drink around your LOs, especially if they are really young. on 9-12, when people would say, "Oh, man... I am afraid it'll look bad if I have a keg at my DD's 1st bday party... but it's a bar-b-que, so it's just a cookout, right? Right??"
If you can't go three hours without a beer, you shouldn't be at your LO's birthday party-- you should be at an AA meeting.

So, even if your party is mostly adults, you can't serve them beer because its a kids birthday party? Frankly, I don't ever have a party where I don't serve beer or wine, at least (except, of course, when my DDs start having parties with just their friends). I don't really think that makes me or my family alcoholics because we like to have a beer with our burger

To each their own, I guess.

Tonya_G · November 2010

Agreed with the NIP...

Also, Pampers and how much they suck. lol

Kmills678 · November 2010

heatherlane:
Kmills678:
My pregnant sister in law who is high risk for pre-term Labor SMOKING WHO THE FVCK in this day in age dose that?!!
I haven't seen her at all during her pregnancy but i will see her tomorrow and I swear if I catch her I will loose my *** on her not that it will make any difference. She did tell me via email she "fingers crossed" hopes the high risk doc says she can be induced early December so she dosn't have a christmas baby.... She is due January 15th.

Edit** That turned into a rant i apologize id have to say i cant let go of people being selfish and Stupid!
No need for edits. I have a cousin who smokes in the house. Both of her daughters have asthma. Trust me, the conversation has been had. I want to grab her by the throat and shake her.
I don't care if it's drama, if that was my SIL and I saw her smoke while pregnant, I would smack the cigarette right out of her mouth in front of everyone.

Trust me if i catch her i wont be able help myself.

monlyn9 · November 2010

jessicaclare:
SCBride2007:
fredalina:
CIO with newborns. NEVER going to think that's okay. Never ever ever ever!
This.
But also, NEEDing to drink around your LOs, especially if they are really young. on 9-12, when people would say, "Oh, man... I am afraid it'll look bad if I have a keg at my DD's 1st bday party... but it's a bar-b-que, so it's just a cookout, right? Right??"
If you can't go three hours without a beer, you shouldn't be at your LO's birthday party-- you should be at an AA meeting.
So, even if your party is mostly adults, you can't serve them beer because its a kids birthday party? Frankly, I don't ever have a party where I don't serve beer or wine, at least (except, of course, when my DDs start having parties with just their friends). I don't really think that makes me or my family alcoholics because we like to have a beer with our burger
To each their own, I guess.

I don't understand what is wrong with drinking in front of LO. DH has a beer or two in the evening a couple times a week. I will as well when I am not PG. It's not uncommon for us to order a beer before dinner at a restaurant. I think it is more important for LO to see alcohol as something that can be enjoyed in a responsible manner.

*sallymad* · November 2010

Honestly not much, actually I can't think of anything off the top of my head.

(unless of course it's something that is putting the baby/child in danger, then I won't let it go....)

ToledoDeux · November 2010

Oh, and after reading a post on 3rd tri...

women who schedule an induction at 40 weeks on the fcuking dot, especially with a first baby. "No progress - wahhhhhh! I guess this baby doesn't want to come on its own!"

Uh, give it a minute. Trust that babies usually know more about themselves then your impatient OB does.

SCBride2007 · November 2010

monlyn9:
jessicaclare:
SCBride2007:
fredalina:
CIO with newborns. NEVER going to think that's okay. Never ever ever ever!
This.
But also, NEEDing to drink around your LOs, especially if they are really young. on 9-12, when people would say, "Oh, man... I am afraid it'll look bad if I have a keg at my DD's 1st bday party... but it's a bar-b-que, so it's just a cookout, right? Right??"
If you can't go three hours without a beer, you shouldn't be at your LO's birthday party-- you should be at an AA meeting.
So, even if your party is mostly adults, you can't serve them beer because its a kids birthday party? Frankly, I don't ever have a party where I don't serve beer or wine, at least (except, of course, when my DDs start having parties with just their friends). I don't really think that makes me or my family alcoholics because we like to have a beer with our burger
To each their own, I guess.
I don't understand what is wrong with drinking in front of LO. DH has a beer or two in the evening a couple times a week. I will as well when I am not PG. It's not uncommon for us to order a beer before dinner at a restaurant. I think it is more important for LO to see alcohol as something that can be enjoyed in a responsible manner.

Just to remind: this is my opinion.

I did not say that one cannot drink in front of their LO. What I am saying is that I think it is beyond ridiculous that people have to turn LO's 1st bday party into a beer party for adults. I've even seen posts where the LO's were put to bed and the party kept going for hours afterwards.

This OPINION stems from a lot of alcoholism in my family. ALL of the alcoholism in my immediate and extended family and my H's family all started off with, "it's just one beer..." in front of the LOs, then turned into my H's grandfather's liver actually exploding in front of him and my H having to watch him die.

I know this isn't the case for every single situation, and I'm not saying that having a beer will make you an alkie, but I feel like if you MUST drink, do you HAVE to do it while you are around several young children?

SCBride2007 · November 2010

monlyn9:
jessicaclare:
SCBride2007:
fredalina:
CIO with newborns. NEVER going to think that's okay. Never ever ever ever!
This.
But also, NEEDing to drink around your LOs, especially if they are really young. on 9-12, when people would say, "Oh, man... I am afraid it'll look bad if I have a keg at my DD's 1st bday party... but it's a bar-b-que, so it's just a cookout, right? Right??"
If you can't go three hours without a beer, you shouldn't be at your LO's birthday party-- you should be at an AA meeting.
So, even if your party is mostly adults, you can't serve them beer because its a kids birthday party? Frankly, I don't ever have a party where I don't serve beer or wine, at least (except, of course, when my DDs start having parties with just their friends). I don't really think that makes me or my family alcoholics because we like to have a beer with our burger
To each their own, I guess.
I don't understand what is wrong with drinking in front of LO. DH has a beer or two in the evening a couple times a week. I will as well when I am not PG. It's not uncommon for us to order a beer before dinner at a restaurant. I think it is more important for LO to see alcohol as something that can be enjoyed in a responsible manner.

Just to remind: this is my opinion.

I did not say that one cannot drink in front of their LO. What I am saying is that I think it is beyond ridiculous that people have to turn LO's 1st bday party into a beer party for adults. I've even seen posts where the LO's were put to bed and the party kept going for hours afterwards.

This OPINION stems from a lot of alcoholism in my family. ALL of the alcoholism in my immediate and extended family and my H's family all started off with, "it's just one beer..." in front of the LOs, then turned into my H's grandfather's liver actually exploding in front of him and my H having to watch him die.

I know this isn't the case for every single situation, and I'm not saying that having a beer will make you an alkie, but I feel like if you MUST drink, do you HAVE to do it while you are around several young children?

SCBride2007 · November 2010

monlyn9:
jessicaclare:
SCBride2007:
fredalina:
CIO with newborns. NEVER going to think that's okay. Never ever ever ever!
This.
But also, NEEDing to drink around your LOs, especially if they are really young. on 9-12, when people would say, "Oh, man... I am afraid it'll look bad if I have a keg at my DD's 1st bday party... but it's a bar-b-que, so it's just a cookout, right? Right??"
If you can't go three hours without a beer, you shouldn't be at your LO's birthday party-- you should be at an AA meeting.
So, even if your party is mostly adults, you can't serve them beer because its a kids birthday party? Frankly, I don't ever have a party where I don't serve beer or wine, at least (except, of course, when my DDs start having parties with just their friends). I don't really think that makes me or my family alcoholics because we like to have a beer with our burger
To each their own, I guess.
I don't understand what is wrong with drinking in front of LO. DH has a beer or two in the evening a couple times a week. I will as well when I am not PG. It's not uncommon for us to order a beer before dinner at a restaurant. I think it is more important for LO to see alcohol as something that can be enjoyed in a responsible manner.

Just to remind: this is my opinion.

I did not say that one cannot drink in front of their LO. What I am saying is that I think it is beyond ridiculous that people have to turn LO's 1st bday party into a beer party for adults. I've even seen posts where the LO's were put to bed and the party kept going for hours afterwards.

This OPINION stems from a lot of alcoholism in my family. ALL of the alcoholism in my immediate and extended family and my H's family all started off with, "it's just one beer..." in front of the LOs, then turned into my H's grandfather's liver actually exploding in front of him and my H having to watch him die.

I know this isn't the case for every single situation, and I'm not saying that having a beer will make you an alkie, but I feel like if you MUST drink, do you HAVE to do it while you are around several young children?

SCBride2007 · November 2010

Sorry, triple post. Blech.

jessicaclare · November 2010

SCBride2007:
Just to remind: this is my opinion.
I did not say that one cannot drink in front of their LO. What I am saying is that I think it is beyond ridiculous that people have to turn LO's 1st bday party into a beer party for adults. I've even seen posts where the LO's were put to bed and the party kept going for hours afterwards.
This OPINION stems from a lot of alcoholism in my family. ALL of the alcoholism in my immediate and extended family and my H's family all started off with, "it's just one beer..." in front of the LOs, then turned into my H's grandfather's liver actually exploding in front of him and my H having to watch him die.
I know this isn't the case for every single situation, and I'm not saying that having a beer will make you an alkie, but I feel like if you MUST drink, do you HAVE to do it while you are around several young children?

I'm cool with agreeing to disagree Stick out tongue

I get where you are coming from, I do. If there was that much alcholism in my family, I'd be hesitant to offer any alcohol at parties as well. I also think this is one of those things that varies by region. Where I'm from, its considered pretty strange to not offer beer or wine in addition to soda and other stuff at any party where most of the guests are adults, even if kids are present. I've NEVER seen any of my family or friends have too much in front of the kids, though. Most just have a beer or two.

SCBride2007 · November 2010

jessicaclare:
SCBride2007:
Just to remind: this is my opinion.
I did not say that one cannot drink in front of their LO. What I am saying is that I think it is beyond ridiculous that people have to turn LO's 1st bday party into a beer party for adults. I've even seen posts where the LO's were put to bed and the party kept going for hours afterwards.
This OPINION stems from a lot of alcoholism in my family. ALL of the alcoholism in my immediate and extended family and my H's family all started off with, "it's just one beer..." in front of the LOs, then turned into my H's grandfather's liver actually exploding in front of him and my H having to watch him die.
I know this isn't the case for every single situation, and I'm not saying that having a beer will make you an alkie, but I feel like if you MUST drink, do you HAVE to do it while you are around several young children?
I'm cool with agreeing to disagree
I get where you are coming from, I do. If there was that much alcholism in my family, I'd be hesitant to offer any alcohol at parties as well. I also think this is one of those things that varies by region. Where I'm from, its considered pretty strange to not offer beer or wine in addition to soda and other stuff at any party where most of the guests are adults, even if kids are present. I've NEVER seen any of my family or friends have too much in front of the kids, though. Most just have a beer or two.

I love it when people who disagree can live in harmony! I seriously need to go to bed, but just wanted to say that I love your DDs name!

hisaak · November 2010

Self-Righteous behaviour about personality-related traits.

For example, I have a few friends that die by the "every child can sleep through the night by 12 weeks" principle. Each has a child that sleeps wonderfully and they claim full credit.

I agree, there are good sleeping principles. However, some kids are hungry at night ... some just don't want to go that long without seeing momma. This doesn't mean they weren't "trained" right, their personalities just aren't condusive to sleeping like that from the start.

And I highly doubt these friends would take credit if their kid slept poorly

FerreraRocher · November 2010

It bothers me to no end that people feel a need to judge parents based on trivial things such as formula feeding vs. breastfeeding, cloth diapers or disposable, co-sleeping vs. in another room. What's the point?

Crying it out before 6 months really bothers me as well.

rebus82 · November 2010

People who think that not eating animal products - or not feeding them to a child - is somehow a crazy, unhealthy, and flat-out insane lifestyle choice. My son is healthier, and eats better, than most kids I hear about, but I'm the bad parent for raising him vegan. Riiiiight.

Now, I don't usually fight with parents about feeding kids meat, but it makes me livid when I see the "my kid won't eat meat, what can I do to force it on him/her because s/he needs protein/iron/whatever" posts. How about some beans, vegetables, and a basic understanding of nutrition? Ugh.

Lucky428 · November 2010

people who don't vaccinate or people who are against NIP

Squishycheeks* · November 2010

Negative opinions of nursing always get to me. It's not a sexual act to nurse your child, get over it.

Also, people who medicate their kids for everything. I'm very thankful for antibiotics and Tylenol when the situation calls for it, but I know a ton of people who go overboard. Scraped knee? How bout some Tylenol. Going on vacation? Better start the kids on antibiotics so they don't get an ear infection. I don't get this logic.

I also don't think it's wrong to question your doc. They aren't God, they're people and they are capable of making mistakes. It's not wrong to do some research on your own.

etude de la vie · November 2010

Squishycheeks*:
Negative opinions of nursing always get to me. It's not a sexual act to nurse your child, get over it.
Also, people who medicate their kids for everything. I'm very thankful for antibiotics and Tylenol when the situation calls for it, but I know a ton of people who go overboard. Scraped knee? How bout some Tylenol. Going on vacation? Better start the kids on antibiotics so they don't get an ear infection. I don't get this logic.
I also don't think it's wrong to question your doc. They aren't God, they're people and they are capable of making mistakes. It's not wrong to do some research on your own.

I agree 100% and also people who don't vaccinate baffle me! I do judge those people.

I think my Dr. respects me more because I have educated conversations with her and read the medical journals and discuss/question DD's (or my own) medical treatment. Both my OB and her ped spend lots of time and in great detail talking to me about topics. I never get rushed or pushed aside.

I need to go to bed....when is this apple pie going to finish!!

Tomkat8403 · November 2010

Mostly I can't stand the judgemental self-righteous behavior about other people's parenting. UNless they are doing something that physically puts their child in harm or is cruel, or they're breaking the law...let it go. You aren't the one in the situation.

CalinsBride · November 2010

CIO for newborns. I will just never believe that it is okay, and I think it is psychologically damaging. The early days are for bonding, not training. Your kid's a baby, not a dog. Argh.

RE: germophobia--people who have no idea how crappy it is to have a sick baby. Strangers coming up and touching someone else's newborn (WTF), people who KNOW that they or their children are sick and bring them to play groups anyway, people who let their kid slobber all over toys at a public place and don't bother to put them in the "mouth toys" bin, people who don't wash their hands before offering their child (or my child!!!) food. My kid was put on antibiotics and had a horrible ear infection and croup because of that B.S. Call it germophobia if you must, but it is a BASIC PRINCIPLE of SANITATION that before you cook or eat, you wash your damn hands. Gross.

monkeyqueen · November 2010

--- Breastfeeding versus formula feeding = it's all good. I hate those debates. I only judge when someone is openly judgemental about what someone else feeds their kids (I don't judge the feeder, I get annoyed at the judger - lol!)

--- Carseat safety. I will never understand the point of having a carseat at all if the person is not going to use it correctly.

--- Vaccines....just do it.

---- Oh, and correlation never equals causation.

Those are pretty much my bigs ones that I get annoyed about......

Chrysallys · November 2010

anti- NIP

CIO though I usually keep my mouth shut when it comes to an older child.

Chrysallys · November 2010

Stellasmom:

Germophobia.

I can't stand the use of hand sanitizer, or people that freak if their kids eat something off of the floor, etc.

I feel like we're raising a generation of kids that aren't immune to the right things (pathogens) and their immune systems spazz over minor irritants (allergies).

We absolutely need to stop raising children in sterile environments.

I agree. However, if your kid is snotty, don't bring them over to my house for a playdate so I have to lysol all my DS' toys.

erino&chrish · November 2010

People who think nursing is "weird". I have heard several moms saying they didn't BF because it was "weird". It's sad that our society has reduced nursing to something some women feel ashamed or weird about.

anarivera · November 2010

People who don't vaccine.

alybookgirl · November 2010

I guess mine would be how judgmental other parents are of different choices. Whether or not I do CIO, spank or do time outs, BF or FF, vax or not shouldn't be up for debate by ANYONE. I will never get over how anyone feels that it is their prerogative to judge another parent's decisions for their children. I watch a baby 3 days a week and her mother does everything different or opposite from the way I raise DD. I don't care. It is her child. I honor her parenting wishes when I watch her. I would never impress my parenting style on her. I don't even think about it. It is so weird to me that other people care how other children are raised/disciplined/fed/medicated, etc. I will never understand.

Sage Mommy · November 2010

Pedi's giving parenting advice irritates me beyond belief.

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