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Anyone's ex live flying distance away?
I know that at least tifanico is in this situation...
My ex is probably moving to Denver next spring. He wants to have visits with Caro once a month and wants me to fly her out there for every other visit. (This would be in addition to every other holiday and several weeks in the summer.) I feel like this is a little excessive, especially considering her age, the distance, and the cost of plane tickets. And just considering the fact that HE is the one moving that far from his child's home, I kind of feel like the responsibility to have visits should mostly fall on him, rather than me, who is staying put... However, just to be fair, I should say that it's unlikely he will find a job anywhere else since job openings in his field are very VERY limited, so he doesn't have much of a choice as far as moving goes.
What's your visitation schedule like if your ex lives that far away, and how do you split transportation costs? And who flies with LO, and how often?
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Re: Anyone's ex live flying distance away?
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I see why you would say that, but I just feel kind of bad about making him take on 100% of the cost, considering the fact that he doesn't have much choice about moving and I will make twice as much money as he will, if not more.
Aww, thanks! I love the name Natalie, actually, it was one of our name choices too.
that is totally understandable for you to feel that way, but then you can't say things like " I kind of feel like the responsibility to have visits should mostly fall on him, rather than me, who is staying put... "
In my bag
d90
50mm f/1.2 * 28-85mm (Macro) f/3.5-4.5 * 70-300mm f/3.5-4.5
Opteka Fisheye Adapter * Lightscoop
I am in the same situation. We lived in Georgia, he moved to Utah a couple months ago. We are still figuring out visitation because he wants Andrew to fly out there as soon as he can a year from now for next Thanksgiving and he doesn't want me there. Ok....Andrew will be 18 months old so I have concerns about that. Once he is older it will be easier. Every months seems excessive to me for flying. Right now the plan we are looking at is alternating holidays and we are still figuring out summer plans and who will fly/who will pay. Sorry I can't help much right now but maybe I can share more once we get out plan figured out.
Ok good point. LOL. I guess I mean that it should be mostly his responsibility but not 100%... just wondering how others in this sort of situation handle things.
I think he should pay for flights/hotels ect. My EX moved away voluntarily and can't keep a job. I do not think the responsibility should fall on me to fly DS out there. Especially since I am supporting him on my salary alone. My lawyer said it will be any easy win for me. I work retail so I can not say I need one long weekend a month off to fly DS to Fl for visitation with his son.If Ex wants to see ds he can fly or drive on up.
Good luck
I don't.
However, I just wanted to tell you I used to read your blog often. I didn't realize YOU were YOU (if you kwim) until I saw your blog title. I recognized it. So sorry to hear of your divorce.