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Crying irrationally all day long

bananatiffbananatiff member
in July 2011 Moms
Finally, the morning of my first appointment is here:
 
The doctor's office called us as we were pulling into the driveway to tell us the doctor left for an emergency C-section. I was so upset we went into the office anyway and I begged to see a nurse or the other doctor. I was bawling my eyes out for 30 minutes sitting in their office. They let me talk to the nurse but not to the other doctor. It was the most infuriating moment of my life. They did nothing for me. They said they had to cancel other patients too but that maybe they would call back in the afternoon if she got back. So DH and I hung around that side of town for 2 hours then stopped back in. The doctor was back but wouldn't see us - but was seeing her other patients! I am so livid I can barely stand it. I have to go back Monday now, and DH can't be there, for the first ultrasound of our first pregnancy.

This feels like the worst Thanksgiving ever.  We wanted to hear good news before telling family, even parents don't know. I can't even talk about it anymore.  I know there are worse things in life, but what kind of doctor's office does this.  And this is the most highly recommended doctor so I don't have a lot of options.
 
Thanks for the ranting space. 
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  • ksulliksulli member
    Oh that's an awful morning! I'm so sorry. But hey, if you wind up being the lady needing a c-section, you'll be glad that he'll cancel everything and come. It's not much consolation for you right now. Could you re-schedule so that DH can make it?
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    How do you know you are having an ultrasound?  You are still pretty early.  My doctor doesn't do one until 20 weeks. 
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  • bananatiffbananatiff member

    imagekatie4253:
    How do you know you are having an ultrasound?  You are still pretty early.  My doctor doesn't do one until 20 weeks. 

     

    Because that is their policy.  And even so, all I have is no bleeding plus a + pregnancy test from 5 weeks ago to tell me I'm pregnant.

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  • snickergirlsnickergirl

    I actually think it is a good thing that the doctor is giving his attention to the mom that is in need of a c-section.. she kind of needs it and there isn't much they can really do at 7 weeks anyway.

    Try to relax, they'll get you in and you'll get your ultrasound!  Stressing over something you can't control is no good for you or your baby :)

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  • katie4253katie4253 member
    imagebananatiff:

    imagekatie4253:
    How do you know you are having an ultrasound?  You are still pretty early.  My doctor doesn't do one until 20 weeks. 

     

    Because that is their policy.  And even so, all I have is no bleeding plus a + pregnancy test from 5 weeks ago to tell me I'm pregnant.

    Well in that case, I think I'd just be excited that you get an u/s so early.  Lots of doctors don't do early u/s.  If you are still not bleeding and you had a positive pregnancy test, then you are pregnant.  Not sure why you'd question that.  I agree with the other ladies.  I think it is very good that your doctor spent time with the c-section mama.  You'd want them to do that for you.  

    I've got to say, I think it is a little weird that you went into the doctor knowing that they weren't there.  I'm not sure what you expected them to do.  I think it was VERY nice that they let you talk to a nurse.   A little more odd that you waited around for 2 hours and expected them to see you.  Of course they were seeing patients.  They had appointments later in the afternoon.  They would have gotten even further behind and had to reschedule more appts. if they had filled the already filled afternoon appointments with morning appointments. 

    I know you are upset, but really, try to put yourself in the doctors shoes (or the shoes of the mom in distress).

    I hope you enjoy your first u/s or that you can reschedule so your dh can go too.  

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  • bananatiffbananatiff member

    I was really looking forward to the u/s today, but the biggest upset is that DH cannot go with me to the first appointment now.  He is leaving town.  This was it.  That is the heartbreaker for me.  Of course I want the doctor to spend time with emergencies, but I am looking into the future and 2 or 2 appointments with her have been rescheduled.  I went to a multi-doctor practice for this reason.

     Also, the nurse told me if she came back to the office, which was unlikely, then she would squeeze me in.  That's why we hung around the area and waited.  If they were honest I would at least feel a little better. Anyway, I don't really need rationalization right now, unless someone has an estrogen blocker out there. 

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  • aligator423ufaligator423uf

    Did they say that she would absolutely squeeze you in, or "try" to squeeze you in? She was probably behind all day long anyway. I see two options here for you: A) suck it up and deal or B) find a new doctor if you don't like they way you were treated.

    I know it sucks that your DH can't be there for the first ultrasound, but there will be more. 

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  • sare_bearsare_bear
    I realize you're hormonal and upset, but it sounds like you're being a bit selfish.  Things like this happen.  It's life.  You'll get your chance to see the doctor.  Most likely that c-section was an emergency and you're crying and pissed that you didn't get to see the doctor when you're having NO complications. 
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  • dairygirl19dairygirl19 member

    imagesare_bear:
    I realize you're hormonal and upset, but it sounds like you're being a bit selfish.  Things like this happen.  It's life.  You'll get your chance to see the doctor.  Most likely that c-section was an emergency and you're crying and pissed that you didn't get to see the doctor when you're having NO complications. 

    I know how much you want your dr. time too, but it happens. My Dr. is one of 2 in a fairly large regional hospital. More times than not his pager goes off in an appt. with me. Sometimes he'll say, "She's fine for a bit, but let's get to the important stuff." Other times he'll say, "Emergency" and go running out.

    Sometimes he'll send me over to the other Ob, sometimes the NP. Sometimes I don't get anything.

    As long as he's checked the heartbeat I'm good. I can call or email later.

    I'm sorry but sitting there basically demanding to see a dr. makes you look crazy.

    I've been the girl on the other side. I thank God everyday my dr. ran out of whatever appt. he was in to help me.

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