rule out a name bcs it is the same as your DH's ex?

Re: rule out a name bcs it is the same as your DH's ex?

• dairygirl19 member

  November 2010

  If it was some sordid drama filled relationship with a backstory that brings up a ton of bitterness still, then NO I wouldn't.

  If it was a girl he just dated casually and he has no hard feelings, I wouldn't worry about it.

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• MrsB*7*21

  November 2010

  If it wasn't serious and DH is okay with it, I don't see the problem.  

  I would certainly not use Scott, Russell or Rachel for any of our children because they are our ex's and the relationships were long term, but there are other people that we just dated and I would use the names if we both loved them...the names, that is.

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• CanyonMama

  November 2010

  Yeah, I think I am going to go for it! (Or at least suggest it to DH.) 

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• smileycherry

  November 2010

  I agree w/ the rest of the board. If, it was a serious relationship that ended badly. Then the name is off the list. If, it was just casual then keep it on the list. If you really love it...and he does not. Maybe make it her middle name.
  

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• Becky262

  November 2010

  No.  Unless it was the only name you two agree on, I'd find something else 

  
  

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• LMS05 member

  November 2010

  I think it's totally fine. I love Katherine

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• shanwalk2 member

  November 2010

  I would rule it out because any exs DH's family would know their names and I wouldn't want to deal with (my imagination) of them correlating the two. 

  
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• Mama_SAS member

  November 2010

  I would not be able to use it, but only you know how you feel about it.

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• bobbyme member

  November 2010

  I wouldn't just because his ex's were so stupid.
  

  

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• dle927 member

  November 2010

  I wouldn't use any of DH's ex's names which is problematic since it leaves only about 3 names I could still use. 

  I likewise wouldn't use any of my ex's names.  I couldn't imagine one of them every hearing that I had a baby named the same and wondering if I still carried a flame or something. 

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• Kimmy1836

  November 2010

  It would depend on the intensity and length of the relationship. If it was someone he very casually dated for a few months, then it probably wouldn't bother me. If it was someone that was a serious love of his - no way.

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• laurenbrooke_09 member

  November 2010

  DH dated a girl named Daisy, and he loves the names Lily and Rose. I won't name my children that because they remind me of his ex . I don't think he's even made the connection.

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• bella85

  November 2010

  Becky262:

  No.  Unless it was the only name you two agree on, I'd find something else 

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• 11kacey member

  November 2010

  I would not use a name of either of our first loves or anyone that we seriously dated that friends or family would remember. But if it was very casual then I don't see why you cannot use it.
  

  

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