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Attempting to be Happy

Ber09Ber09
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I'm new to the board, but could use some advice on how to "act" happy for my sister-in-law. My husband and I have been ttc for 5+ months, with no luck. My brother recently got married and as it turns out they're already pregnant (she found out before the wedding). I know I should be happy for them, but can't help but feeling hurt. It was our turn..

 Sorry for the rant. I decided I should start talking on here since we don't want family to know we're trying (can't handle the added pressure). 

Thanks for reading and good luck everyone.

 

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  • caroline:)caroline:) member
    I get the feeling of "our turn" too. BIL and SIL just announced that they're having their 3rd. They don't have jobs and are barely providing for the kids that they already have, so excuse me if I'm not falling all over myself congratulating them. I'm sorry you're feeling sad. It'll be your turn soon.
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  • MillerTime13MillerTime13 member

    My honest advice - suck it up and put on a happy face. I have a pregnant SIL too, and it's not fun. But I would want her to be happy for me, so I don't let her know how upset it makes me to see her bump and hear about their baby nonstop. I cry and whine about it to MH and sometimes here and in my blog, but I try not to dwell on it.

    GL to you and YH. If you haven't looked into charting, check out Fertility Friend in my or anyone else's siggy. It's free and can be helpful in figuring out your cycles.

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  • tandb2010tandb2010 member
    It is really hard to be happy for the ppl who have/ are getting what you want.  I have a good friend who has 3 LO's and I am a big part of their lives.  I am the beaver, and cub leader and I "steal" their one year old whenever I can.  So I get my baby fix.  And after getting really close with the family I found out that they had a really hard time getting all 3.  Their youngest was her 7th time bieng KU.  So she helps a lot.  Find a friend who is in the same boat.  It helps a bunch.  even if it's just someone in here. GL and Sending you Baby Dust!!
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    Sorry you feel that way.  Look on the bright side.  It really is fun being an auntie.  I have 3 nieces/nephews and my BF just had a little girl in Sept.  It's great to be the cool auntie and play with the kids and not have to deal with the more crummy aspects of parenting Wink 

    It will be your turn soon and when it is it will be the right time for you.  I know it doesn't get mentioned on here much but you could pray about it and ask for strength and comfort if you so believe...

    ETA:  Welcome to the board!

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  • Ber09Ber09

    Thank you, ladies! I appreciate your advice, and am happy to know that I'm not alone with these feelings. I'm sure the resentment will wear off soon and I will be extremely excited to be an Aunt; unfortunately the wound is too fresh and it's frustrating to hear about those who get pregnant their first go around.

     I'm sure things will be on the up and up soon!

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  • natkay02natkay02 member

    I agree with pretty much everyone here. Unfortunately, you just have to suck it up and put on a happy face. I'd say most of us can relate to the "it's our turn" feeling. Hopefully, the fake happy face will turn into a genuine happy face soon, when you get your bfp.

     

    Good luck and welcome to the board!

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