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Do you fart in front of DH?
I have a friend that has been married for 10 years and she has never, not once, farted in front of her DH. She won't even poop with him in the house. I don't try to pass gas in front of DH, but if it happens, it happens. And not pooping until he leaves the house???!!!! I go when I need to go. My friend thinks it is the end of intimacy when you start farting in front of each other. What do you think?
Just so you know, we don't sit around farting, but we are mature enough to not lose our intimacy over some accidental gas seepage. <<<-------ew
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Re: Do you fart in front of DH?
It happens, but it's not like we have contests.
If anything, I'm more open about those things than DH is. I don't have a problem leaving the door open in the bathroom, for example, but DH is absolutely a closed-door guy.
Yeah, pregnancy gas was the end of intimacy.
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Of course I fart in front of DH. I also poop when he's in the bathroom (I do shut the door to where the toilet is, but it's not like it's any secret what I'm doing).
I frankly feel like women who refuse to do things like that in front of their husbands are weird. If you can't be yourself in front of your husband, who can you act like yourself in front of?
My husband, who is more modest than I am, says that he just prefers to keep some modesty in the marriage. It has nothing to do with "being yourself", ya know?
Yeah we fart in front of each other all the time. He thinks it's funny when he does it but then he hates it when I do it... double standard, ya think? I always tell him that if I don't do it then I'm going to explode!
Yes we do too.
Meh, I don't want to be that intimate with anyone. Not even my mother. And I appreciate that people don't fart in front of me either.
Dh and I are very intimate, but we don't fart or poop in front of each other. We will pee, but I'm still a bit uncomfortable when I do that.
Since when is so much of "being myself" or "being intimate" is related to farting? It's something I don't do in front of anyone. Why is that so weird? It's not hard to control it and I just prefer not gross someone out with my stink.
And FWIW, I'm soooooooo far from a prude or uptight.
Exactly.
After my C/S in recovery, DH helped the nurse flip me and put a pad on me. That's being close and intimate;)
Besides the actual births, I'm guessing the time that I was scared and showed him the lime sized blood clot I caught in my hand after Adam's birth ranks up their for close and intimate.
Oh and I also don't change my tampon in front of him. I guess we're like ships passing in the night.
We do.
If we need to fart, we fart (unless there's company or something). If we need to poop, we go poop. We're not juvenile about it (most of the time), but sh!t happens. Pun intended.
I try not to fart, and I definitely do not poop, in front of other people. That is me. You may think that is weird, but that doesn't mean my husband doesn't know the real me. I don't think the key to a better marriage is flatulence and defecation in the presence of your husband, if that is not what you are comfortable in doing.
He knows I am a prissy prude, and he is fine with that.
We fart and poop in front of each other. If you're married to someone I don't understand why you can't fart in front of them? Just don't be fartin in the bedroom when it's time to get busy!
I mean...honestly one day they could end up wiping your as$ for you. KWIM?
I'll cross that bridge if I have to. I am sure he would do a wonderful job if that became necessary.
I'm with Echowysp. It's not "oh, DH can't know I poop/wear tampons/fart" thing, it's a question of common courtesy.
Waiting to poop is a little extreme, but I do close both the bedroom door and the bathroom door (master bathroom) when I have to do my business. Part of it is also that I take any chance I can get to have some "me" time, so I sometimes pretend I have to go to the bathroom just so I can finish reading a chapter of a book or something.
Nope, we don't.
& we always close the bathroom door when we use the restroom. The only time I have peed in front of my husband was during labor, but there were also nurses in there.
It's just common courtesy. There is zero point in me being in the bathroom when he's going when it's as simple as shutting the door. There is nothing that I need in the bathroom that can't wait 5 minutes for him to finish & vice versa.
Fart-yes, but I'm not thrilled about it. I'd like to have a little more mystery but we've gone thorough that door and have a hard time turning back. Farting happens.
Poop-Door closed always unless the other one has to come in the bathroom urgently.
Pee-Door Closed most of the time
Tampon Insertion and other period related things-Door closed always. No exceptions. I don't feel like my husband needs that ever.
I understand the need for little mystery in relationships but waiting to poop until someone leaves the house is INSANE.
Hahaha, this. Obviously there are times and places that aren't the most appropriate, but I can't imagine holding it in in my own house just because he is in the room.
Oh and my DH also thinks it's funny to fart on the cat
I don't think sharing or not sharing bodily functions in front of your DH has anything to do with being yourself, though. I don't see privacy as being a lack of intimacy. It's a to each their own kind of thing.
I wonder how you friend will feel when she's pooping on the table during labor!
But seriously, everyone's definition of intimacy is different and not very dependent on farting. We do (DH more than me), we will poop in front of each other if we have to (like someone's in the shower and we can't wait), and peeing happens all the time (we never close the door for that).
I don't think anything of someone who wants to do all those things in privacy, though. I think that's much more a personality thing than a level of intimacy thing.