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To have or not to have a baby shower?

fyrefli999fyrefli999 member
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Here's my dilema...

This is our first child and have very little items needed for the arrival of our little one that we have waited for so long.  We live approx 7 states away from the majority of my family and my husbands family.  There is only approx 4-5 people that I would invite to a shower where I currently live without inviting people that are just mere aquaintances.  Is it worth it to have a shower and should I invite all of the family and friends that are so far and most likely could not make it?

Oh what to do?  Please send your thoughts and advice!

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Re: To have or not to have a baby shower?

  • kristenndkristennd member

    We recently moved too far from either family for them to attend a shower as well. We're just going to register and then give the link to any relative who asks. Certainly some will want to buy gifts regardless, although not all. Sending out shower invitations would just make them roll their eyes because we all know it isn't feasible.

    The only local people I'd invite to a shower (or who would offer to throw me one) are coworkers and my workplace automatically does showers for pregnant employees (or their spouses) during the work day so that's covered. But I wouldn't be comfortable with the conventional kind anyway. It's different for people who really look forward to that tradition.

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  • lisagrover81lisagrover81

    Since this is your first little one, you should have a baby shower.

    Would any of the people in-state be willing to host the shower for you? If they are make sure they invite the distant friends and family members. You never know they make just suprise you and show up. Also, many may send you presents too!

     Good Luck!

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  • SonadoraSonadora member
    If someone offers to host a shower for you, even if it would be small, that would be perfectly fine. My shower had 7 people at it including me and the hostess. It was lovely and I'm so very grateful that my friend offered to host such a nice event for me.
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  • RachieTKRachieTK member
    imagediscobelle:

    Has anyone back home (where your families live) offered to throw a shower there?  If so, would you consider traveling back for that?

     

    This is what I was going to say.  It seems odd to offer mostly people that you know cannot attend. 

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  • kacmosskacmoss
    I understand your dilemma.  We made the decision to not have a shower as we have the issue with some family being in other states.  His parents live 5 hours away and mine live close by.  We also know that some family members don't get along and thought that it would be best for our stress level to just skip the whole idea.  I know certain family members will buy gifts when baby arrives and visit.  My advice to you is to either create the registry and send out notices, announcing the excitement and explaining why you cannot have a shower or something of this manner.  Otherwise skip the shower or registry all together.  Good Luck and remember don't get stressed out!
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