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nunchkin
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God Parents.....
nunchkin
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A question for the ladies. My DH and I have decided to choose my BFF and my Older brother to be the God Parents of our first baby. I know that traditionally people used to choose a couple for the purposes of raising your baby if anything tragic happened, but nowadays I personally feel that God Parents are more of a symbolic, special title. My BFF is non religious and so is her partner. My brother, Catholic like DH and I, has a bit of a train wreck of a life, but is loving and we know that the title will mean so much to him. My BFF I think was hoping I would make her partner the God Father. Is there some other special title I could give him? Any ideas?
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Re: God Parents.....
Godparents are meant to continue teaching your child your faith/religion in the event that you are unable to do so. They are not the same thing as a guardian.
That being said, you can have your LO call your BFF & her partner "Aunt & Uncle" or another special name.
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Yes, naturally the terminology "God Parents" comes from the fact that traditionally they were intended to guide your child religiously if the parents were unable to - this tended to also mean raising the child. Nowadays things are different. Legal Guardians and God Parents are no longer synonymous. I am choosing the God Parents for our baby based on two main things: Value and importance of the title to them and love, caring and guidance they will be able to provide to our baby. We are firm on my BFF and my Big Bro as our God Parents. Just wondering if there is some other fun, symbolic title for my BFF's partner. They will already be Uncle and Auntie - so something a little extra ;-)
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Thank you ;-) Glad to hear someone in a similar situation. My BFF is non religious, but so loving and caring.
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Yes, naturally the terminology "God Parents" comes from the fact that traditionally they were intended to guide your child religiously if the parents were unable to - this tended to also mean raising the child. Nowadays things are different. Legal Guardians and God Parents are no longer synonymous. I am choosing the God Parents for our baby based on two main things: Value and importance of the title to them and love, caring and guidance they will be able to provide to our baby. We are firm on my BFF and my Big Bro as our God Parents. Just wondering if there is some other fun, symbolic title for my BFF's partner. They will already be Uncle and Auntie - so something a little extra ;-)Cheers
Exactly. You need a will to specify who you would like to raise the child should something happen to you and your DH.
For us, godparents does not equal guardians.
Our godparents for the twins are my BFF and BIL for Ella and Nate's BFF and SIL for Luke. BIL and SIL are married but we split them up because I wanted my bff for Ella and Nate wanted his bff for Luke. Their guardians are BIL and SIL and they know that.
I don't think you need to give him a special title. He will be involved in your babies life regardless of whether he has a title or not. That alone is special enough.
My godparents as a child were also the people who would have raised me in the event my parents died. So I know what you're saying. Sadly, my godparents divorced, and I think my parents changed their will to give me new guardians.
We'll be choosing MH's sister and my brother to be godparents to the baby. Obviously, they are not a couple. The baby's guardians in our will will be MH's sister and her husband. My brother is very religious and we thought it would be appropriate for him to be involved in that part of the baby's life no matter what.
We call ours Nouna (means godmother) and Nouno (means godfather). My BFF is Greek and she is the GM to both of our kids and my brother is the GF to my DD, but we call them both Nouna and Nouno (sp?) But neither of them will take custody of our children if anything were to happen to DH and I, their roles are symbolic.
I'm not saying you should necessarily use the Greek terms, but maybe troll the internet until you find a term/nn that you feel comfortable using for your friends BF.
Thank you sweet baby Jesus. I knew someone out there actually read my entire post and repost ;-)
That's what I thought too...They probably won't be able to be Godparents in the Catholic church if they are not Catholic themselves because they can't guide them in the church's eyes. I would check on this before telling anyone that they are the godparents.
In most churches, only one needs to be Catholic not both.