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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
Do you have an easy baby or hard baby?
Is your baby an easy baby, hard baby or a middle of the road baby (not too easy / not too fussy)?
Right now I feel like my baby is a hard/fussy baby. Not sure if he is teething, but I feel like he is fussy the majority of the time. 
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Re: Do you have an easy baby or hard baby?
Soooo easy. I have no complaints!
I think it is some sort of reward for having a very difficult baby 3 years ago (my son). He turned into a difficult toddler - but he's still the best.
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It doesn't matter how much you listen to your baby's cues, or how laid back you are as a parent. Nothing a parent does make a child easy or hard.
You just happened to get lucky.
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This exactly
This exactly!
DD is a great sleeper and eater, rarely cries and is rarely fussy.
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Umm I would say in the middle but more on the hard side.
She is colicy, cried most of the time from about 2 weeks to about 2 months and is now just starting to come around. I do have times during the day where she is wonderful and she is a good sleeper at night, but for the most part it was impossible to take her anywhere because she really would just cry all the time. It was very unnerving.
Like LCB said, I am just now starting to enjoy her more because she seems to be getting over her colicy phase - ::fingers crossed::
Really? I totally disagree. If you get stressed when your baby starts to fuss you can escalate the situation because they can sense that. If you remain calm you can calm the baby down easier, at least in my experience. I think its very possible Bancbev has an easier baby because she is a calm parent. Not true for all of course.
She is in daycare about 6 hours a day, 5 days a week. Daycare says she is always happy (unless hungry) and smiling.
You've obviously never had a colicky babd that had tons of medical issues.
It's slightly offensive to say that you can control whether or not you have an easy baby. You are basically telling me that I suck at being a mom and that is why I have a hard baby - and that is simply not the case. It's kind of like telling a couple that is dealing with infertility to just relax.
And, I admit I am sensitive to this topic since I have a hard baby and there is nothing I can do to make her easier.
Easy. Especially since we are way past the waking up every 2 hours period that lasted the first 8 weeks!
Otherwise he's usually pretty happy, wakes up smiling every morning, and it's easy to meet his needs.
I'm also worried about what #2 will bring.
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Like I said its not true for all. If your baby is in physical pain, no amount of calming can help that. Your child's medical issues making her "hard" are no reflection on your parenting ability. I guess I am referring to more the temperament issues that other people are talking about.
My baby was actually very colicky for the first 2 months and has really bad reflux issues, so I do have experience with a "hard" baby. Nothing medically serious, but enough to make him cry a lot at times. I have found that when I am able to stay calm when he gets really fussy he is easier to calm down. When I get stressed, he cries even more. When his reflux isn't the obvious issue, he is very easy because I have a very laid back parenting style.
I was disagreeing with your opinion, not attacking your personal situation.
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I would say he is kind of a hard baby, but the reflux definitely plays a part in that.
As long as he feels good and has a full tummy he is the cutest, happiest baby. He has a temper though and goes from calm to total freak out very quickly. He also has stopped sleeping, which needless to say is challenging.
I would have to say that I have a difficult baby. My mom had 5 children and she would agree that he is quite fussy and hard to handle. He is up at night 3 times or more still, he has what we believe is a milk allergy and reflux and he doesn't like to be put down.
I love him sooo much and it is hard to admit that he is so difficult. I feel like I am to blame for some reason so that makes me a little sad.
i agree that parents have no control over whether they have a hard baby or easy baby. But I thought the poster who said "maybe it's because I'm easy going" was simply talking about her perspective. Maybe she perceives her baby as being easy because she is easy going. I mean, really it's all relative. My hard day may be someone else's easy day...know what i mean?
Ha, ha same here. She's so mellow and fun.
She's been going to daycare for the past two months.
I don't think babies can be hard (i don't really like this adjective though). Sure medical issues can make the babies fussy and therefore more challenging, but that's the medical issue being challenging not the baby. It's not his/her fault so they aren't being "bad/hard"
I agree that having a laidback Mom makes a huge difference, babies can sense mother's tension and that can make them more upset.
DD won't stay with anyone other than me, fusses quite a bit if I'm not holding her, and HATES the car (or any seat like that), and until recently wouldn't sleep unless she was with me. Thank God she doesn't have any medical issues though. I wear her most of the time and she's happy. i don't have any desire to "pawn" my child off on someone else so her wanting to be with me doesn't bother me. I will have a lot more time to go out and etc, I have only a small number of days with my baby who needs to be with her Mommy.
For those who have babies with medical issues, I cannot imagine how difficult that must me, but I think saying the baby is difficult sounds like it is the baby's fault and it is not.
I do think that I and the other posters who have healthy babies did "luck out" though, not b/c we have "easy" babies but b/c we have healthy babies...
Thank you! You put this into words a lot better than I was able to.
Another example: My SO thinks our son is "harder" than I do. Yet R is the same baby and doesn't act much different with either one of us. So I would also strongly agree with the poster that mentioned how its about perception as well.