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AMYfromKY
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s/o marriage poll
AMYfromKY
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How old were your parents when they got married?
Do you think their age had anything to do with the outcome (good or bad) of their marriage?
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Re: s/o marriage poll
My mom & Bio father: 21 & 30...nope. My bio father was a drunk & abuser. She left him (with me in tow)
My mom & stepdad: 26 & 33...nope. My dad was killed in a car accident 6 years later, no one's fault.
mom:18
dad:26
married 35 years and still going strong.
the circumstances in "our" generation are very different from our parents.
They were both 21...still happily married.
I think it was less age and more circumstances. my parents were 20 when they got married... and they "had to" if you know what I mean... along came my brother just 7 months later! I don't think either one of them was ready for marriage and I don't think they would have EVER married each other had it not been for the pregnancy. they stuck it out for 13 years but in the end are SO much better suited in their second marriages.
my sister, on the other hand, had nearly the same thing happen when she was 21 (apple doesn't fall far???) but her situation worked out because they really are great together and most likely would have been married either way.
My mom was 19, my dad was 31. I think the age difference had a negitive effect because she was always very controlled by him. Almost more of a father/daughter relationship than husband/wife. But it has more to do with personalities than age I think.
DH and I were both 22.
20 and almost 22
it had everything to do w/ their spectacular failure - they were just too young to get married and they grew apart. their mistake was drilled into our heads as kids as an example of what NOT to do.
My Dad was 23, Mom 26. They've been married 41 years and are still going strong.
There have been many recent studies that have shown as both age and education level go up and are more similar amongst couples, the divorce rate drastically goes down. FWIW.
25. I actually do think their age negatively affected things, but only because they were also immature for their age. Like, when they got married, my "dad" quit school and got a job, which was ridiculous, because he has no education and no skills so now that the economy is tanking he is screwed. He also worked in a crap job he hated his entire life, because it paid well, which made him a miserable person. Had he actually finished school (he was going for graphic design and had only one year left), he may have been happier, thus less of a miserable douche. Though I really have no idea since this is all speculation.
My mom was 18 and my dad was 21. They are still together.
Wow, it seems like everyone's parents got married really young!
My parents were 30 when they got married, and have been married for 37 years. They both finished college, graduate school, traveling, etc. before they got married... which I guess was somewhat less common back then. I have no idea if their age had any bearing on the success of their marriage.
mom 20, dad 25 and married for 41 years
mil and fil were both 22 and married for 40 yrs
they all married young and are still married. I don't think age is a factor. I think it was the way they were raised and their own expectations.
My mom was 20 and my dad 21. I think it was a factor in their marriage being crappy. However the biggest factors were my Dad being an abusive a-hole and coming from an abusive home and my mom having an abusive a-hole dad so she didn't know any better.
That said, I got married young (23) and really didn't know better. I shouldn't have rushed into it because I made a huge mistake.
How old were your parents when they got married? 19
Do you think their age had anything to do with the outcome (good or bad) of their marriage? yesMy parents were:
Mom-18 (barely, for a month) and Dad-20
And yes, I think it has something to do with the failure, but not the only reason.