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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
wille2b
member
TTC since 2005
missed miscarriage nov 2006- 4 failed clomid cycles-
3 failed femara iui cycles-
moving on to IVF oct 2011
ER nov. 7th
tansfered 2 blasts on 11/10
lots of +hpt!!
beta #1 on 11/21= 50.4
beta #2 on11/23= 90.8
another miscarriage 12/23
moving on to Round 2 of IVF with an auto immune dx
ER 4/23-retrieved 12 eggs
ET 4/28 3 transfered
Beta #1- 356
Beta #2- 870
SIL WONT stop kissing ds on the lips!
wille2b
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It is sooo gross to me and dh reminds the whole family at get togethers that we would appreciate if no one kiss his lips or put their fingers in his mouth(they always do that)! And without fail EVERY time dh's sister kisses his lips! It has gotten so bad now, where I think she is doing it on purpose! She won't do it the whole night then as soon as I pick him up she comes over and kisses him on the lips while I'm holding him. Like a slap in the face. She is a smoker, and lord only know who she is dating, someone new every week! That's just too many germ risks for me! And I have made my feelings clear and she won't respect me! What do I do? Dh and I have tossed it around and are lost.
TTC since 2005
missed miscarriage nov 2006- 4 failed clomid cycles-
3 failed femara iui cycles-
moving on to IVF oct 2011
ER nov. 7th
tansfered 2 blasts on 11/10
lots of +hpt!!
beta #1 on 11/21= 50.4
beta #2 on11/23= 90.8
another miscarriage 12/23
moving on to Round 2 of IVF with an auto immune dx
ER 4/23-retrieved 12 eggs
ET 4/28 3 transfered
Beta #1- 356
Beta #2- 870
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Re: SIL WONT stop kissing ds on the lips!
My mother-in-law does this too!!! I hate it but I don't even say anything but just give kinda a wierd look. She thinks Myla is kissing her back because she opens her mouth so my mother-in-law does it even more!!! She thinks she is getting food thats why she opens her damn mouth!! ahaha
Well if she only does it when you are holding your baby and you see her coming try and block her kiss by either moving your baby or putting your hand up and say no he/she doesn't even have all his/her shots or something like that. Maybe that will make her get the hint more!?!
If she comes in for a kiss while you're holding him, I'd turn away and remind her your no kiss on the lips rule.
When I'm holding DD and someone wants to kiss her, I present the back or the top of her head to them. I don't like face kissers either.
That would gross me out too. I am his mommy and I hardly ever kiss him on the lips.
I would try and block her and say in a cute tone "No kisses on the mouth, aunt XXXX."
I would try saying "the pediatrician said..."
Our ped actually did tell us to make sure that if people are touching our DD, they should have either washed or sanitized their hands, since people often hold her hand, and then she proceeds to put her hand in her mouth. It's a germ fest!
If SIL is a smoker, you may want to call your ped's office and ask for suggestions and ask what the risks are with interaction with a smoker - I know chemicals from cigarettes can stay on lips, hands and clothes - there may be a risk to your child because of it. My ped's office is always helpful with what to say to my husband's family (he comes from a big family, though no smokers).
Beyond that, if you are being disrespected, your DH should tell his sister that she won't be able to visit w/your DS if she cannot respect your wishes. You are the parents. You say what goes. If she wants to kiss her own kid on the lips someday, that's for her to do. You shouldn't have to deal with someone making you or your child uncomfortable in any way.
I remember you posting about this before. and since you're saying she only does it when you are holding him, it sounds like she is doing it to spite you.
my evil side thinks you should keep a rolled up newspaper near you when you go see them. When she comes over to kiss your LO, hit her on the nose with it and say "NO! bad SIL".
but in reality I agree with PP have your DH tell her point blank, "no kissing on the lips" and if she comes over to you hold up your hand and tell her again.