What do you do when...you hate your man's friend?

Re: What do you do when...you hate your man's friend?

• Ashleygoo

  November 2010

  I think its rude to ask someone to not be friends with someone else. Especially if its their BFF or whatever.

  You can always point out that these things always happen when they get around each other, but until he wants to stop hanging out and making mistakes, he isnt going to. You asking him will only cause resentment, IMO.
  

  

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• lilhotcandie69 member

  November 2010

  Ashleygoo:

  I think its rude to ask someone to not be friends with someone else. Especially if its their BFF or whatever.

  You can always point out that these things always happen when they get around each other, but until he wants to stop hanging out and making mistakes, he isnt going to. You asking him will only cause resentment, IMO.
  

  Their not bffs. Its a friend he hangs out with 4-5 times a year but everytime they hang out he does something stupid. The last time they hung out and he did something stupid I called him out on it and he said he would stop talking to the guy but I told him "no" I didn't want that...but now I'm fed up with this sh!t.

  

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• lilhotcandie69 member

  November 2010

  Ashleygoo:

  I think its rude to ask someone to not be friends with someone else. Especially if its their BFF or whatever.

  You can always point out that these things always happen when they get around each other, but until he wants to stop hanging out and making mistakes, he isnt going to. You asking him will only cause resentment, IMO.
  

  I do agree I can't make him stop hanging out with this certain individual...he needs to realize things and do it on his own.

  

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• sleepingbeauty825 member

  November 2010

  If it's a person he only hangs out with a few times a year, I'd just suck it up and deal with it.

  Unless he ends up doing something dangerous/illegal, then I'd say something.
  

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• zeptattoo member

  November 2010

  sleepingbeauty825:

  If it's a person he only hangs out with a few times a year, I'd just suck it up and deal with it.

  Unless he ends up doing something dangerous/illegal, then I'd say something.
  

  This.  Eventually they will be at two places in life and the issue will resolve itself.

  

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• CalMum_Momma

  November 2010

  DH has a friend whom I depise. Like your DH's friend he is immature and stupid. He is also disrespectful. I tolerated it for a while, but then I made it clear that if they wanted to hang out they could do it elsewhere. I do not want him in my home anymore, at least not more than very brief visits. I also found that when I expressed to DH my reasons for not liking his friend and gave specific examples of ways he had disrespected me and our home, I think it opened DH's eyes to what a douche this guy really is, and they rarely see each other anymore. BE honest with your guy, and if this guy is like my DH's friend and disrespects you or your home, stand up for your family and tell DH to kick this guy to the curb. Family first.

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• blissfully_caffeinated

  November 2010

  It would have to be a really heinous situation for me to ever request that Dh not be friends with someone. I really think your problem here is with your H, not necessarily the friend. You don't like how H acts when he's around this friend. Tell him that. Point out all of the things he has done then regretted the next day. Hopefully he'll realize on his own that the relationship needs to end.
  

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