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nbr: Please tell me - is my husband an a$$ for doing this or is it just me!?!!
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Re: nbr: Please tell me - is my husband an a$$ for doing this or is it just me!?!!
This is hilarious.
I do think you overreacted--moreso for your own emotional sake versus his. Sometimes I think someone's just not going to get why you feel that way and I hope in the end, DH understands that it made YOU upset, not that he broke some Ms. Manners etiquette of car test-driving. In the end, to me, that is more important than judging someone about if they did the polite thing or used the right fork or whatever (esp someone you married so you should probably know most of his weird quirks anyway). Plus, why be stressed out when you're growing a baby? Those cortisol stress chemicals--not good for anyone, esp someone who is preggers.
Also:
1. If the salesguy didn't want him to do it, he would have said so in a way that would have been polite but not have lost the say. Maybe DH was "testing" him.
2. You're about to drop $20k+ on a car, the salesguy just works there. Why would he care if you went for a 10 minute drive or a 40 minute one?
3. I kind of thing that a longer test drive is kind of a good way to buy a car, to really spend some time in it.
4. Believe you me, I think there are bigger things in life to fight about than if someone is being rude to someone else who is, in effect, trying to get you to drop $$$.
Peace, chillax, take it all in the grand scheme of things--are you going to buy the van?
I think the problem is here, he wasn't test driving it. He was taking advantage of a situation and the kindness of the salesperson to run a personal errand.
If I was the salesperson in the car, I'd start to wonder if this driver was stable and sober enough to be driving a car with me in it.
i think that he is under-reacting and you are over-reacting. what he did is tacky, but a bit funny. id be not happy, but at the same time it was he that did it not you...and really, who'd it hurt? no one. the sales guy got a break and a good story.
glad you guys made up though! AND IF YOU DO BUY THE CAR, ID GO SOMEPLACE ELSE! id be willing to bet the dealership management wont be inclined to deal any bargains your way!
First of all - She's PREGNANT! It's called hormones and she had every right to be furious anyway! I'm sorry, but there are extenuating circumstances here, and I think she was TOTALLY justified. They got a babysitter to stay with the kids, for heavens sake! And instead of concentrating on what he should have been (ie - buying a car for his wife) DH decides to basically kidnap a car salesman AND embarass his wife to run an errand? Um - NO! I'm glad things got worked out and he apologized, but don' feel like you were completely off the deep end... I ran this scenario by my husband and he agrees. It's not a "guy" thing - I asked! LOL
My advice? Doesn't matter if DH was dumba$$ or not -- it isn't worth fighting over. Just let him be a dork, be embarrassed for himself or not, and let it go! You will be happier...and that is what your baby needs to feel is you happy!
PS: we are all dumba$$es sometimes and it is nice to be given a pass.
You did not over react. I'm a (pregnant) car sales woman and I would be so effin pissed if someone would try to do that. I would never let that happen! How inconsiderate of him! What harm was done to the sales guy (he is a loser for letting your DH do that by the way)? He's getting paid commission and not selling a car and wasting his time with a non-buyer is not getting him paid sh**.
Again, you did not over react, that was a pretty shitty move. I would have been pissed too, regardless if pregnant or not.
You think the sales guy isn't upset? He wasted way too much of his time with someone who didn't buy a car (which is somewhat the sales guys own fault).
It's wrong because it is inconsiderate......He was being extremely selfish. He didn't stop to consider anyone else, like the poor salesman or your feelings about propriety. If he wanted a longer test drive, that's one thing, just say so! But to try to go shopping?! WTF?
I agree with other posts that state that it is a lack of respect for you and your feelings to blatantly ignore your requests to turn around.
But everyone is entitled to a weird freaky incident/lack of judgment every once in a while, right? Try not to be too hard on him.
I wouldn't be mad. It's not that big of a deal. I would of laughed it off. Why be mad at something that's out of your control. It's a waste of your time and energy to be angry, and raise your blood pressure for nothing. If I were the sales guy I'd be a good sport about it too. There are much bigger things in the world to worry about than the fact that your husband took a test drive a little further than anyone expected. Sure, most people wouldn't do that, but most people don't know how to have fun, that's why everyone's always so miserable because they take things too seriously. I mean it didn't hurt anyone, and the most important people in your life should be your family so just love him and don't be angry at the situation anymore. It happened, so just let it go and be happy with life. Life is too short and too precious to make a big deal out of something that's not that big of a deal. Now, had he taken you guys further out than 15 minutes that would have been kidnapping and you would have had more than a right to be angry because that's threading on legal authority getting involved for kidnapping a sales guy. Other than that don't sweat the small things.
It must be a guy thing. They don't seem to understand when they've done something that upsets us. and they even find it funny or amusing. Its like come on, are you kidding me? I know...mine can act the same way over things that upset me
I agree. It's a little odd that he didn't mention the store before the test drive, but he really didn't do anything wrong. Maybe you would've found a problem with the car by driving the extra 15 miles to the next town, that you wouldn't find in the first 5 minutes. I have test-driven cars that seemed fine in town and then made a weird racket when I got to high speeds.
I would say the thing that upsets me the most is salesmen that ride in the car with you. I want to drive the car how I drive it on a daily basis. And it's normally not puttering the 5 minutes around the dealership area. I want to get on the parkway and drive 70 mph, slam on the brakes, go on a country road and take some sharp curves, park it in a few different parking situations, etc.
I hope everything works out with you guys and good luck with your next vehicle purchase.
I completely understand why you were upset, but I too can see my husband doing the same thing and thinking it was funny. Depending on his reaction when you discussed it with him, I too would have (and have) gotten so frustrated to the point of nearly becoming hysterical. It's wasn't about what actually happened, but more his reaction and him not listening, so I was to the the point of being beyond frustration.
It would be amazing if husbands were more mature about a lot of things, but I think that's part of what keeps life entertaining:) Another perspective to laugh about (later down the road!) is always a good thing. Understandable, but keep your head up and try laugh about it after a few weeks:)
I had an ex-boyfriend who took a car for a "test weekend", and then didn't even buy it! I was too embarassed to go when he returned it, but the dealership allowed it. I think you are right to be upset but you should keep in mind that the people at the dealership are probably very used to this type of behavior and could have insisted that he turn around if it were really a problem.