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at what point do you stop being naked in front of your kid?
Every morning, I change the boys and then I tell them I'm going to go change and that they are welcome to follow me if they want. I have a huge basket of toys in our room to keep them occupied and I try to change as fast as possible in the closet (which is in our bathroom, but has no door--the closet part doesn't) so they don't have to see me naked. Spencer came up to me this morning though and pointed at my naked boob as I'm putting my bra on and I was like, "uhh." So, when do you stop being naked around your kid(s)? Or am I making a bigger deal out of this than I should? I'm a very modest person--I don't even pee in front of my husband, nor has my sister ever seen me naked/topless. I have never mooned or flashed anyone...I just don't show my body to every person. 
A gal on my MoMs board told me that her 4-year-old has vivid memories of doing things at 18-months-old and I certainly don't want my boys to be burned w/ the memory of me naked down the line. KWIM?
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Re: at what point do you stop being naked in front of your kid?
my mom never stopped... in fact, i was home in september and knocked on her bedroom door to see if i could come in and ask her something. she said, sure, come on in, but i'm still getting dressed.
i don't know... she never acted like it was weird so i never thought it was. i'm not at all that comfortable in front of her (is that strange?), so i won't be doing that with my kids, i don't think...
all that to say that i don't think you're going to scar your kids, especially at 18 months, unless you make a huge deal of it. then they'll think it's weird and will be more likely to remember it.
After his 4th birthday. That's when I told him he had to knock first and he couldn't come in when I was changing or in the bathroom.
That's probably just because he's a boy. My mom and I would change in front of each other. I imagine it will be the same way with Layna. Hell, I change clothes in front of my friends, sister, whoever. I'm not modest. At all.
DS is 2, and I still change in front of him. Hell, if I need a shower and the only time I can do it is while DD naps, he sometimes showers with me, too. (He loves to play in the shower.) I don't remember anything before I was about 3, so I'm kind of feeling like that's the cut off, unless he starts acting weird about it before then.
As far as DD, I don't plan to be as modest there. I saw my mom naked from time to time all through my growing up years (changing at the pool or in a dressing room or whatever) and it never bothered me. I kind of feel like if my mom had really hidden herself from me, I may have gotten the impression there was something shameful about being naked.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
What made you pick his 4th birthday? I've been wondering this lately too, and have no idea what the "right" answer is.
See, that's kinda weird that I turned out this way then b/c my mom takes baths and when we needed her, she would leave the door unlocked and we'd walk in on her and chat with her while she was in the bathtub...naked.
So, for her to be so easily naked in front of my sister and I and for me to not be, that's a little weird. Maybe I have some issues. ha!
Obviously DD does not see DH naked but DS does. These kids have no idea how to leave me alone for a minute so I can shower. Both still walk in while I'm in the shower but I want it to stop so I need to work on it. I'm also very modest but I don't necessarily want my kids to be as modest as I was. I NEVER wanted to talk to my mom about anything because I was so modest. I would prefer for the kids to be a little more comfortable in their own skin so I don't want them thinking they have to hide their bodies or that it's bad to be naked.
So to summarize, I have no idea.
My boys are going to have the "best" of both worlds--Jay has NO problem being naked AT ALL.
Sooo, good thing he's a guy and the boys are guys, that should work out just fine.
I don't know, I tried to put the reason in my original post but couldn't really articulate it.
Really, its when we moved in with DH. And DH didn't think it was appropriate for a 4 year old boy to see his mom change. Jakob was becoming aware of the differences between boys and girls and it just seemed like a good time to set some boundaries in our new home.
But now I've realized that DH is extremely modest. He's never been comfortable changing in front of Layna, even when she was 12 months old. We're completely baffled by each other. I can't imagine what's he worried about, a toddler seeing him naked? And he can't believe that I would carry on a conversation with my mother as she sits on the toliet.
Just another thing you have to compromise on when you're married, I guess
My sister is a lot more modest than I am. We had the same parents...so its probably more personality than how you're raised
I kind of have the opinion that if you make something a big deal, they (your kids) are going to see it as being a big deal. like, in europe for example, it's not uncommon to see boobs - hell, half of the people on the beach are topless. no big deal. but here? OMG, you might as well be showing two people having sex.
i hadnt really thought about it until now. ruby sees both of us naked all the time and we dont think anything of it b/c we're a big bunch of nudies in our house. she walks up to me, says "momma's baginey!" and tells david "dada's penis!" then she walks away and goes about her business.
my mom is still naked in front of me and i'm not bothered by it. she sees me naked too. i'll have to ask her how old i was when i stopped seeing my dad naked. she told me that i walked up to him in the shower, pulled on his penis and said "honk, honk." he decided that day that i would no longer see him naked.
I think everyone is different. My mother was always nekid in front of my sister and I ... I'd go in and talk to her while she bathed. I've always been comfortable being naked in front of people, but my sister on the other hand ... she is such a prude with her hot little body! I saw her ass for the first time a couple months ago and she was so embarassed. I told her if I had .... make then when I had that ass, I showed everyone, LOL!
And I have no answer for you ... I don't remember when my mother quit changing in front of my brother. Not that it did any good ... he's all naked all the time
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this is beyond hilarious!
OHMYGOSH! I have tears in my eyes I'm laughing so hard!! That is hilarious.
There you go, Joyce ... maybe the boys will make the time obvious! Hahaha!
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dude, ruby grabs my nips about ten thousand times a day.
I doubt any kid has a durable memory of anything they experienced that young. Even if it's a vivid memory for a four year old, not everything lasts.
I saw my mom change clothes all the time growing up and didn't think it was any big deal. And my dad had kind of a "European phase" where he wore speedos to swim in the '80s - not much left to the imagination there. They just didn't make an issue out of body stuff. I am also very modest (I'm the dork in the gym locker room robe) but this is more because I was shy about having big knockers at age fourteen than anything else.
the difference being that you BF and I never really got to. So, it was weird!
At that age Abby definitely still saw both DH and I naked at time. Me more often than him. He has never dressed or been right in front of her while naked or anything. But, she would go and hang out in the bathroom when he showered sometimes (very big bathroom) she was not looking directly into the shower or anything but it is a glass shower. She probably went in the bathroom while he was showering on a somewhat regular basis until she was 3 or 4. She still goes in there to tell him something if need be while he is showering. Honestly, I have never even thought about it.
I have been wondering lately when is it too old to have kids of the opposite gender bathe together?
I lived in a naked house - ok, not like nudist naked, just the "we don't care if our kid sees us naked while getting dressed or in and out of the shower" attitude. Shoot, my dad probably wouldn't care to this day if I walked in on him in the buff. I am not scarred for life, so that idea makes me lol.
I'm of the opinion that making it a big deal is more a problem than anything else. You can teach modesty around others without having to be weird and secretive at home.
I think it is basically a comfort level - if you are OK with it and the kid isn't being weird about it, then all is well.