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Would you *really* have been ok with your 5 year old wearing this costume?
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Re: Would you *really* have been ok with your 5 year old wearing this costume?
I voted yes. My DH however would have a really hard time with it. I think that I would struggle most with pushing him to do it when he was visibly worried about it. Not because there is anything wrong at all with being brave and an example for other children that it's ok to be different, but because he's my baby and I wouldn't want to see his feelings hurt by the numbnuts willing to make fun of him.
I love this line from her post: "Thirdly, I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off."
Yes.
Why is it ok for a drunk frat boy to dress up like Dolly Parton but a poor 5 year old can't be a cartoon character without people making a big deal?
It's fine with mh and I- I just asked him. But, we're both in home decor (by trade). We'd both be kind of proud he was cool with expressing himself however he felt the desire.
Obviously I couldn't be less conservative thinking. Luckily I married the same.
I voted no. At first, I was going to vote yes but when I read through the whole blog post, I realized that the little boy was probably going to be picked on so that's why I voted no. I think that if my son wanted to dress up like that at home, I would be fine with it, but I wouldn't want him to go in public for fear of him being ridiculed/stared at.
However (and I know this is a huge double standard), I would be ok with DD going out in a boy's costume because I just don't think she would be picked on for it (at least not as much as a boy wearing a dress). I know that it's wrong but I think it's just the way society has made us and the bottom line for me is that I do not want my kids to be picked on.
I really don't care if people know. I voted no. I voted no to protect him. He could wear that all day at home, but this would cause so many problems with peers that I would not want to put him through that.
Being a teacher it makes me so sad to see how many kids get bullied and picked on. My one student pays a girl to be her friend. That's not okay.
P.S. also I don't believe some of you that said yes. If this REALLY happened I don't think some of you would be okay with it. It's easy to say you would when it's not your kid.
I agree with Ljlkm completely here. Bullies will happen whether we like it or not. I would rather start teaching her the tools with coping with the negativity than try to avoid it completely.
Those colors make my head hurt. I don't think I'd let DD wear that outfit. Not a gender thing at all, I just hate bright pink and orange.
This is what I was trying to say. I do think society can change is likely already more accepting than when I grew up, but that doesn't mean I want to watch my child be the door-buster. ::sigh::
This parenting thing gets a lot harder as they get older, doesn't it?
I voted No..But its more religious reasons..I study the bible and there is a scripture that teaches against this..That being said the same thing goes with my daughter being a boy. Even tho I voted no and I dont agree with it..I would like to say that I think it is WRONG that someone would use the word gay like that. He is 5 and I would NEVER judge another mom for letting her son wear that..just as I wouldnt judge someone for letting their daughter dress up as a boy. I personally think that it is NOT our place to judge anyone! I also want to teach Noah that it is our place to love everyone and not judge anyone.
I also agree with pp who said that children are learning to be bullies from their parents..and we really need to be careful!
I voted no. The fact is, he's dressed in a girls costume. Sure, he may like daphne, but that doesn't mean he has to be daphne. There is a BIG difference.
I absolutely would not care. He's dressed up as a female fictional character, he's not being daphne any more than someone dressed as a dinosaur is being a dinosaur or someone dressed as Jack the Ripper is being Jack the Ripper. At what age is it okay for a boy/man to dress as a girl/woman? I know lots of men do it without being called names. This sh!t is all learned. It's sad.
It's one day of pretend. I assuming that you wouldn't have any problem with your child pretending to be a dinosaur or a ghost. The bible teaches a lot of things that we don't follow anymore (like mixing fibers or wearing red).
A lot of true colors seem to be shining through lately.
I am very disappointed with the blatant display of ignorance on this board.
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There is a part of the bible that talks about Halloween costumes?
Never heard of the red thing..But I agree with the clothes (times have changed since the robes they wore in the bible)..Its just how I feel..and to be honest I wouldnt be comfortable with it..But I dont think its going to send you to hell..just sayin..But if I seen that little boy wearing that costume I would have high fived him and said cool! I dont think its my place to give dirty looks or frown upon it. Its just how I feel with my child..But anyone else has the right to do as they please
No..It says that it is wrong for a man to dress like a woman and a woman to dress like a man.
Oh, well then it's ok. This is a 5 year old boy, not a man.
Sure, but I'm sure they were referring to people cross dressing or being transgendered. I dressed Adam as a monkey for Halloween, but that doesn't mean I think he's a monkey.
Obviously your right as a parent. I just find it really odd to follow such small and outdated beliefs because "the bible told me so".
Do you wear pants, long sleeved button down tops, or t-shirts? If so, then those are styled after sterotypical men's clothing.
I would have zero issues with my son wanting to dress like a girl. Period.
I wouldn't want him to be bullied, but I also think it's wrong to attempt to avoid it, because that doesn't prepare the kid for the real world. You can't shelter them forever, but you can give them coping tools.
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I'm appalled by the fact that people would judge a 5 year old boy. Everyone always talks about 'oh they grow up too fast' blah blah blah this and that. You seriously wouldn't let your 5 year old dress up as something "girlish". I do not see any difference between a 5 year old boy dressing up as woody from toy story and a 5 year old boy dressing up as daphne from scooby doo. It's a character that they like, and that is it.
I really hope those who wouldn't have been ok that your child doesn't ever want to do something that is out of society's "normal" definition.
Sorry in advance, this is going to be long . . .
When we were young my little brother, J, used to put on my red, sparkly see-through skirt, sometimes over a pair of my sister's My Little Pony panties, and dance around with us. My uber-conservative step-father ridiculed him for it, and my mother did nothing to step in and protect him. Leaving the house in that get-up was certainly not an option, not even on Halloween.
When he was older J took up figure skating for a few years and got really good at it, but quit suddenly once he hit junior high and all its bullying. He was the only boy in a summer theatre class, so he quit that, too. His only friends through high school were a couple of sweet, nerdy girls.
He graduated early, escaped our conservative mid-western suburb for Berkeley, and finally got up the courage to come out to our mom on his 18th birthday. He was terrified that she would reject him, because throughout his childhood she had never encouraged him or embraced him for who he so obviously was.
Afterwards she admitted to me that she'd known since he was a toddler, but had hoped that with proper "nurture" he'd grow out of it. She's super supportive of him now, even started a PFLAG group at her high school, and goes out of her way to show how accepting of him she is. But he rarely comes home.
I just wish for J's sake that she'd been able to nurture and support him throughout his childhood so that when he did finally come out, he wasn't so scared of her reaction.
And sure, we'd all love it if our kids never had to endure any type of ridicule, but the best way to avoid that isn't by prohibiting them from being themselves. Not everyone's kid can be the star football player -- someone's got to be the "fat" kid's mom, the "nerdy" kid's mom, the mom who's kid grows a mohawk, and dresses in all black. Sure, you can put your kid on a diet, take away his books, shave his head, but it's not gonna change who he really is on the inside.
It's refreshing to see people take others' points and change how they see something. Bravo!
And what would you do later in life if your son/daughter is bullied so bad that they do something to harm or kill themselves?
Most older kids don't tell their parents that they are being bullied. I will protect my son. Things are so much different than when we were kids. I think some of you are very naive. Step in some of our schools for a day and you'll see.