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Babies: 0 - 3 Months
It really worked! Kinda long...
I took DS to the dr for his 4 month appt last week and when I told the dr that DS was still waking up once a night he told me to let him CIO. He told me that when he wakes up to go in to his room, let him see me, give him his pacifier and walk away. He said that if he cries to wait 30 minutes, go back, let him see me, paci, etc. He promised that if I did this by the 3rd night he would sleep all night. I was very nervous about this, but i gave it a shot.
The first night I did what he said and DS cried for two hours before I finally picked him up and gave him a bottle. I thought I had failed and would have to start over, but the next night when he woke up I gave him his paci and left the room and he went back to sleep on his own and slept until 8:30! Then, the third night he slept all night!!!
I hope this helps someone or at least gives hope!
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Re: It really worked! Kinda long...
I think I'll just sit back and watch!
According to your ticker, he's only 4 mths old. Waking up once a night is pretty damn good! There isn't a chance in hell I would let my baby CIO like that.
::popping popcorn in microwave::
I didn't say I handled it well at all. I cried the entire time he cried.
Any doctor that told me to do that would be the last time I was in that office!
What about mothering & nurturing your child??? They cry when they have a NEED that must be met. Shouldn't your tears have told you maybe this isn't right????
2 hours?! Wow, just wow... This is me
backing away from this post
your post made me sad. i could never just let my baby cry for 30 mins straight and not do anything.
Malakai - 8.3.09
Ezra - 12.1.11 ASD
CIO does not make her heartless. It is the fact that she let her baby CIO for 2 hours at 4 months that makes her heartless!
CIO is one thing but ignoring your baby for 2 hours is totally different!
Everything that I've read states that CIO is NOT recommended for babies under six months old. I wouldn't even do it for babies older than that, but that's my parenting style - I love my daughter and take care of her, I don't think there's any better "style" than that.
She was trying to do what's best for HER - please cite your sources that say CIO is good for a four month old baby. I think you'll find there aren't any and that's why people are calling her heartless, neglectful and selfish.
Well, glad you feel better. I don't care how little sleep I get, I would never let my baby cry for 2 hours without comforting her. But as long as you get some sleep, who givesashit, right?
i am so sorry. you must be feeling awful.
i know that you were only doing what you felt was in the best interest of you and your child. and as a result, your little one is now STTN! that's fantastic. and it was thoughtful of you to share w/the board.?
in fact, i have been struggling with the same thing, and i'm gathering information right now to figure out my best option.
i don't think you deserve the attacks and hatred that you're getting over this. please be assured that not everyone feels this way.
good luck!?
While I don't agree with CIO for babies under six months old, your "I love my daughter and blah, blah, blah" is a ridiculous insinuation that parents who use CIO don't love their children.
I agree. Your baby crying doesn't mean you don't love her. We just did CIO for our little one, which has resulted in her ONLY waking up once a night. And when she does wake up at night, she usually fusses and goes right back to bed. Although I do think 2 hours IS way too long of a time (I always go in after every 5 minutes, comfort, console, and put her back down), you're doing what you think is best, and it's obvious that it is something that worked for you.
There are women who are very opinionated, and to call you a bad mother is just rude. You're not doing something just to torture your child and get your own kicks out of it. Every first time mother is different, and each handle things their own way.
How about instead of being rude and nasty (some of you are nasty about a lot of things all the time), you make suggestions and make better use of your time instead of trampling all over her?
Breleigh & Mason
No, but the person I quoted said it was her STYLE, so I stated MINE - don't you even try to put words in my mouth.
LMAO...you're a cocky one, no? I didn't "put words in your mouth". Maybe look up the word insinuation and get a better grasp on it.
With all due respect, the fact that it brought you to tears is a great indicator that you're going against your maternal instincts. Your maternal instincts are your best parenting tool and you're obviously ignoring them. Please, pick your baby up and deal with the fact that they cry when they are young and wake up multiple times throughout the night.
Babies don't cry for fun, they cry because they need something, even if they just need you. By ignoring his needs, you're sending him a message loud and clear that you are not and will not be there for him. You didn't have a baby just to ignore it and for your convenience, did you?
Please listen to your instincts.?
Breleigh & Mason
it worked because her LO realized that mommy isn't coming, crying or not.
PLEASE read this article. There are real reasons why CIO isn't good for brain developement.
https://drbenkim.com/articles-attachment-parenting.html