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katiekate1974
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What are your "issues"?
katiekate1974
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Everyone has at least one. What are your hot button parenting issues? You know, the things that you simply canNOT understand why people do (or don't do) it. For me: vaccinations, car seat safety, and SIDS guidelines. For the most part, I can let other things go as parenting chioice, but I cannot for the life of me understand not vaccinating, not adhering to car seat guidelines (including ERF if you are aware of the reasons), or not following SIDS "rules". This came up with my sisters this weekend, so now I'm curious. What are yours?
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Re: What are your "issues"?
Not terribly serious, but I can't stand seeing kids out in public with dirty faces. Run a washcloth over your kid's mouth before you go out. It's not that hard.
Not vaccinating because that could possibly affect my child. Everything else I don't care about. Not my child, not my problem. As long as it is legal.
ETA: I should add that there are a LOT of issues I judge for. I just don't get really worked up about them. I prefer to judge silently. lol
Smoking on top of your kids, especially when I'm walking my kid and I have to walk through that cloud of smoke with him.
Vaccines- I don'ty care if you delay or work an alternate schedule, please do it!
Kids in wheelies at public places. Especially going quickly around turns.
Parents teasing kids like they are their peers. Hello, you are their parents, how else are they going to respect you if you don't respect them?
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Except dirty faces.
I went to walmart and saw a 6yr girl wearing a tank top and SHORT skirt- with short-shorts under. It looked like pajamas or underwear.
Ive also seen kids out in t-shirts and shorts or sandals and the parents are bundled up --wtf are you thinking?
Me too, on both.
Also smoking while you're standing next to your stroller.
I have a few.
Circumcision. I don't buy the whole hygenie thing considering that vast amounts of other countries don't do it and somehow teach their boys to clean their penises. Imagine the same argument for cutting off the labia of girls and you see how weird it is. I keep it to myself, mostly though.
RF carseats. I don't get why people wouldn't do a simple thing that keeps their kids so much safer.
I do give a sideeye to those who let their kids watch tv early. Not really an issue, but something I do judge. I'm so weird about it that I don't even know when I'm going to "let go" and sit ds in front of a show. He plays in the room when I watch my cooking shows or baseball, so I'm not so hardcore, but just can't seem to give in to letting him start watching shows.
You mean the tv thing? Believe me, I now get the appeal of turning on the tv now that Ava is here. He's pretty active and likes to do things around the house, so I'm lucky that way. He has become more clingy since she came though, so that's what has made me think maybe it's time to introduce him to animal shows or something so I can get stuff done without having to chatter back and forth with him.
It's hard when you've been pretty strong opinionated about something to then start doing it. I'm afraid he will always be begging to watch once he gets a taste.
OP- you would hate me then. We had DD on a delayed vaccination schedule, bedshared at an early age and started her FF before she turned 2 after too many anxious outings trying to install the car seat correctly RF in a taxi cab.
My hot button parenting issues are yelling and hitting children as a form of discipline. It really upsets me to see this happen. I used to get kind of worked up over junk food and using the TV as a babysitter, but I've mellowed out about these things, except for soda consumption. I see absolutely no persuasive reason a baby or toddler needs to drink soda.
I'll admit that it worries me if I happen to notice an improperly installed/used carseat. I don't judge the parents, but worry about the kid.
As far as kids who aren't dressed weather appropriate, a few things about that. My 3 year old will wear what she will wear. I always have warmer clothes with us and available, but I'm also letting her explore her own comfort level. She's very resistant to pants and prefers to always wear dresses, so she probably often looks inappropriately dressed. She'll wear a coat, hat and mittens with that, but I'm sure there are times her legs are cold and she won't admit that. I feel it's my job to have the option with us and make it clear that if she's cold to put it on, but she knows if she's comfortable or not. My 1 year old pulls off all warm weather gear before we get out of our apartment building. I put it back on constantly, but I totally have the kid you see outside without a hat because she threw it off three or four times in two blocks and I gave up...
Discipline that is not age or developmentally appropriate
Claiming that if the pediatrician said it, then it is true, AND if the pedi isn't worried, then there is no problem.
Making decisions based on uneducated opinions of hot/trendy topics
I don't think it is really a hygiene argument. Men who are circumcised have less of a chance of getting infections, HIV and cancer.
So much so the the WHO stopped a study on the subject because the results were so overwhelming FOR circumcision. And they now recommend it
https://www.who.int/mediacentre/news/releases/2007/pr10/en/index.html
Smoking...OMG!
And I used to be a smoker long before I was a parent.
There are various why circumcision happens, this ranges from hygiene to religious reasoning.
Re the inappropriate clothing, I don't judge that AT ALL. My 3.5 year old will wear what she will wear. I use natural consequences with her. If she chooses not to wear a coat, she learns that she gets cold. She's not going to die or get sick from going out in shorts one time when it's cold. I always bring warmer stuff, but I let her have that independence and power of choice. Not a battle worth fighting. I also let her wear crazy mismatched outfits that she picks out herself. Not a big deal to me and not something I judge when I see other kids.
For me, it's letting young toddlers watch more than a couple of minutes TV (under 18 months), especially if you only have one kid. There is just no reason you can't amuse your child another way. Ditto that for having the TV on all day as background noise. Studies show that even if you think your kid isn't watching it, it IS having an effect on how they play and how you interact with them.
Another one that drives me nuts is people who are crazy about their kid's diet with organic everything and lots of fruits and veggies, but the adults in the household eat like crap. Teach your kids moderation, and respect yourself and your health enough to eat well yourself. What are those people going to do when their kids get older? Never eat a family meal? Why not just cook healthy food for EVERYONE? Your health is important, too!
Considering I'm going to teach Adam not to dip his pen in the well without a condom, removing part of his penis to prevent HIV won't be necessary.
...biting my tongue to avoid turning this post into a circumcision debate...
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Right. Because teens ALWAYS heed their parents warnings about sex and protection.
I'm curious if Europe, who don't routinely circ their boys, have higher rates of HIV.
Considering that what I've read about the HIV-circ connection was done in African countries where AIDS and unprotected sex is out of control, I still don't see a need to cut off part of my child's penis to prevent a very remote possibility. I'm also not going to remove my daughter's breasts to prevent breast cancer.
My hot button parenting issues:
-sleep training - I can understand over a certain age, but think people jump to it too quickly
-circumcision - the arguments in favor don't really hold water if you really think about it
-impatience in general with babies being babies (you know, like complaints about them being clingy or waking up too much in the middle of the night or "still" having a pacifier or bottle)
-taking doctor's opinion without even thinking about it for non-medical issues
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Shawn and Larissa
LO #1 - Took 2 years and 2 IVFs ~ DX - severe MFI mild PCOS homozygous MTHFR (a1298c)
LO #2 - TTC 7 months, surprise spontaneous BFP!