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If your LO nurses to sleep . . .

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. . . do you make sure you're home for bed time every night? I would like to be able to go out for dinner with friends once in awhile, but it usually conflicts with DS's bedtime. Several weeks ago, I tried having DH rock him to sleep with a bottle of pumped milk, but that ended very badly. As soon as I got to my friend's house, DH called me with DS screaming hysterically in the background. Right after we got off the phone, he let out a big burp and went to sleep, so I think that was probably the reason for the crying, but it has made me too nervous to miss bed time again.
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Re: If your LO nurses to sleep . . .

  • babydragonsisterbabydragonsister
    We nurse to sleep, but I work one evening a week so DH has to do bedtime w/ a bottle of ebm.  I was a nervous wreck the first few weeks, but I just let the two of them work it out and it was fine.  Now DH is better at getting him to sleep than I am, haha!  It's nice b/c I never worry about it if I want to go out to dinner w/ a friend or have to miss bedtime for some reason. 
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  • knedellknedell
    We nurse to sleep as well and I have never missed a bedtime.  BUT, DH kept DS last Saturday while I was hosting a shower for a friend and put him down for his nap.  He said he went down with the bottle no problem so we are going to try leaving him with my sister on Friday and see what happens. 
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  • Kelly-reneeKelly-renee

    This may sound insane, but what we have found works the best is for DH to put her to bed.  I am apparently an insane temptation in terms of milk, and while she while lay down and happily eat away and get super sleepy she wants to play with me.  DH goes in there, and within 10 min DD is sound asleep.  It took a while for us to reach this point, but I think it is good for DD to have those daddy snuggles, and that way she knows bedtime is sleepy time not bedtime.


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  • Lotte134Lotte134
    DS nursed to sleep consistently until 5 months and still does now and then to this day.  I do go out, not often but once a month generally, maybe twice.  I've always been a firm believer that it is good for a LO to know that other people are capable of meeting their needs in other ways.  Your LO and your DH will figure it out.  There might be tears (on both sides) the first few times but they will get it down.  DH and DS have a great bond and I think part of that is I gave them the freedom to work things out themselves.
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  • tak2002tak2002
    Henry won't  take the bottle of ebm unfortunately, so if I go out past bedtime (usually about 1x a month) he either stays up late or DH figures out another way (rocking, walkin etc.)
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  • WildcatPrincessWildcatPrincess member

    imagebabydragonsister:
    We nurse to sleep, but I work one evening a week so DH has to do bedtime w/ a bottle of ebm.  I was a nervous wreck the first few weeks, but I just let the two of them work it out and it was fine.  Now DH is better at getting him to sleep than I am, haha!  It's nice b/c I never worry about it if I want to go out to dinner w/ a friend or have to miss bedtime for some reason. 

    This exactly.  The nights I work she goes to bed way better for him AND tends to nap easier as well.  When I'm home all she wants to do is suck suck suck.

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  • QuazelQuazel member

    Although DH is a SAHD, DS has never gone to sleep for him.  He will nap but not do nighttime.  I will stay out later as needed for work or the occassional social thing but I always come home to an exhausted, cranky baby. 

    DS has gone to sleep for my mom and my IL's when DH and I have been out together, he just has something against Daddy putting him to bed.  I almost think other people are a treat for him so they are okay but if it is DH, he rebels, saying "This is MOMMY time!"

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  • jnk062602jnk062602

    I went back to work at 8 weeks old and work 50% days and 50% nights.  So DH had to put her down without me early on.  She adapted to doing completely different things depending on who is putting her to bed.

    On my nights I did bath, lotion, jammie, book/singing, and nursed to sleep.

    On DH's night he did jammie, bottle, laid into crib wide awake.

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