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Question about Ferber Method
We did ferber for naps for our DD and it has really helped her not only sleep in her crib, but sleep for longer stretchs. I think this has also contributed to better night time sleep as well (I was getting up 3 - 6x's a night, but the last 3 nights she's actually STTN ::fingers corssed::).
I have a girlfriend that's about to give it a go for night time and she asked how do you reinforce the habits once you've established them without neglecting your childs needs (i.e. if they're sick, teething, actually hungry). Do they only then cry out if something is wrong? How do you then discern that there is in fact a problem and they're not just starting up old habits. Since we didn't do Ferber for night time, I don't have an answer for her. Any of you ladies have experience with this? Thank you!
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Re: Question about Ferber Method
For me, all was off when she got sick. I picked her up when she needed to be picked up. One night I slept on the couch with her b/c she couldn't breathe well laying flat in her crib.
As soon as the cold was through - she had to CIO for a couple nights but she went right back to STTN.
We Ferbered to get rid of the swaddle and pacifier. So for us, when she cries now we know there's something wrong. However, a lot of times she just has to work it out. Like last night when I woke her up by making dinner (her bedroom is right off the kitchen). She cried and fussed and was cranky, because hey, who wouldn't be after getting woken up? But we knew if we interfered (like we did a week ago, ugh) it would take her WAY longer to settle back down. And just like we thought, in like 5 minutes she was asleep again.
Why is your friend doing Ferber? Is it to get rid of a sleep association?
Thank you! This totally makes sense. Actually, yes, it's to get rid of her paci because she gets up a zillion times a night to put it back in. How long did it take your DD to adjust?
Oh man, your friend is going to be so grateful after doing Ferber. I sleep like seven - eight hours a night now. DD goes to bed at 7pm and gets up at 6:30am. It took two nights of crying and a week of horrible naps to get rid of the pacifier once and for all. We also had to get rid of the swaddle so she could find her thumb so if your friend only has one thing to get rid of it might go a lot smoother.
We had one night of regression a week after we started where she woke up crying, and we had to stick with it. It was SO HARD but so worth it. She sleeps so much better now and can stay up so much longer than before. The week we did Ferber she hit like two or three big milestones and I know it was because of better sleep and losing that swaddle.
This. Wow! DD just started sitting up unassisted yesterday and I told DH that I thought it was because she's getting more restorative sleep because she couldn't quite get the hang of it the last month. Interesting. What do you think the week of regression was related to? My DD did this with her naps. Got the hang of it for a good 3 days after the initial 3 days of Ferber and then regressed for about a week and has since been back on track for the last 4 days or so. Is this typical? And yes, my friend's DD isn't swaddled and only uses the paci at night (so she knows she can sleep without it). I used to WISH my DD would take a paci because in the early days my boob was her paci... but now I'm pretty thankful she didn't. Glad it worked out for you all!
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I've been interested in trying the Ferber Method and this really helps...but I have some questions...can you use it while they are teething? My DS slept through the night up until about a month and a half ago when he started teething. The two bottom teeth are through and I can see the top teeth but they haven't broken through yet. I am assuming that's why he's been waking up but the more I think about it, the more I'm realizing I've probably started some bad habits. I have been nursing him some of the times that he wakes up so now I don't know if he's expecting it? I'm desperate to get more sleep and wondered if anyone had any tips about starting? Should I wait until the teeth are through? How long does this take- like should I stick it out this weekend and try to start on a Friday or wait for the long weekend of Veteran's Day? THANKS!
Yeah, DD instantly started grabbing her feet and rolling on her side which I attributed to more sleep and more range of motion while sleeping.
I am not sure about the regression but it was just one time. They'll cry every now and then which sometimes, as I said before, is due to being piissed that they got woken up or woke up upset. So before disturbing her and potentially making it worse, we do a checklist: is she overtired? Did she eat enough, could it be teething pain etc? If she's still crying after ten minutes or so I will see if she wants to eat or needs to be burped. If it's not that, we give it another ten minutes or so and try gripe water, then the orajel and as a last resort, tylenol.
A good trick I discovered is giving them that gripe water to see if they just need a distraction. I was giving DD tylenol thinking it was teething issues but then a couple of times the gripe water has the same effect. It distracts them adn then they can go back to sleep.