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January 2011 Moms
midnight*sun
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I'm I being an irrational b!tch? (NBR)
midnight*sun
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My crazy SIL who up until 2 months ago had absolutely no interest in ever getting married or having kids, is now engaged and ttc to a guy who was engaged to someone else 4 months ago.
My issue is, she is having her wedding in hawaii on Christmas day and bought the SAME dress I wore to my wedding in March 2010. She just texted me a picture with a side note that she has to get a bigger size because of her huge fake boobs, but is having it taken in over 5 inches because she is so thin (her words, not mine). SIL is extremely selfish and I knew she would probably try something like this, but to wear the exact same dress as me in the same year just rubs me the wrong way. Am I being a pregnant irrational biatch?
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Re: I'm I being an irrational b!tch? (NBR)
I would probably be the most upset about her arrogance (the dress size, etc)... And also, it's an unwritten rule of sisterhood (speaking in the general sense of all women) that you don't wear the same dress as someone you're close to. (Especially in the same YEAR.)
From what you've said about her, though, I'm not sure you're going to be able to reason with her. It sounds to me like she's just trying to outdo you... but I doubt you'll make any headway if you tell her that.
That post was probably no help at all... but good luck. I'm sorry you're having to deal with her.
She already bought it.
You could always bribe the tailor to take it in just a little too much.
This!
Please note I don't feel good and am feeling extra b!tchy this morning:
I would have been sooo tempted to respond back, "Nice dress, but I think I liked it better on me at my wedding. On you... it kind of makes your @$$ look big."
I'm guessing she's older than your H, right?
I hear stories like this ALL the time and have gone through it too with both SIL and my sis.
I really wouldn't say anything about it. It's weird and shows that she's extremely jealous of the attention you two have been getting. Anyone who is at both weddings will think she borrowed your dress. Saying something to her is only going to cause more problems. It's not like you're going to see her in it in person anyway. There's nothing you can say that will result in the two of you having a rational conversation that ends in mutual understanding, especially since she isn't behaving in a rational way at all.
Basically, I think this is one thing you're going to have suck up. And be prepared for her to pull a lot more crazy nonsense on you guys.
It would totally rub me the wrong way, but unfortunately all you can really do is sit back and watch the trainwreck happen. And hope they don't conceive (as awful as that probably is).
Just keep in mind that no matter what dress she chose and when she's using it - it doesn't take away from how wonderful YOUR wedding was. At least she didn't show up at your wedding in the same dress, right?
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
[spoiler]
Oh don't worry my brother copied almost everything from my wedding. I got married in 2008 he got married a year and 1 month after me. We did a Nightmare Before Christmas Theme they did a Zombie. I made x-mas cards with Jack and Sally on them and found out I was pragnant and didn't get them sent out. So we remade them in yellow to give them a "softer" look and sent them out as on invites.
My brother got pissed at my mom a few days before the wedding becasue she kept asking him how he wanted things set up. His respones was "Just make it look like Laurens wedding" The only things that were "different" were the colors SIL picked out purple and black, didn't want any flowers and instead of lighting everything candles and small tree lights. They lit everything with glow sticks and small tree lights. Not only was there theme zombbies, but zombies in "winter wonderland".
I wouldn't be upset, I'd be frightened.