S/O Being Sexy for Husband
How bad is it that I just don't really care and don't see myself caring for probably another year?
I mean. Being sexy is what got me into this mess. 
Seriously, though, I just don't have the time, the energy, the support, and most importantly, the motivation. I'm not saying we don't have sex, but I am constantly in yoga pants and wear makeup maybe once a week - Used to wear it EVERYday and wouldn't dare think to leave the house without it.
Seriously. There's no time. When I get a nap, I grab a shower and blowdry my hair. Or work on "work" stuff. Or clean up after myself and husband - Both of which tend to be slobs.
My husband loves me, tells me I'm sexy when I apologize for looking like crap, no complaints with him in that department. I just genuinely feel bad sometimes that I don't make the effort. I just don't know HOW to even begin making the effort. And, honestly, if I do get makeup done and cute clothes on - By the time he's home, I'm ragged. I've got drool, tears or spit-up on my blouse, my makeup is half-gone from... sweating, I guess? I have no idea. It just doesn't work.
Re: S/O Being Sexy for Husband
haha I tell my DH that all the time!
See, I hate being a hot mess! hate it....I used to get dressed and done up everyday to go to work...
Now I do WAH 4 hours a day (but I consider myself a SAHM) while taking care of the baby and the house. There is just no TIME to get ready--like to spend an hour on haor and make up is silly when there is so mcuh else to do.
But I hate looking and feeling so frumpy all the time!
It was a slow process, and it began when I started to workout at the gym...I got the endorphins working. Then I started to loose weight, that made me feel even sexier.
And now, even though sometimes I may not feel "perfect", I force myself to put my makeup on and fresh pair of clothes on every morning so I could "feel" pretty. Its more for myself than for my husband, and if he thinks I look pretty then its an added benefit
Forget doing it for DH, do it for you.
I make myself get dolled up everyday. I feel so much better about myself and feel confident, when is then sexy to DH.
Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
DH, God bless him, thinks I'm hot in holey sweatpants -- but I don't. What helped me was that I bought all new matching underwear and bras from Soma. I wear them under my holey sweatpants and I feel as hot as he thinks I am.
I feel like a complete frump 80% of the time too. I know it's terrible because I should want to look good not only for my husband, but for me. Yet I just keep thinking "what's the point. It takes too long," and spend that time doing other things that need to get done. It's hard learning how to make yourself a priority again when you're constantly devoting your time and energy to others.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,and He shall direct your paths.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Unless I know I will only be home and cleaning the bathroom and kitchen all day or something, I try to make my hair presentable (squeeze a shower in if I can) and get dressed, wether or not I put on anything more than my bare minerals and mascara or not.
If I feel like I'm a sig slob, then it shows, and I spent enough time after my pregnancy fighting with the way my body looked like to let it get to me now.
You can always change just before DH gets home- that way you feel better when he gets home. It's kind of that 50's thing to get the kids clean and yourself gussied up before the husband gets home, but you deserve to feel pretty whern he is ho,me, not have to feel like apologizing for caring for a child all day!