FFFC, anyone?

uklawgirl · October 2010

New FFC: I am supposed to be doing my annual inservices online for my corporation and I have them playing in the background while I surf the internet for registry checklists. (I'm still not sure I've got everything on there we'll need.)

Oh, and I just had another Reece's Peanut Butter Cup.

futuremrscohick · October 2010

FFFC #1: I lie to my mother in law about how my doctor appointments are going. She didn't want me to come home from the hospital (don't know why) so I don't feel like hearing her say "I told you you should stay in the hospital" in her disapproving tone. It's just easier to say "Yup, all went well" and give yes/no answers to her questions. I hate talking to her on the phone. I think I hate talking to her, period. She is a good person at heart... and when DH is here to play mediator... I just can't deal with her now that I'm 7 months pregnant and miserable all the time.

FFFC#2: I'm really sick of having visitors. It's exhausting having people over constantly. I just want to take a nap once in a while but everyone keeps dropping by. My mom has offered to "lie" to them and tell them I'm sleeping, but I have a guilty conscience. I just want to sit at home and enjoy mommy & me time. Is that so wrong? Embarrassed Especially after my sister has been hogging her the last few months since the twins were born.

ETA: Edited for spelling!

NoemiJ · October 2010

1. I'm kind of upset that so few things have been purchased from the registry. It's not so much that I'm worried that I won't get presents because I know I will. Maybe it's a Latin thing, or just my family, but I expect to get money and clothes at my shower next week. What upsets me is that it makes me think that my immediate family, especially my brothers, don't care about finding out what I need for the my baby as I did with theirs.

2. I side-eye a lot of the posts about ILs/MILs. I know that some people have legitimate issues with their ILs and I feel really sorry for those that have horrible relationships with their MILs/ILs, but you would think from reading TB that all MILs are the devil.

eca10 · October 2010

On May 14th, I found out I was pregnant...4 hours later I found out my grandpa (who was like my second father) passed away very suddenly...2 hours later, my SO (trying to make me feel better) proposed to me. It was an awful day (pregnancy wasn't planned but now I'm SUPER pumped and happy) my grandpa was gone and his proposal just was awful. I don't blame him for panicking but it was not the way I envisoned being proposed to...needless to say we are no longer engaged but still together.....

Well I have kept the ring since then and now he wants it back so he can propose to me again. My FFFC is that I keep pretending to forget to give it back to him because I really don't want to be engaged again. We are nowhere near being ready to be married and I'd rather be more secure in our relationship before then. He gets so hurt when I tell him I'm not ready, but sometimes I wonder if he really is "The One".

starsmaycollide · October 2010

If pumping doesn't work, I'm going to supplement and/or go to formula, because DH really feels strongly about feeding our baby. I don't think it is fair to him as a parent to tell him he can't do that, because it's *absolutely* got to be me because the breast is best. I would never make any other kind of decision that couldn't involve DH, so doing that with feeding doesn't feel right to me either. His feelings on it matter as much as mine. It's important that we agree and both feel comfortable with OUR parenting choices.

And yes, it's best, for Pete's sake, we got the message. If you think that doesn't come through in every post about it, you must not be reading them.

Guess I'm going to probably end up one of those 'selfish' moms.

sandylou · October 2010

I don't like my OB...she seems very good and perfectly capable but she's a loud, fast talker and has too my pep and energy for me. I know I am going to regret not finding a new dr, but I'm not lazy at this point.

AppleMomma · October 2010

mchupie:
cdobry01:

Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.
Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.
I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.
Hahaha after reading that post I was going to post something like this! I agree with you 100%.
I don't buy most of the studies that say things like "FF babies STTN sooner than BF babies", etc. These studies are probably sponsored by companies that make formula.

My parent's laugh when they hear this line. I was FF and didn't start sleeping 9-10 hours until I was ONE. My brother was also FF and he started STTN when he was 5 months.

I would have DH give DS a formula bottle before bedtime each night, and he started STTN at 3 months. But the rest of the time he was BF. He did start sleeping longer after we started the formula bottle before bed, but that's just because he was used to BM.

jaejaevee · October 2010

starsmaycollide:

If pumping doesn't work, I'm going to supplement and/or go to formula, because DH really feels strongly about feeding our baby. I don't think it is fair to him as a parent to tell him he can't do that, because it's *absolutely* got to be me because the breast is best. I would never make any other kind of decision that couldn't involve DH, so doing that with feeding doesn't feel right to me either. His feelings on it matter as much as mine. It's important that we agree and both feel comfortable with OUR parenting choices.

And yes, it's best, for Pete's sake, we got the message. If you think that doesn't come through in every post about it, you must not be reading them.

Guess I'm going to probably end up one of those 'selfish' moms.

I agree with this 100%.

dxiechicken41 · October 2010

I have a 20 oz. coffee every morning and a Diet Coke with lunch.

I eat blue cheese and lunch meat.

I had a glass and a half of red wine last night.

I crave cigs still and have not smoked since BFP day ~ April 25.

I hope my baby doesn't have red hair.

kicey · October 2010

dxiechicken41:
I have a 20 oz. coffee every morning and a Diet Coke with lunch.
I eat blue cheese and lunch meat.
I had a glass and a half of red wine last night.
I crave cigs still and have not smoked since BFP day ~ April 25.
I hope my baby doesn't have red hair.

I completely hear you on almost all of that. Don't eat blue cheese, and haven't been in the mood for lunch meat. But, I still indulge in my caffeine fix. I also haven't had a cigarette since my BFP, which was somewhere right around the same time as yours. I also still crave them like crazy. It's hard...

dxiechicken41 · October 2010

It's hard in a different way, isn't it? It's not like I have to restrain myself from going to 7 Eleven for a pack of Camels, but it's like....nostalgic? I don't know, I always paired smoking with relaxing. I didn't even smoke a lot, but when I did, I always enjoyed something about it. Ironically, I hated the smell and could not be around anyone that was smoking directly at me and I'd have to wash the crap out of my hands when I was done. And I think the habit looks disgusting. Weird.

honey740 · October 2010

dxiechicken41:
It's hard in a different way, isn't it? It's not like I have to restrain myself from going to 7 Eleven for a pack of Camels, but it's like....nostalgic? I don't know, I always paired smoking with relaxing. I didn't even smoke a lot, but when I did, I always enjoyed something about it. Ironically, I hated the smell and could not be around anyone that was smoking directly at me and I'd have to wash the crap out of my hands when I was done. And I think the habit looks disgusting. Weird.

I feel the EXACT same way about smoking, I crave it sometimes too..

CAB'smommy · October 2010

starsmaycollide:
If pumping doesn't work, I'm going to supplement and/or go to formula, because DH really feels strongly about feeding our baby. I don't think it is fair to him as a parent to tell him he can't do that, because it's *absolutely* got to be me because the breast is best. I would never make any other kind of decision that couldn't involve DH, so doing that with feeding doesn't feel right to me either. His feelings on it matter as much as mine. It's important that we agree and both feel comfortable with OUR parenting choices.
And yes, it's best, for Pete's sake, we got the message. If you think that doesn't come through in every post about it, you must not be reading them.
Guess I'm going to probably end up one of those 'selfish' moms.

Can't you pump and let him feed LO with a bottle of your breast milk?

jaejaevee · October 2010

CAB'smommy:
starsmaycollide:
If pumping doesn't work, I'm going to supplement and/or go to formula, because DH really feels strongly about feeding our baby. I don't think it is fair to him as a parent to tell him he can't do that, because it's *absolutely* got to be me because the breast is best. I would never make any other kind of decision that couldn't involve DH, so doing that with feeding doesn't feel right to me either. His feelings on it matter as much as mine. It's important that we agree and both feel comfortable with OUR parenting choices.
And yes, it's best, for Pete's sake, we got the message. If you think that doesn't come through in every post about it, you must not be reading them.
Guess I'm going to probably end up one of those 'selfish' moms.

Can't you pump and let him feed LO with a bottle of your breast milk?

She said she was going to try pumping . . .

indicanoe · October 2010

I am slightly annoyed that my family likes to keep showers a surprise, they won't tell me anything. I am not a fan of surprise parties, and they insist it's the way to go. I am currently under the impression that my baby shower won't be until after Christmas, less than 1 month before little one is due! The reason I think this is the date is because my older sister from Vermont just had her second little one last week. So she won't want to travel for a bit and I can't imagine them throwing it without her.The next planned trip for her to this area is the week after Christmas. I totally want my sister and new nephew there, but I am annoyed that we won't be able to finish stocking the nursery until a month before the baby is here...

starsmaycollide · October 2010

CAB'smommy:
starsmaycollide:
If pumping doesn't work, I'm going to supplement and/or go to formula, because DH really feels strongly about feeding our baby. I don't think it is fair to him as a parent to tell him he can't do that, because it's *absolutely* got to be me because the breast is best. I would never make any other kind of decision that couldn't involve DH, so doing that with feeding doesn't feel right to me either. His feelings on it matter as much as mine. It's important that we agree and both feel comfortable with OUR parenting choices.
And yes, it's best, for Pete's sake, we got the message. If you think that doesn't come through in every post about it, you must not be reading them.
Guess I'm going to probably end up one of those 'selfish' moms.

Can't you pump and let him feed LO with a bottle of your breast milk?

As PP said for me (thanks, btw) I said in the post I will try to pump-but if that doesn't work out, we're moving on.

Honestly though-this isn't directed at you personally at all, but on this post in general- I don't understand why trying or not trying to BF needs to be justified or explained by anyone on this board in the first place.

I'm preparing for a med free birth, but I don't ask anyone why they won't try that first before deciding for sure on using pain meds, or to explain a scheduled c section or induction, or whether they are sure they want an epidural. I may have an opinion on what's best, but it's none of my business what any of you choose to do for your babies.

So I feel that way about BF too. I understand there are benefits, and pros and cons. We're going to do what works for us, and it's a joint decision for DH and I. It may or may not be what works for someone else.

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