What are you dreading?

Hyfagal · October 2010

I'm afraid she'll suffer needlessly because I won't know what she needs. How will I know when to use the gas drops or what if I miss the first signs of a fever until it's too high? What if she gets a UTI or ear infection and I don't know until she's in a ton of pain. Their lack of being able to communicate is terrifying to me.

akemrose · October 2010

sleepless nights. I have to go back to work after 6 weeks off. It will be well worth it but is going to be tough!

~adamwife~ · October 2010

I'm dreading the lack of sleep. I make horrible sleepers - both of my boys were like that. I'm praying that this baby will let me get a little more sleep. I'm going to need it now that my naps are pretty much not going to exist during the day.

buckin · October 2010

Honestly: Birth. I'm terrified of a c-section especially. I have had bad reactions to anesthesia's etc that I have panic attacks.

ncbelle · October 2010

Really only pp bleeding - but as I'm going on 2.5 years of no AF (3 by the time newbie gets here), I suppose I shouldn't complain too much.

Oh, and the first pp poop - ick :-(

Magnolia322 · October 2010

No sleep. With a toddler. Boo. I can't remember how I survived the newborn stage before.

BeetleLinz1125 · October 2010

I am mostly dreading having to deal with the family. I know my fiance's little sister is excited to baby sit, but I don't think I want her to....the last person who babysat for her paid her in alcohol....and she's only 14! She's not the most responsible, and doesn't have common sense. I'm also dreding dealing with his stepmom, as I think she's going to tell me I'm doing everything wrong and it won't turn out as perfect as her Angie did. (Angie is on her 2nd dead beat husband, has 6 kids, is 25 and is constantly making bad decisions. Her "husband" couldn't figure out how to install something on the toilet....but he's going to try and be a mechanic. Winner.)

Other than that, I am just dreading that I will have to find daycare by my house instead of my work and that I won't be able to be there for the little nugget once I go back to work. I work about 45 minutes from home but it is waaaayyy too expenive for daycare by work. I want it close to work so I can stop by on my lunch hour or go check on it in case they call me and tell me something is wrong. I am afraid that if I get it in town, I can't do that.

Tcarrol12 · October 2010

Using the bathroom the first week after having LO. LoL with DD I didnt even rip but peeing became an art form because if urine touched that area I about hit the roof!

SarahTx5701 · October 2010

I am dreading having to handle a toddler and a newborn with my dh deployed. I have no effing clue and I seriously could cry thinking about it. I try to be strong for Dh and tell him it'll be fine. But I'm scared shiitless

I'm thinking lots of zoloft should do the trick...lol

HYFA- It takes a while. I can still remember the first time I actually figured out WHY ds was crying. I said...hmm I think he needs burped. I patted his back and he let out a huge burp and then was happy as a clam. I think I cried. I remember that very moment feeling like a mommy and that maybe I was starting to learn about my kiddo. Granted, I think it was week 3 or later, but still.

You will learn.

The thermometer up the butt was scary, but so much easier when they were little! I would rather stick one up a newborn than a wiggly 1 year old any day!!!

AmberNGIII · October 2010

I am dreading being exhausted. The lack of sleep was bad enough when DD was a newborn but this time around will be much worse. When this baby is born DD will be 20 months, which means no down time for me. Gosh, I can't wait to start slamming redbulls again!

Symharmony · October 2010

I just want this baby to be smaller than 9 lbs. 9oz. Sebastian got stuck for a few seconds, and I don't want to go through that kind of scare again.

AJBMD915 · October 2010

birth. Terrified.

I'm also just really dreading trying to adapt to the sleeping schedule with 2 kids. At least w/ DD I could sleep when she slept during the day. Will not be possible this time since I can't just let DD run a muck while I nap . I'm also dreading trying to get new baby to nap while DD naps so that then I can nap. Just worried in general about handling new baby's needs, nursing constantly, while still trying to pay attention to DD and not make her feel left out.

spursgirl10 · October 2010

I am dreading going back to work. I haven't met her yet but I can't imagine leaving her when she's so little. With my first I had my aunt watching him his first year. But not until he was like 3 months old. But I have to return to work when she's only 6 weeks old. I have no friends or family in this town and I work 12 hour days. I'm scared to death. See I'm getting teary eyed just thinking about it...ugh.

JCragg · October 2010

Baby shower
Family being pushy (not my parents or sister but EVERYONE else)
After the birth bleeding/going to the washroom

AshasaurusRex · October 2010

When DS was first born and we were both running on zero sleep and walking around like zombies I remembered turning to DH and saying "I can't even imagine trying to do this with a toddler running around." Well, DS will be 18 months when DD is born and that phrase still haunts me. I have no idea how I'm going to do it, I'm scared out of my mind.

~adamwife~ · October 2010

AshfieldMay:
When DS was first born and we were both running on zero sleep and walking around like zombies I remembered turning to DH and saying "I can't even imagine trying to do this with a toddler running around." Well, DS will be 18 months when DD is born and that phrase still haunts me. I have no idea how I'm going to do it, I'm scared out of my mind.

It's hard, but you'll manage. You're good as long as your oldest is still napping, because you can rest a little during that time. It took about 6 weeks to get a new routine down with the two of them and then after that I couldn't remember what life was like without 2 of them.

You'll do great!

Disneygeek77 · October 2010

That I will get depression or anxiety with this baby again. It was one thing when it was just DD but now that I have her and the new baby, I am afraid that she will remember her mommy being like that. She will only be 2.5 at that point so I don't know why I am so worried. I think I am just afraid that seeing me like that will someone affect her personality.

MrsTotty · October 2010

BREAST FEEDING.

... and the lack of sleep.

AshasaurusRex · October 2010

~adamwife~:

AshfieldMay:
When DS was first born and we were both running on zero sleep and walking around like zombies I remembered turning to DH and saying "I can't even imagine trying to do this with a toddler running around." Well, DS will be 18 months when DD is born and that phrase still haunts me. I have no idea how I'm going to do it, I'm scared out of my mind.

It's hard, but you'll manage. You're good as long as your oldest is still napping, because you can rest a little during that time. It took about 6 weeks to get a new routine down with the two of them and then after that I couldn't remember what life was like without 2 of them.

You'll do great!

Thanks! Luckily I've been really good about keeping him on a schedule, he still takes two, two hour naps a day. I'm hoping he's still at it when DD is born:). I just hope that all the commotion of a new baby won't throw him off too much.

missfire · October 2010

cruelsound:
Sticking a thermometer up his butt to take his temperature.

Oh god, just use an underarm thermometer! DS has been sick a ton of times and we've never had an issue with it. If he has a high fever, you can tell without a thermometer at all, really, and if the doctor needs you to monitor it exactly, you can get a rectal thermometer then.

~adamwife~ · October 2010

AshfieldMay:
~adamwife~:

AshfieldMay:
When DS was first born and we were both running on zero sleep and walking around like zombies I remembered turning to DH and saying "I can't even imagine trying to do this with a toddler running around." Well, DS will be 18 months when DD is born and that phrase still haunts me. I have no idea how I'm going to do it, I'm scared out of my mind.

It's hard, but you'll manage. You're good as long as your oldest is still napping, because you can rest a little during that time. It took about 6 weeks to get a new routine down with the two of them and then after that I couldn't remember what life was like without 2 of them.

You'll do great!

Thanks! Luckily I've been really good about keeping him on a schedule, he still takes two, two hour naps a day. I'm hoping he's still at it when DD is born:). I just hope that all the commotion of a new baby won't throw him off too much.

Don't be surprised if it does for a bit. Mine were 17 months apart, so it was a similar situation to what yours will be. The oldest regressed a little and started waking up at night, wanting to be held, etc. But like I said, it took about 6 weeks for everyone in the house to adjst and get back into the swing of things. Children are so resilient and they bounce right back in no time. You son is going to do great!

erin.m · October 2010

The first post pardum poo. It's like giving birth again but without the epi. ::shudder::

~adamwife~ · October 2010

missfire:

cruelsound:
Sticking a thermometer up his butt to take his temperature.

Oh god, just use an underarm thermometer! DS has been sick a ton of times and we've never had an issue with it. If he has a high fever, you can tell without a thermometer at all, really, and if the doctor needs you to monitor it exactly, you can get a rectal thermometer then.

Agreed! I've never used a rectal thermometer. ::shudders::

shuaytos · October 2010

Mainly the fear of making the right choices. I'm getting better but up until a few weeks ago I was going crazy about everything from car seats to daycare places. I'm trying to ease up.

skio · October 2010

L&D. And the lack of sleep...I'm a marathon sleeper and I loooove my sleep, so this is going to be particularly hard for me!

erin.m · October 2010

Grace0609:
ncbelle:

Really only pp bleeding - but as I'm going on 2.5 years of no AF (3 by the time newbie gets here), I suppose I shouldn't complain too much.

Oh, and the first pp poop - ick :-(

Ugh. Totally this. I have about 3 things I am dreading:

1) Tearing again and the horrible recovery from that, and the 6 months it took for sex to actually feel good again. I put the first pp poop with this fear.

2) Having another baby who doesn't suck efficiently and the terrible pain of this in those first few months, and despite trying everything (3 lactation consultants, a speech therapist, an occupational therapist, and going on meds for Raynaud's of the nipple) being forced to EP for 12 months to give my child breast milk. : ( I just want breastfeeding to work this time. I want it to feel natural. Got my favorite LC's number in my phone and plan to actually see her prior to the birth AND my first day home w/ the baby to give myself the best shot this time.

3) Post-partum blues. I can't say it was depression, but I have never felt so emotionally out of control as I did those first 4 weeks or so after DS's birth. I am hoping that knowing about it ahead of time this time will help me relax and realize I can't control everything w/ a newborn.

Oh this too!

bre87 · October 2010

i can now say i dread the first post baby poop

not speaking baby

getting home and forgetting everything that the nurses showed me/i read in a book/learned in class. everyone keeps saying "oh it will come naturally" but what if i just don't get it?

Lilena · October 2010

buckin:
Honestly: Birth. I'm terrified of a c-section especially. I have had bad reactions to anesthesia's etc that I have panic attacks.

this, I do NOT want a c-section.

sdsmalltowngrl · October 2010

I'm actually terrified of dying during childbirth. I have a blood condition that makes me prone to blood clots and I am scared $hitless of having a stroke during delivery and never getting to meet the baby and leaving DH alone.

Past that I'm scared because I have to go on injected blood thinners after I have the baby and I don't think it's going to be pleasant pp especially if I tear or have a C-section.

o2bme · October 2010

Chase around a toddler and taking care of a newborn on little sleep.

bbzangel70j · October 2010

1- labor and delivery. i pass out when i see blood, get cut, have something removed, etc. Passing a baby through my cookie should be interesting. A c-section would probably terrify me just as much.

2- recovering from the above. the pain, blood, stinging, stiches (if necessary). etc.

3- a colicky baby. please dear GOD let this baby LOVE to sleep, just like his daddy.

4- a sick baby. Not knowing what to do if he gets sick. Or hurt. ugh my heart breaks just thinking about how much I am going to worry about him for the rest of my life!

hjohn · October 2010

I'm a sleeper- I need at least 7 hours to feel normal and I'm afraid in my sleep deprived state I'll start resenting the baby.

staycee · October 2010

not knowing all that sucks, but guess what - you will figure it all out somehow. We all do. My kid had like 3 ear infections that we didn't know about until we took her in to the doc for other things (like pink-eye or whatever).

thing I am dreading most: being a zombie. Man, the first 3 months with LO were sooooo rough since she was up every 2-3 hours to feed. She didn't STTN until she was 14w old. (and by STTN, I mean Midnight to 5am - but that was HEAVEN!). I was WAY beyond miserable in those early months and swore over and over I would never do that again. :::sigh:::

mommydale · October 2010

Definitely the sleepless nights!

To everyone dreading them not being able to communicate- you'll figure it all out!! You'll just know!!

johannaknip · October 2010

The worry. I still cannot relax and worry about her all the time, and she's still in utero. I'm afraid I'm going to turn into one of those mom's with a tick.

MoonlitPlumeria · October 2010

buckin:
Honestly: Birth. I'm terrified of a c-section especially. I have had bad reactions to anesthesia's etc that I have panic attacks.

This! When I was 6, I got my tonsils taken out and I had a bad experience with anesthesia that was so bad that at 9 when the dentist tried to knock me out to pull four teeth, I freaked out.

Plus all the post pregnancy fun stuff like the first poop and such. I have a low tolerance for pain.

And last but not least I worry about being a good mother. And the responsibility for a baby. I'm a natural worrier and the more I think about the more worried I get.

mommytosam011011 · October 2010

As excited as I am to be a mom. I am terrified. I am scared of birth. I don't wanna screw up. My mom was such a good mom. She always seems to know what to do. And I don't wanna screw them up mentally like my dad and stepmom did to me.

itsme32985 · October 2010

That I won't be able to differentiate an I'm hungry cry with a hold me cry. And I won't know when to switch boobs while bfing. Am I supposed to put put butt cream on everytime I change a diaper? How often do I change them? How often do I bathe them? I'm getting nervous about everything.

kapereasd · October 2010

I am afraid for my two older boys. With new baby will we be able to give them enough love and attention? And I'm a bit worried about how I will keep up with the laundry with now 3 kids...I can barely keep up now as it is!

monkey_pants · October 2010

Sadly, I'm mostly dreading dealing with family stuff. While I'm happy to have my mom and dad and stepmom around, my ideal would be to come home from the hospital with DH and LO, hire a night nurse, and not see anyone else for two weeks. I feel like I'm going to be such a mess and DH's family has all kinds of issues and everyone is just going to be all up in our business all the time. I'd love some time to get things worked out ourselves but I know that's not going to happen

craftytype · October 2010

I'm dreading not knowing what to do, when to do it and being so exhausted that I lose patience easily....

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