Anyone else disgusted with their state's maternity benefits?

helm74 · October 2010

Yep, a Paraguard IUD. It was supposed to more effective and last longer than Mirena. I am very much in the minority and would suggest one to anyone. You just have to remember nothing is 100%. I know a couple of people that have gotten pregnant with their tubes tied. As far as the freedom this provided I loved not having to think about it.

This time I will be having my tubes tied and my husband kinda half jokingly says he is having a vasectomy.

RunningGal900 · October 2010

virginiagirl11:
weelass24:
virginiagirl11:
weelass24:
virginiagirl11:

We are going to take care of ourselves, of course. I would not expect the state to do everything for me. I am just seriously disappointed that it doesn't provide more general backbone support for families.

I don't consider pregnancy to be a disability, either, but if you look at short-term disability (private and, in many states, public), maternity leave is covered.

I am a little surprised at the responses I've gotten here.

Why do you say that?

Well, I said that for several reasons.

a. I should have realized that this topic was political at heart even on this board. Then I would have been better prepared for some of the suggestions that I was seeking a government handout or that people who got upset at their state's lack of benefits were not prepared to support themselves.

b. I didn't expect to feel like one of the only people on the board who did not realize that their company did not qualify for FMLA prior to getting pregnant. I knew the basics of FMLA (12 weeks unpaid), had seen one of my girlfriends take 12 weeks of leave even though her company consists of 5 people, and knew that one other girl at my company who had gone on leave had worked out a very nice plan with my company. But I did not realize that my company was not required to do any of it. Yes, that says a lot about my company but it also scares me a little bit.

c. I simply expected more women to be dealing with the same frustration.

to be clear, I am not starting with you, just offering my views in response.

a. I don't see this as a political issue AT ALL. Maybe it had become one for some since the healthcare bill, but I do no see it that way. I think you are misinterperting things and maybe we are too. It sounded like you expected your state to have a law in place for maternity leave. No one was accusing you of wanting a state handout, just that there is no national law, so you shouldn't expect your state to have one. I don't think anyone here thinks that state maternity leave = welfare.

b. That's fine.

c. I think there are, but I think a lot of them knew prior to TTC that there was nothing. All most of us are saying is that you should have done all the research before TTC, not say, 90% of it.
Okay, I appreciate your input. I'm feeling misinterpreted but you're right, it's possible that I am misinterpreting, too. Also, when I said political, I meant less healthcare bill-related and more general conservative vs. liberal fiscal-opinion- related. Thank you. It is strange to me to feel like I need to defend my financial position but maybe I don't need to.
Yes, I should have done 100% of the research rather than 90% of it. I didn't originally expect my state to make any sort of options available to families having children, but when I realized that my company wasn't covered by FMLA, I started to look more closely at the state.
Someone suggested that my seeking job security is indeed financial motivation. Fair enough, that's true. What I was trying to communicate is that I wasn't looking for a free ride on the fed or state's coattails.

Of course your wanting job security is financially motivated. I'm guessing that most people wouldn't work if they didn't have to (meaning they could do a lot of other things like volunteer, etc - not sit around and eat bon bons all day). My point was simply that the use of the word "support" to me sounds like financial support. I can see now that you were talking about looking for job protection under the law, not someone to pay you while you're out on maternity leave. I think the word support gets used a lot in financial situations (ie child support, etc), which is where my personal confusion came from (and it sounds like perhaps others as well).

weelass24 · October 2010

sagemom:

Yep, a Paraguard IUD. It was supposed to more effective and last longer than Mirena. I am very much in the minority and would suggest one to anyone. You just have to remember nothing is 100%. I know a couple of people that have gotten pregnant with their tubes tied. As far as the freedom this provided I loved not having to think about it.

This time I will be having my tubes tied and my husband kinda half jokingly says he is having a vasectomy.

LOL. At least it wasn't Mirena. There are A LOT of Minera babies on the bump. It's all those babies that make me nervous about the IUDs.

qtsreign · October 2010

OP, I didn't interpret your post as a bitchfest that you're not getting a 'government handout' at all. I think I see where you're coming from, in that this country as a whole does not have as excellent maternity leave as many other countries do- some states are worse than others, too.

I agree with pp- it's shameful that some of you have to spend what time you do get off worrying about whether or not your job will be there for you upon your return.

It sucks, but what can you do?

MrsBeckaT615 · October 2010

Yes, but don't try and change it otherwise people will call you socialist!

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