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Snarky and T-TTC
Everyone's Pregnant...I can't stand it!!!
So we've been TTC since we got married...I'd say it's going on 2 1/2 years now. Started clomid this month...let's see what happens???
My issue though is that EVERYONE that I know is pregnant. I have no idea what it is but I can't even talk to these people anymore. I know it's wrong and rude and selfish and all that but I can't help it!!!
Everyone that got married before and after us at work is pregnant, my neighbors are pregnant (with their 2nd), people at my church are pregnant, and if people are NOT pregnant, they have just given birth and they are obnoxious!
I try to be a good friend, I send cards, I visit in the hospital, I go to their houses and gush over the babies....the truth of the matter is it kills me. I go home and cry to my husband about it all the time.
Friends and co-workers stopped asking me questions about when I'm having a baby...I assume that they already came to the conclusion that I'm having trouble. There are very few people that still ask, and when they do, I deny any issues. I think it's rude to keep asking...if I'm comfortable talking then I'll let you know what's happneing with me. If I don't, back off!!!
Am I crazy? Please tell me this is happening to you too...someone, anyone...Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!
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Re: Everyone's Pregnant...I can't stand it!!!
Not crazy
I feel the same way! I get especially snarky when I see people who didn't want a baby having a baby. UGH!
Good luck and baby dust
I know...and the people who are like, oh...it just happened. Really? That's funny...
...and I especially love the people who tell you to NOT think about it and it will happen. That's the biggest load of crap I've heard yet. I was NOT thinking about it before January of 2010 and nothing happened...ridiculous!
Thanks for understanding...
Good Luck to you!
Oh yes! Lovveee the "don't stress about nothing" people ....
Thanks and you too!!
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Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
::usually doesn't care about baby dust but right now will cut p over it::
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
I stole it for you.
fuuck yea a wand and everything!
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
I'm pretty new to the message boards so I'm not sure what "post an intro" means...
I tried responding in an earlier post and my iPad was having trouble...that's why I said, "not". That didn't really mean anything...
Just wanted to vent about my frustrations...I know a lot of other people feel this way and I was hoping to hear some of your stories...or the way you handle the sadness.
Anyway, if you are looking for puppy and rainbow support, the Infertility board is awesome for that. If you want to join in here, stick around and don't do anything douchey and eventually you will get the feel of this board, the jokes, etc. This group isn't for everyone, but these women are AWESOME, each and every one of them. In fact they are the most amazing people I have ever met, funny and amazing and generous and supportive, and yes, I have met some of them IRL.
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Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
Seriously????
Post an intro. It's pretty self-explanatory. Just as you would introduce yourself to a group of strangers in person, you should introducet yourself to a group of Internet strangers. And I don't know about anyone else, but biitching about "everyone" being pregnant isn't an intro for me.
If you want to hear stories or how people handle it, then ask that question. Just venting makes me want to say, "oooooooookay", but that's about it.
How do I handle it? I realized pretty quickly that not "everyone" is pregnant, and my fertility status isn't directly tied to anyone else's.
Oh, and booze helps.
wow, I guess Snarky is the perfect way to describe some people in this community.
A little harsh there Dr. Loretta, absolutely no need for the sarcasm or put downs.
You say I should just ask the question rather than, "***", as you put it...well if you re-read my original post you will see that I DO ask questions...
If we're not supposed to, "vent", then what are these message boards for anyway? I mean just because you don't use them for these reasons doesn't mean someone else can't. There are thousands of posts on The Bump daily, I'm positive that at least half are bitching AND venting posts.
I'm well aware that MY fertility is NOT directly linked to anyone else's. I'm realistic and reasonable...I was simply expressing emotion...I know that not EVERYONE is pregnant, it just seems like they are because I'm NOT.
I'm certainly not looking for an argument or confrontation. I'm simply defensing my original post because I was being honest and real and I want to thank the people who responded. If me, "just venting", makes you want to say, "oooooookay", then just say it. The point of venting is to just let it out...sometimes you don't want a response.
If my posts irritate you or make no sense, then just don't comment. I'm dealing with too much right now to waste anymore energy on explaining myself. I wish you good luck on your journey and happiness. SERIOUSLY!
The Infertility board can be found right on the left hand side there. In between the high riskers and the LGBTs.
LOL...Thanks Serendipitie...that was helpful. I will check out the infertility board ASAp.
Good Luck to you and I hope I talk to you again...
Thanks for explaining this to me!
I didn't detect any real snark in Dr, L's response. Here's the deal - when you are so far past the sadness and disappointment and anger, etc. you end up here. We sometimes post to vent, but most of the time we talk about other things. Therefore, if all you want to do is post about venting, etc. you won't fit in here. If you had just complied and told us something about YOU instead of just your TTC status, you would have gotten a better response.
My lord, you people are hard headed.
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Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
I can see that...lots of people posting about work and cars. LOL
No biggie...like I said, I was just looking for some feedback. I can easily go to another board...there's plenty to choose from.
I'd rather discuss TTTC with people who are also having this issue rather than share recipes or swap vacation stories. I can easily do that with my co-workers and friends...I don't need The Bump for that.
I have to disagree about the snarkiness in Dr. L's response. It was sooooo there.
There's lots of people in the "snarky & TTTC" community that seem interested in my post and aren't really too concerned with whether I'm complying or not (which is hilarious to me BTW...let's not take this too seriously now).
If you guys sometimes post to vent here, then just accept my 1st post as that...a random post to vent.
Phew...fitting in with this group seems more work than my sorority pledge class in 1993! WOW!
LOL
Congrats to you!!! Thank you for understanding...I'm positive that you are empathetic and kind to your friend. I can just tell by the tone of your message...
It's hard...but we get through it. My good friend Michele is in her 8th month and we started trying together. I totally understand what both you, and Reba are going through. It sounds very similar to my situation.
Thanks again for the encouragement...
I can't help myself here. The "douche" needs to respond to this post.
So--you guys seriously ran this girl off the board too?! WOW. And a moderator was involved. Ay! That's disappointing. This really isn't a board, it's a clicky club that should probably be made into a private website for just you girls because obviously no one else is really going to be included. Even if they are struggling to conceive for 2 1/2 years. And the new Pink girl has to answer a quiz? For real...
Demibaci- if you post here, I will respond!
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Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
Sometimes I hate the internet because I have no idea what you are implying by the "what is wrong with you?"
Do you mean, what is wrong with you physically? mentally? why are you bugging us? I guess I am just trying to put some sunshine and rainbows on this board! No, I just got bored one day and joined and started reading and thought you guys were kind of mean to newbies. Felt like sticking up for them. But in all honesty, you guys are making me laugh. Oh and I am gullible and stupid most of the time and stubborn. And I like guacamole and chocolate. Not together. Separately.
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Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
FTR- we were actually instructed by the nest gods to direct people to a more appropriate board.
True story.
Ok, so she had an honest question. But she obviously never tried to put herself in someone else's shoes. I guess the way you are responding to people and throwing a fit any time someone comes in here to post is the kind of rudeness/mean I am referring to. Insults, name calling, etc. You might be the type that doesn't realize you are being mean- funny perhaps?
And what about this actual post and you guys snapping at her for posting without, gasp, an intro?! Anyway, forget it. I should really stop posting because I feel like a moron and obviously have no idea what is going on in your heads and hearts...I am sorry. I need a better hobby.
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Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
ridiculous!
Thanks hope4two...I look forward to chatting with you again soon, hopefully not on this board. LOL
See ya folks...this is too much drama for me.
Seriously- why do people come to this board expecting it to be puppies and rainbows?
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Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
Ok point taken. Not mean to EVERYONE just some, I am not going to win this argument. It's not wrong to ask people to say sex, I personally hate the term baby dance. This is the SNARKY board, I am off my soap box. I get it. Sharing is good, I guess it's the way you go about asking for it or demanding it- it's fine! People who have tough enough skin will stick around.
A whole lotta crazies in this board huh? Maybe you all should join a yoga class or learn to breathe deeply...seems a bit much that you are ganging up on each other, beating each others head into the pavement until you knock the sense out of every last person in here. I thought this was a nice site for adult women to chat about babies and pregnancy and life...not the latest girl gang. Whats your little cliques name anyways?
You should allllllll be ashamed of yourselves for ever making anyone feel bad for reaching out for help. You are the bullies of society and no one likes that crap. I believe in karma every last one of you bullyin biotches will get whats coming to you. Would you like to be spoken to with such disgust as you have spoken to any of these fine people in here? I'm not anyones side because everyone in here is grabbing at the throat of someone else. It's very sad. Havent you ever heard Do unto others as you would have others do unto you" Good day.....
I said good day!
PS all of your children will grow up to be the jerks of society....just like YOU!
my point exactly, you wish pain on what you think is your enemy. I did nothing but point out the truth and obvious....and you wish pain upon my ass?
Boooooooooo
You should look inside yourself...do you like what you see? Such anger, vengence and little remorse for those dealing with the same day to day struggles. Your life is no more important than mine or anyone elses here....so once again I say SHAME ON YOU! You're mother would not be proud of how you have conducted yourselves. And yet again...GOOD DAY.
Actually... you apparently do not understand the definition of "snarky". I think you are lost. Shall I provide directions or would even offering be deemed and insult and get me another verbal tongue lashing? My mother would call you dumb-b!tch for butting your nose in were you obvously do not belong.
I do not expect people to fall all over me with support and understanding. Therefore, no one should expect me to do the same for them.
A post like this wouldn't have been complete without a reminder that it's Karma kicking our asses and a comment on how I'll screw up my non-existent future child.
Hang in there! I know it's tough (if you look at my profile, we've been married almost 9 years, my LO is almost 15 months). We've had lots of heartbreak and needed lots of patience, but when you finally have your baby in your arms (no matter how he or she got there), you will find it is totally worth it!
(We did 7 rounds of Clomid, and 6 IUI's for DD1. I have PCOS.)
zomg---this post is full of win. Did someone *really* just say Dr L was snarky? You guys got the karma card pulled on you in under 2 pages? "Jerks of society"? "Sorority"? "Girl Bullying Clique"? Random lurker coming to the defense of the poor newbies?
:giggles:
I love you mean beetches.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.