FFFC, anyone?

pawcall · October 2010

Anyone got anything fun to confess?

pawcall · October 2010

I have some much flamier ones for later, but I'll start with a somewhat ridiculous one...

Talking on the phone to people other than my mom, my little sister, my grandma, or my husband gives me the worst anxiety ever. If I think about it too much before trying to do it, I am likely to get so worked up that I will throw up. I do not know what's wrong with me.

ffejsGirl · October 2010

Last Saturday we were trying to watch the Husker game and Aiden was being super whiney so I let him eat 3 sugar cookies for a half hour of peace Embarrassed

My mom couldn't believe it because I'm very anti-sugar anything for him, but I just wanted to sit and watch the game for a minute.

mchupie · October 2010

We're pregnant, we're going to get huge, people are going to make stupid comments about how big we are...that we look like a giant marshmallow, and that we might just 'pop' any day.

It's going to happen...a lot. I don't get why it bothers everyone so much. People are stupid and rude and say whatever they want without thinking. Just get over it.

ETA: My confession is that I think it's silly most of the time when people complain about this kind of thing...although I guess it's more of an unpopular opinion hehe

Tz's_Bride_2B · October 2010

My parents have just announced to us that they will be getting a divorce after 44 years of marriage. My mother already has a condo purchased and they are moving forward with it immediately. I'm not distraught over it as this has been in the making for over 9 years and they have finally reached a decision.

FFFC part - The first family get together is MH and I's couples shower in 3 weeks and I am worried about it getting ugly. I just want to enjoy this time and I feel selfish for worrying about myself and my child's relationship with her grand parents while they are going through such a hard time.

Mrs.CFH2 · October 2010

I'll go. I am naturally a stressed out person. I know that is like the worst thing I can do right now for the baby, but I can't help it. I was up last night for like an hour having a slight anxiety attack over all the stressful things going on with my job, getting everything ready for the baby in time, my shower, etc. My heart was just pounding and every time I tried to think of something more peaceful, it would resort in something else stressful. Part of the problem is all these things are out of my hands so there isn't anything I can do about them.

I wish H didn't have to travel so much the next few weeks so he could finish up the furniture.

I wish my mom and MIL would just handle all the pieces to the shower and leave me out of it so I don't worry about it.

I wish my job would just lay me off for a multitude of reasons- it is definitely giving me the most anxiety right now.

MarSamWhitney · October 2010

I will second the "I wish I could be left out of the shower" because I don't give a darn about how the silverware or food is presented. and again on the "I wish they would just lay me off" I am dreadfully slow and spend most of the day on FB, the Nest, and the Bump. I have expressed how slow I am, but there is nothing for them to give me. STD is a quarter of what unemployment would be, and unem would give me more time to stay home with the baby.

I feel greedy thinking that, because people would love to have a job making what I do, but I can't help it.

honey740 · October 2010

I totaled it out and me and my husband spend about $75+ on Starbucks every week. Talk about rude awakening!

campberson · October 2010

The person that I sit next to at work constantly (like at least 2-3 times a minute) sniffs really loud. The kind of sniff you would sniff if you had a cold - sometimes it's just a plain, dry sniff, and sometimes she throws in a throat noise, too. But she doesn't have a cold. Ever. It drives me absolutely CRAZY! Sometimes I sniff back really loud, but most of the time I just let my imagination run wild with what I would do/say to her if I ever had the balls.

Maybe that wasn't FFFC-worthy, but it felt good to say (type) it out loud!

Milo5181 · October 2010

We don't have anything set up for baby. Nothing.

Tracy6450 · October 2010

...heather...:

The person that I sit next to at work constantly (like at least 2-3 times a minute) sniffs really loud. The kind of sniff you would sniff if you had a cold - sometimes it's just a plain, dry sniff, and sometimes she throws in a throat noise, too. But she doesn't have a cold. Ever. It drives me absolutely CRAZY! Sometimes I sniff back really loud, but most of the time I just let my imagination run wild with what I would do/say to her if I ever had the balls.

Maybe that wasn't FFFC-worthy, but it felt good to say (type) it out loud!

Is it possible that we work at the same place?!?!? I have a coworker that does the same thing and it drives me crazy!

RedZee · October 2010

Kind of a long one...

SIL would not let MIL in L&D. MIL really wanted to be there and CONSTANTLY tells me she wants to be in there with me. Depending on when I go into labor, it might take DH a few hours to get to the hospital (he coaches wrestling and he's the only coach this year so wouldn't be able to leave a tournament so quickly - he'd have to get the kids on the bus and back to school first).

Last night, MIL told me I should tell her how to be the labor coach so she can be in there with me. Both ILs and my parents live within 3 miles of us. If I need someone in there, I'd call my mom first. I'm not sure I even want my own mom in there - I DEFINITELY do not want MIL in there. I told DH that I might even call one of our local friends to take me 'cause I'd rather be alone than have MIL in there. I think it's totally weird for her to be there and I know she'd talk about SIL (who we don't speak to) the whole time and I just wouldn't be able to relax. DH is a bit bothered that she's my absolute last choice - he thinks she should be the 3rd choice.

NJBrit · October 2010

I just made a batch of snickerdoodle cookies, and they are d@mn good!

(They are gluten-free, so I feel extra proud of the fact that they are delicious)

MsixelA · October 2010

I have eaten a popsicle for breakfast every morning this week.

I hid DH's favorite Xbox game and told him I didn't know where it was when he asked. He's been away so much recently and is about to be away again for about a month so I didn't want him just playing video games the only time we are together... I keep it in my bra drawer.

MarSamWhitney · October 2010

Milo5181:
We don't have anything set up for baby. Nothing.

ditto.

cherryghost · October 2010

I really don't want to visit my in-laws this weekend. It's only for one night, but still. I'd rather drive that two hours to be with my mom and dad instead. I just know how it will be. They're gonna be sitting around watching college football all day and all night and I could care less if there was an upset or if a team wins big. I think I'll bringing some books and my ipod. I just want Sunday night to get here so I can pass out candy to the kiddies and think about next Halloween and what LO will be be. hmm...

Mikejustine · October 2010

Milo5181:
We don't have anything set up for baby. Nothing.

This!

I was told I couldnt buy anything until my shower was over...which isn't until Thanksgiving. It's giving me major anxiety but I am trying to remain calm.

tinytraxx · October 2010

MsixelA:

I have eaten a popsicle for breakfast every morning this week.

I hid DH's favorite Xbox game and told him I didn't know where it was when he asked. He's been away so much recently and is about to be away again for about a month so I didn't want him just playing video games the only time we are together... I keep it in my bra drawer.

My Husband's dealership closed down (which was 10 minutes away) and his new job is about an hour away so we spend much less time together. I disconnected the router on the internet so he couldnt spend 3 hours a night on Craigslist looking at cars. I told him I guess the internet is down....sorry too bad.

tinytraxx · October 2010

Milo5181:
We don't have anything set up for baby. Nothing.

And this.

I dont have a room for him either. I have a loaner basinette and some clothes. And its all in the living room. Thats it.

pawcall · October 2010

Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.

Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.

I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

MsixelA · October 2010

cdobry01:
Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.
Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.
I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

100% agree. I read through some, but it was way too long & bickery.

holiday819 · October 2010

ok this might be a little long, sorry

MIL has been driving me nuts since DD was born, may '09. she is just super clingy to us and feels like she has to be the first to know or do anything. for example: DD was in the NICU for the first 6 days, I of course was the first to hold her and then DH which it took a couple of days for the nurses to let him hold her. i was only allowed to hold her to nurse, which was great. so when MIL came to NICU DH had mentioned that he hadn't held her yet and MIL responded: "i haven't even held her yet!" um she's our baby! and this type of behavior has continued over the past year and a half. she refers to DD as "my baby" and does baby talk with her. we hate baby talk, and have told her to stop numerous times. she only does it with DD and none of the other grandkids it's super annoying. if we're on the phone together and DD whines or something MIL goes aww is she ok? sometimes i just want to say no i just let my child get hurt and don't really watch her.

oh and whenever we talk, more like whenever she talks its always a one sided conversation and then when i want to say something "oh i have to go i just got home" ok great i didn't want to say anything either. i feel bad for venting to DH about her and he jokes with me about why do i hate her. my response i don't hate her i just can't stand clingy people. don't get me wrong MIL is a great woman and has been there for us so many times and supports our relationship more than my family. i just feel like a switch went off once we had a baby. and i wish that she would cut the cord already. thanks for reading and letting me vent Smile

holiday819 · October 2010

cdobry01:
Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.
Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.
I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

this too! i'm not one to push my ideas and beliefs on someone but i just wish that ppl would just try breastfeeding and if it doesn't work because your baby isn't getting enough then i understand. breast is best!

sandylou · October 2010

...heather...:

The person that I sit next to at work constantly (like at least 2-3 times a minute) sniffs really loud. The kind of sniff you would sniff if you had a cold - sometimes it's just a plain, dry sniff, and sometimes she throws in a throat noise, too. But she doesn't have a cold. Ever. It drives me absolutely CRAZY! Sometimes I sniff back really loud, but most of the time I just let my imagination run wild with what I would do/say to her if I ever had the balls.

Maybe that wasn't FFFC-worthy, but it felt good to say (type) it out loud!

My BIL used to do this and it turns out he has a mild case of celiacs...he doesn't sniff if he eats a gluten free diet!

mchupie · October 2010

cdobry01:

Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.

Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.

I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

Hahaha after reading that post I was going to post something like this! I agree with you 100%.

I don't buy most of the studies that say things like "FF babies STTN sooner than BF babies", etc. These studies are probably sponsored by companies that make formula.

pawcall · October 2010

mchupie:
cdobry01:

Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.

Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.

I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

Hahaha after reading that post I was going to post something like this! I agree with you 100%.

I don't buy most of the studies that say things like "FF babies STTN sooner than BF babies", etc. These studies are probably sponsored by companies that make formula.

Well, they say that formula is harder for the baby to digest, and therefore takes longer, and therefore ff babies eat less often. But I truly believe BF'd babies are just as capable of STTN and will do it when they're ready.

For the record, I think there are many many valid reasons why BF'ing might not work for some people - and not just because "the baby's not getting enough" - if it makes mommy miserable, it's not worthwhile. Your baby needs you to be at least partially sane. But to not even bother trying just seems.. Huh?

uklawgirl · October 2010

cdobry01:
Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.
Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.
I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

I agree. Which is why I don't read the BFing posts, even though I feel so passionately about it, b/c I'd be judging everyone. Same with circumcision. I see it as barbaric and unnecessary (and with a DH and a SS that are uncut I have first hand knowledge about it) and I don't want to end up judging anyone so I don't read those posts.

My other confession: I have been eating Halloween candy nonstop for 2 weeks. OH, and I absolutely hate my job this week which doesn't seem like a confession but I am a volunteer director and as much as I love my vols, sometimes I wish they would all just go away and leave me alone.

pawcall · October 2010

uklawgirl:
My other confession: I have been eating Halloween candy nonstop for 2 weeks.

I ate nothing but halloween candy for lunch yesterday. So far I've eaten just candy corn today.

How I have already gained 22lbs is a complete mystery to me... Embarrassed

jaejaevee · October 2010

I have two (for now).

1. Even though showers for second babies are considered taboo on TB and not done in MY family - I am pissed that MIL hasn't mentioned throwing us one this time. She had a hissy fit the last time and didn't throw us one because my family didn't want to combine theirs with hers. She barely even showed up to the one they threw and acted like an ass the whole time (similar to what she did with my bridal shower). I know it makes DH sad which is a huge part of why it bothers me.

2. I didn't even try to BF my first and I won't with this one either. It's just not something I have in me. I feel a little guilty about it, but that's just the way it is.

Side note - DS slept like *** for the first 6-9 months so I think that whole FF babies sleep better theory is crap. Some babies are just better sleepers, IMO.

Mrs.CFH2 · October 2010

cdobry01:
Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.
Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.
I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

Yes I almost posted something very similar in that post, but didn't want to get involved. I hate being controversial on here, but this one just gets to me. It's one thing if you try and it doesn't work but I am shocked at how many people just resort right to formula. I think the cost alone makes it worth trying. Yikes that stuff is expensive.

kcisthebombdotcom · October 2010

cdobry01:

Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.

Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.

I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

I used to think like this...until I actually BF a baby. Now I completely, 100% get why people don't even try.

kcisthebombdotcom · October 2010

Oh-and my confession that's actually flameful. I took my prenatal last night and washed it down with beer. Yum beer.

bumblepeck · October 2010

MsixelA:

I have eaten a popsicle for breakfast every morning this week.

I hid DH's favorite Xbox game and told him I didn't know where it was when he asked. He's been away so much recently and is about to be away again for about a month so I didn't want him just playing video games the only time we are together... I keep it in my bra drawer.

hahahaha i like the way you think!

KeyRyn320 · October 2010

1. I really don't understand a lot of gripes some people have. I could care less if someone calls me preggers or lil mama instead of my name and I have already had several people tell me I'm huge (even though I know I'm not but I will be). I think it's funny more than annoying. The only thing that bothers me is strangers rubbing my belly and none have done that so I can't even complain. Maybe it's the thick skin I got from being a reporter and having doors slammed in my face a lot, but there are more important things going on in the world.

2. I have been coming in to work late for the past month or so. I'm talking noticeably late, like by at least 15 or 20 minutes. And I could care less, especially because I'm salary so I get paid the same no matter when I come in and I still get all my work done before the end of the day.

Laruen · October 2010

I don't understand the point of having a doula to me it just seem like one more added extra cost that isn't really needed.

I also don't get why women don't try BF first, it saves time and money and is really good for the baby.

I do want to give mad props to all the women who CD and wash there own diapers. DH and I are CD but only becasue I found a service that picks them up once a week and cost the same about if we were to get the diapers at costco.

izzourclue · October 2010

I also have over-indulged in the Halloween candy.

I was watching Deliver Me and shouting at the TV the other day. The woman they were following has Type II diabetes and was not controlling it at all on her own. They had to admit her to ICU to control her sugar because she was massive doses of insulin. They OB said she couldn't go home and would have to stay in the hospital until she delivered. So she went AWOL. Left the hospital and was missing for 6 hours. Went shopping, to a movie and out to lunch. Her blood sugar was sky high when she got back and they had to up her insulin dose again. I screaming at the screen and calling her a selfish wh0re.

FFFC? I don't think everyone deserves the blessings they are given and it makes me mad that I had to struggle for my little blessing and I'm afraid to eat lunch meat for fear something bad will happen.

kicey · October 2010

I have a friend that has been ttc for a few years now. She and I used to talk about it a lot, and about her anger and frustration that everyone around her was pregnant. Now, I'm pregnant. I understand how she feels, and I feel like crap about it. But the *** that she is pulling lately to not be around us is getting ridiculous. I know why she doesn't want to be. But, I would much prefer that she say "I don't want to hang out", rather than on Monday "Oh, let's hang out on Wednesday", and then on Tuesday "Oh... yeah, about that... I can't anymore. Something came up". Every. Single. Week. It's getting old.

ETA: The confession part of this is, I don't really want to check with her to see if she's coming over tonight; I really don't want to get another lame excuse. *sigh*

JEN1974 · October 2010

KC_13:
cdobry01:

Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.

Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.

I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

I used to think like this...until I actually BF a baby. Now I completely, 100% get why people don't even try.

I totally agree...I breastfed DD for 7 mos and while I'm glad I did it, it wasn't easy...particularly when I went back to work and had to pump routinely. DD had 2 teeth at 4 mos--I got bit alot and it hurt. I also had clogged ducts...those hurt. I didn't lose weight through BF and I couldn't reduce my diet because my supply would tank. I had no freedom through all of maternity leave because she refused to take a bottle from ANYONE...it took 2 days of daycare to "force" her to take a bottle. I don't judge people that don't BF because it's not always an easy thing to do and it bothers me that people do judge (particularly 1st times moms to be...you have no idea either...who are you to judge??). My sister never BF because the hospital immediately started with formula because she was completely out of it for 24-36 hours due to Magnesium for pre-eclampsia...my niece is nowhere behind my DD in any way, never sicker, etc

branlynn · October 2010

There is this girl in my 9am MW Psychology of Drugs and Behavior class that shows up EVERY CLASS in 6 inch heels, club clothes, and enough makeup to use for a cave painting... and jewelry to boot. Most of us are there in jeans and a t-shirt, or in my case 75% of the time I'm in sweats... this girl seriously looks like a hooker. No exaggeration. So I've started taking pictures on my cell phone and posting them on twitter. Probably going to hell, but she should realize if she's going to dress like that, people are going to make fun/judge her.

also, I totally drank one of those mini cans of coca-cola for breakfast this morning. and it was delicious.

skoogirl · October 2010

I'm going to finish the rest of the cake from my shower by Wednesday because that's when I get my GD test results back.

CAB'smommy · October 2010

cdobry01:
Although I am fully aware that it's none of my business, and FF babies do just fine, I judge people who won't even try breastfeeding.
Trying it and finding out that it doesn't work for you or the baby is one thing. Refusing to try because you're "sure" it will be too difficult/painful/gross/uncomfortable/whatever just seems selfish to me.
I didn't read through all of the breast vs. bottle posts, so I have no idea which of you I'm judging right now, but there's my confession.

1. Thank you for saying what most of us wanted to! I have a really hard time with this because my BFF of 20+ years didn't try to bf her first or her new baby because she's too modest. She actually didn't want to get pregnant for awhile because she didn't want to go to an OB/GYN. The whole not bf-ing thing just breaks my heart because I feel like the women that don't try are entirely too selfish. Yes it is painful at first. It lasts about a week. What's a week after the 10 months we've been through?! It's just so much more beneficial for both mom and baby.

2. I have eaten 2 Reese's cups a day and a glass of milk a day for the last week. This doesn't seem bad except I'm GD. / But the rest of my diet has been good....Well except for today. I had 2 pieces of white bread for breakfast, because I was out of all of my standard breakfast foods were gone and the thought of eggs made me gag. And then McDonald's with DD for lunch. Pizza for supper. This is the worst I've been all 7.5 months so far. Yikes! I'll try harder tomorrow. The sad part is that I'm not worried about this LO getting too big, it's a given. I need to be worried about her insulin level and how she adjusts at birth. Maybe I'll tattoo that on my forehead or something so I can remember whenever I look in the mirror.

And I just have to say to those 2 pp about hiding the video games and disconnecting the internet...KUDOS TO YOU! I would love to do that! Unfortunately DH downloads games to the x-box and he's OCD about fixing things that don't work. He spent all of our family time for 3 days trying to hook up some wireless router for the wii or something. Ugghh!!

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