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kapereasd
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Poor poor pitiful me - update!
kapereasd
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Here is my original post: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/44504062.aspx
So...obviously I am upset over having to get rid of our dog. A friend of mine volunteers at the animal shelter and offered to take her in for us...I took her up on it just because I can't bear to see her taken away and put in one of those little cages...this is hard enough for me, I can't watch that. She was going to come over after work and pick her up for us...well instead she came over and gave me all kinds of attitude about it and decided she was not going to do it. I understand, it is our responsibility, but why offer in the first place? All she did was make me feel guilty about not being able to give the dog the right kind of home...just making snide comments and then she left quite rudely. I was there crying my eyes out about how hard this was for me and all she can do is make me feel worse. Now not only am I super upset, but I'm furious too!! Ugh!!!
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Re: Poor poor pitiful me - update!
Your title reminded me of this song
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKv_vJks2gM
I know this is hard but it's your dog. I think you owe it to her to make it the least traumatizing it can be.
Take her to the shelter. They'll take her at the front desk.
But making her leave with a stranger and get in a car without her "family" and then taken to the shelter is a bit cruel IMO.
I thought you were finding her a home?
She shouldn't have offered, but if she works at a shelter did you really expect that she was going to pick up the dog and have nothing to say about the subject? Why don't you guys try to find a home for her using craigslist or kijiji? There are often lower income families trying to find dogs as pets but are trying to avoid the $200-400 adoption fees at the local shelters. That way you could meet the adoptive family and maybe even check up on the dog over the next few months.
Sorry to be harsh but I don't have much sympathy. You wanted your friend to deal with it because you know that taking her to a shelter is very likely a death sentence.
She's a young dog who sounds like she needs some serious exercise and training. Has she been crate trained? Does she get regular walks? There are lots of options that it doesn't seem like you've explored. Kicking her out of the house probably only made the problem worse. If she was "going all over the house," she needs to be crated when you can't watch her - and re-house trained when you are watching her.
And, yes, you made a commitment to this animal and owe it to her to do more. Not all dogs train easily - but you took her in and it's your responsibility to take care of her.
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All of this.
Did you do any research at all when getting a Lab puppy? Or did you just pick the cutest one?
The only one I feel bad for is the dog. Do yourself a favor and don't get another one.
We did post an ad on craigslist to try to find her a home...then animal control called and told us that it is illegal to do that in our county...that she has to be registered back through the shelter. My friend who volunteers at the shelter already has a few families who are interested in her so she hopefully won't be at the shelter long. I think my frustration comes from the fact that she offered to take her. Yes, it should be our responsibility to take her in, but I thought she was trying to do us a favor by maybe making it a bit easier for us. It may not be the absolute nicest thing for us, but it would have done a lot for keeping my stress level down.
I know she is our responsibility and we hate feeling like we are giving up on her. Yes she is crate trained, but we don't feel that it is any better to stick her in a crate here than where she can have a loving family. We are trying to do what is best for our family...we do love her, but she just isn't working out for us. We have had her over a year and we have done a ton of work with her in that time. The problem is, with LO coming, we just don't feel like we have that much time to devote to her any more. We are trying to do what is best for her and for us. I know this causes a lot of controversy, and believe me, this isn't easy for us...
Good for your county for making posting dogs on CL illegal - way too many crazies out there who want dogs for fighting or worse.
As for your friend...seriously, I think you have no room to be angry with her. It's not her place to make this easier for you - it's a crap thing to do and you need to own it. If I worked at a shelter (and as a former shelter volunteer), there's no way I'd be nice to my friend surrendering her animal for this sort of reason - sorry.
If you love the dog, then you would find the time. If you don't want to find the time, the own up to the fact that you aren't being a responsible person and stop looking for validation for what you are doing. Dogs take a ton of work, especially puppies, and especially high energy breeds like labs. If you can't handle that responsibility, I do sincerely hope she does find a good home. But I only feel sympathy for the dog - you get the easy end of this deal. And blaming your friend for not keeping your stress level down... it's not her job to clean up your slack.
Sorry to be so harsh but this subject really, really angers me. I've seen way too many great dogs put to sleep because their owners couldn't be bothered to do the right thing by them. If you ever spent any time in a shelter working with dogs who want nothing more than someone to love them, you'd get it too.
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