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Talking about pg but not telling you currently are...

CantWait2BeCantWait2Be member
in June 2011 Moms
Do you feel weird talking about getting pregnant when you already are but just aren't telling yet? For example I was just telling a coworker about my July loss and she asked if we were ttc again and I said yes that we hope to give dd a sibling soon. Then we talked about hoping the next one is healthy etc. For some reason I feel weird talking as if I'm not currently pg, like I might jinx something or maybe there's something wrong I don't know about. Anyone else have this weird irrational feeling? I know realistically talking cant do anything... Next weeks appt cant come soon enough! Need the week to fly by somehow.
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  • ccmarinhoccmarinho
    Yes! I had to talk to my Grandma the other day about how I can't wait until I'm pregnant. And she was just saying all sorts of stuff. I wanted to tell her so bad, but like you said, I didn't want to jinx it or anything. Glad I'm not alone!!
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  • amanda1680amanda1680 member
    Yes!  Only a couple of my friends know we were TTC, and I just got an email today from one of them asking me if we had any "baby news" yet.  I find it terribly difficult to lie, even over email!  And I know what you mean about feeling like you're jinxing it as if you're not already pg.  I totally just avoided the question and said "nothing new to report with me!" and changed the subject.  DH's friend also just announced that his finacee is pg, and he had to pretend that we were still trying.  I'm really hoping I won't have to lie to someone's face....
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  • PinkwomanPinkwoman

    I am the opposite...although I don't believe in "jinxing", I think that denying that you are pregnant is worse than admitting that you are.

    I want my little bean to know that I love him/her and I am not ever going to deny that they are in there. I know it is rough to un-tell people, but I would rather bask in my short-lived pregnancy than deny it was there to everyone and then lose it. I would feel bad. But that is just the positive thinker in me :)

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  • b55cb55c member

    'I think that denying that you are pregnant is worse than admitting that you are.'

    i'm with this line of thinking.  which is why i'm sooo glad that any friends who knew we were ttc have been really good and not asked what's going on.  some have told me they are sending good thoughts our way and i just say thanks. 

    not sure how much longer i can attend dinners or family functions w/o having a glass of wine before people start calling me out!

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  • jbrown127jbrown127

    Only one person actually came out and asked me if I was pregnant thus far and I told her.  I am totally afraid to lie!  (which is crazy I know but I can't help it).  I have definitely "talked" about getting pregnant with another friend without spilling the beans but if anyone else comes straight out and asks (which I think is kind of rude unless you are really close to them) I am not planning on telling just yet. 

    I actually did lie once about my glass of water being a cocktail...my nosy SIL asked what I was drinking and I knew for sure if I said water she would have been all over it (I was not even 4 weeks at that point). 

     I am really looking forward to feeling comfortable enough to share the news openly.

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  • mamaroland2011mamaroland2011
    Me too!! I usually play in a fall/winter football league with my husband and I am not playing for obvious reasons and most of the people know we are TTC. Every week they ask my husband why I am not there (even though they know we are TTC) and my husband is finding it hard not to tell anyone. Thank goodness our appointment is Friday!! I am going to beg the doctor for an u/s, if they weren't going to give me one automatically. I just want to see and "hear" the heartbeat so we can tell everyone and not have to lie to anyone anymore! Just 2 more days!!!
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  • 0hkgbs0hkgbs member

    We were at my uncle's funeral last week and all my aunts/cousins that I don't see often were saying how we need to get together for a happy occasion and my one aunt says yes...like for your baby shower. At that point I had just found out that day and we didn't say anything. Even then it was hard, but I didn't think a funeral was the appropriate place. If someone asks me now I don't know if I would be able to keep it a secret.  Hoping no one says anything to me till my ob appointment on tues-lol

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  • NotYoMommaNotYoMomma

    I know the feeling.  No one in our family even knows we were trying and we by some miracle got pregnant the first time we tried.  It took us about 8 months for munchkin #1 - so we figured we had a while before we would have to share the news.  We are going to tell everyone at Thanksgiving!!   Yesterday at school all of the teachers were talking about baby names and pregnancy and I wanted to scream "I AM KNOCKED UP". 

    Congrats!!

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  • CantWait2BeCantWait2Be member
    I dont think not telling someone you are currently pg when they ask if you're trying means there is any reason to think we don't already love and want and are happy about lo. Some people just have a different comfort level of when they are ready to share. Believe me, I know about un-telling, ive had to do it. We had only told my parents and two friends with our second loss. But I have since talked about it with more people.
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