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This spanking thread is going to get me fired.

Not only am I distracted but it inspired a FB thread between me and one of my sister's about spanking, which led to stories of being chased around the house by dad for saying "dork" and other dramatized tales. My dad finally got on and told us to call Oprah and Springer.
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Re: This spanking thread is going to get me fired.

  • I'm sorry!  I'm sorry!  I'm sorry!  I had no idea spanking was so frowned upon!!  I didn't realize I was gonna get flamed so bad but I guess it had to happen at some point right?  If you do get fired,  we are hiring through March!!!
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  • lol. I think my mom would have read that thread and said every last one of us is crazy because its honestly to each their own. Get back to work silly, don't get yourself fired!!
  • Bahaha I just can't stop laughing at my sister's stories and my dad called me and was like WTF? I don't remember chasing anyone around the house with a fly swatter! You're mom threw a bed across the room?!
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  • hey mine threw an empty clothes basket at me! lol. 
  • I was spanked... my husband was spanked... our child will be spanked. :) Pretty sure my child will not be emotionally disturbed for life over spanking. It will probably be the leaving them at home alone, force feeding them alcohol, and verbally abusing them that does them in... Oh yes it will be horrible to be my child...
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    Bahaha I just can't stop laughing at my sister's stories and my dad called me and was like WTF? I don't remember chasing anyone around the house with a fly swatter! You're mom threw a bed across the room?!

     

    Haha my mom chased me around with a hairbrush! Those suckers hurt!

  • We got a plastic spoon, and then when that wore out we got a wooden one. My mother also resorted to a tennis shoe once. I turned out OK, DH was spanked and he turned out OK. I don't think that we'll end up spanking our kids, but good golly I don't think that everyone that spanks a child is "beating" them or being abusive. I've seen both, a pat on the bottom is not the same as leaving bruises or welps from a wire hanger on your kids legs.

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  • imagebuffyanne02:

    My mom one time swung a bag of trash near me, half joking. Only there was a large, empty pickle jar and I moved just right so it smacked me upside the head and knocked me out.

    I totally got away with everything for two weeks after that.

    Is it ok that I laughed at this? 

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  • so I was getting a spanking for talking back to my mom when I was young and I yelled "help penny!!!" (my dog). yeah my cocker spaniel bit my mom.

    I got beat like ten times worse for that. She has never let me live that one down...haha

    Oh and my mom got so mad at me once I was standing in the street crying and I was like "mom I'm having an asthma attack I need my inhaler!!" (to be fair I was being waaay over dramatic), she threw my inhaler to me in the street. BWA HAHAHA!

    I have the best parents and an amazing relationship wih my parents. I was spanked and yelled at when needed and I am a very well adjusted young women with an even more amount of respect for my parents now that I have a child.

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    My mom one time swung a bag of trash near me, half joking. Only there was a large, empty pickle jar and I moved just right so it smacked me upside the head and knocked me out.

    I totally got away with everything for two weeks after that.

    Exnay on the knocked outnay. We're trying to convince other's were not an abusive bunch. Clearly your mother had anger issues and you support her cause by laughing about it.
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    My mom one time swung a bag of trash near me, half joking. Only there was a large, empty pickle jar and I moved just right so it smacked me upside the head and knocked me out.

    I totally got away with everything for two weeks after that.

    LOL - I'm sorry, that's hilarious  :) 

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  • I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     
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  • imagejilrsch46:
    I was spanked... my husband was spanked... our child will be spanked. :) Pretty sure my child will not be emotionally disturbed for life over spanking. It will probably be the leaving them at home alone, force feeding them alcohol, and verbally abusing them that does them in... Oh yes it will be horrible to be my child...

    Hahaha! This!

    Funny story:

    When I was about 8 my mom told me to "pick that sh!t up out of the yard." I thought she meant literally and asked her for gloves and she said no. A while later my mom comes out and asks me what was taking me so long. She then realized I had dog sh!t in my bare hands!

    You should add picking up dog sh!t with bare hands to your list.Wink

  • imagejilrsch46:
    I was spanked... my husband was spanked... our child will be spanked. :) Pretty sure my child will not be emotionally disturbed for life over spanking. It will probably be the leaving them at home alone, force feeding them alcohol, and verbally abusing them that does them in... Oh yes it will be horrible to be my child...

    LOL.

    Yes, that will just destory your child.

    Here I am figuring it will be making them eat their fruits and veggies! lol.

  • imagebuffyanne02:

    My mom one time swung a bag of trash near me, half joking. Only there was a large, empty pickle jar and I moved just right so it smacked me upside the head and knocked me out.

    I totally got away with everything for two weeks after that.

    darn, and i get the entire clothes basket thrown at me one day and still couldn't get away with anything! I think I like your mom better than mine!! lol.  :)

  • Once I bit my mom and she bit me back. I never bit ANYONE again. (Well, my husband doesn't count).
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  • My mom broke a wooden spoon on my brother's behind. 

  • imagemidnight*sun:

    imagejilrsch46:
    I was spanked... my husband was spanked... our child will be spanked. :) Pretty sure my child will not be emotionally disturbed for life over spanking. It will probably be the leaving them at home alone, force feeding them alcohol, and verbally abusing them that does them in... Oh yes it will be horrible to be my child...

    Hahaha! This!

    Funny story:

    When I was about 8 my mom told me to "pick that sh!t up out of the yard." I thought she meant literally and asked her for gloves and she said no. A while later my mom comes out and asks me what was taking me so long. She then realized I had dog sh!t in my bare hands!

    You should add picking up dog sh!t with bare hands to your list.Wink

     

    OMG this just made me laugh till I cried....

  • imageSarahTx5701:

    so I was getting a spanking for talking back to my mom when I was young and I yelled "help penny!!!" (my dog). yeah my cocker spaniel bit my mom.

    I got beat like ten times worse for that. She has never let me live that one down...haha

    Oh and my mom got so mad at me once I was standing in the street crying and I was like "mom I'm having an asthma attack I need my inhaler!!" (to be fair I was being waaay over dramatic), she threw my inhaler to me in the street. BWA HAHAHA!

    I have the best parents and an amazing relationship wih my parents. I was spanked and yelled at when needed and I am a very well adjusted young women with an even more amount of respect for my parents now that I have a child.

     

    This.  I deserved what I got and I hope my kiddo will say the same thing some day :)

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    imageSymharmony:
    I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     

    Seriously?! Please. I respect my mom, and I did as a child. My mom rarely spanked me, but she did spank me. Ultimately, I knew when she spanked it was because she was dissapointed in me and even as good of a kid as I was, sometimes words just aren't enough.

    I'd love to know how I'm using this as a cop out, when I 1) never drank in high school, 2) never even sampled drugs, 3) had an amazing relationship with my mom through the rocky teenage years, 4) never abused an animal or stole or burnt down a house or even effing bullied a kid. Hell, I didn't even lose my virginity for ages because I respected my mom and didn't want to dissapoint her.

    Give it up. I'm pretty sure this post was about how we, as previously "abused" children, can look back and laugh at the hellions we were.

    That whole paragraph. word for word describes me. I couldn't agree MORE!!!

    Its the person which commands respect and the relationship you build withthem, not the method of discipline. It takes a whole lot more than spanking vs. not spanking to develop your child.

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  • imagebuffyanne02:

    My mom one time swung a bag of trash near me, half joking. Only there was a large, empty pickle jar and I moved just right so it smacked me upside the head and knocked me out.

    I totally got away with everything for two weeks after that.

    gigglesnort.

    Anyhoo. I tried to stuff my underpants with toilet tissue to avoid the effects of a particularly bad spanking after I broke the towel rack in my aunt's bathroom by swinging on it like a monkey. 

    It wasn't too bad until my cousin aka partner in crime had some tp fall out when it was her turn to be spanked.  And she told my mom it was all my idea.

    I was spanked twice that day.  Not fun.

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    Once I bit my mom and she bit me back. I never bit ANYONE again. (Well, my husband doesn't count).

    maybe the kid at my daycare needs to be bit by his mom so he'll stop chomping on my ds!!!!

     

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  • imagebuffyanne02:

    imageSymharmony:
    I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     

    Seriously?! Please. I respect my mom, and I did as a child. My mom rarely spanked me, but she did spank me. Ultimately, I knew when she spanked it was because she was dissapointed in me and even as good of a kid as I was, sometimes words just aren't enough.

    I'd love to know how I'm using this as a cop out, when I 1) never drank in high school, 2) never even sampled drugs, 3) had an amazing relationship with my mom through the rocky teenage years, 4) never abused an animal or stole or burnt down a house or even effing bullied a kid. Hell, I didn't even lose my virginity for ages because I respected my mom and didn't want to dissapoint her.

    Give it up. I'm pretty sure this post was about how we, as previously "abused" children, can look back and laugh at the hellions we were.

    I never said you were abused.  If spanking works, then why were you a hellion as a child?  Why did your mom feel she needed to spank you more than once?  If it's suppose to be such a great parenting tool, then it should only happen one time and never again.   

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    imagebuffyanne02:

    My mom one time swung a bag of trash near me, half joking. Only there was a large, empty pickle jar and I moved just right so it smacked me upside the head and knocked me out.

    I totally got away with everything for two weeks after that.

    gigglesnort.

    Anyhoo. I tried to stuff my underpants with toilet tissue to avoid the effects of a particularly bad spanking after I broke the towel rack in my aunt's bathroom by swinging on it like a monkey. 

    It wasn't too bad until my cousin aka partner in crime had some tp fall out when it was her turn to be spanked.  And she told my mom it was all my idea.

    I was spanked twice that day.  Not fun.

     

    HAHA! Sounds like me and my bff!

    When we were 6 we took a whole roll of tp and put it in the toilet and flushed... just to see what would happen. Well we were at her grandma's house and she had to call the plumber to come out. We got our butt's beat for it. A few hours later we somehow decided it would be a great idea to do it again!! So the plumber had to be called again! We definitely got our butts beat twice that day by her grandma and then I am sure again by our parents!

  • imageSarahTx5701:
    imagebuffyanne02:

    imageSymharmony:
    I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     

    Seriously?! Please. I respect my mom, and I did as a child. My mom rarely spanked me, but she did spank me. Ultimately, I knew when she spanked it was because she was dissapointed in me and even as good of a kid as I was, sometimes words just aren't enough.

    I'd love to know how I'm using this as a cop out, when I 1) never drank in high school, 2) never even sampled drugs, 3) had an amazing relationship with my mom through the rocky teenage years, 4) never abused an animal or stole or burnt down a house or even effing bullied a kid. Hell, I didn't even lose my virginity for ages because I respected my mom and didn't want to dissapoint her.

    Give it up. I'm pretty sure this post was about how we, as previously "abused" children, can look back and laugh at the hellions we were.

    That whole paragraph. word for word describes me. I couldn't agree MORE!!!

    Its the person which commands respect and the relationship you build withthem, not the method of discipline. It takes a whole lot more than spanking vs. not spanking to develop your child.

    Really, so do you spank adults to demand respect?

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  • imageSymharmony:
    imagebuffyanne02:

    imageSymharmony:
    I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     

    Seriously?! Please. I respect my mom, and I did as a child. My mom rarely spanked me, but she did spank me. Ultimately, I knew when she spanked it was because she was dissapointed in me and even as good of a kid as I was, sometimes words just aren't enough.

    I'd love to know how I'm using this as a cop out, when I 1) never drank in high school, 2) never even sampled drugs, 3) had an amazing relationship with my mom through the rocky teenage years, 4) never abused an animal or stole or burnt down a house or even effing bullied a kid. Hell, I didn't even lose my virginity for ages because I respected my mom and didn't want to dissapoint her.

    Give it up. I'm pretty sure this post was about how we, as previously "abused" children, can look back and laugh at the hellions we were.

    I never said you were abused.  If spanking works, then why were you a hellion as a child?  Why did your mom feel she needed to spank you more than once?  If it's suppose to be such a great parenting tool, then it should only happen one time and never again.   

    Seriously???  Then explain to me why children need to be told NO multiple times or why time outs need to be done multiple times, since they are such GREAT parenting tools!

    How can you ask that without thinking about those things being brought in to question as well? 

  • imageSarahTx5701:
    imagebuffyanne02:

    imageSymharmony:
    I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     

    Seriously?! Please. I respect my mom, and I did as a child. My mom rarely spanked me, but she did spank me. Ultimately, I knew when she spanked it was because she was dissapointed in me and even as good of a kid as I was, sometimes words just aren't enough.

    I'd love to know how I'm using this as a cop out, when I 1) never drank in high school, 2) never even sampled drugs, 3) had an amazing relationship with my mom through the rocky teenage years, 4) never abused an animal or stole or burnt down a house or even effing bullied a kid. Hell, I didn't even lose my virginity for ages because I respected my mom and didn't want to dissapoint her.

    Give it up. I'm pretty sure this post was about how we, as previously "abused" children, can look back and laugh at the hellions we were.

    That whole paragraph. word for word describes me. I couldn't agree MORE!!!

    Its the person which commands respect and the relationship you build withthem, not the method of discipline. It takes a whole lot more than spanking vs. not spanking to develop your child.

    I'm just lurking in this whole debate, but I love the way you put this. It's very easy for the anti-spankers (and I suppose avid pro-spankers as well) to over-simplify the issue and vilify anyone who disagrees with them.

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  • imageSymharmony:

     

    Really, so do you spank adults to demand respect?

    I spanked Spurs just this afternoon.

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  • imageHyfagal:

    imageSymharmony:

     

    Really, so do you spank adults to demand respect?

    I spanked Spurs just this afternoon.

    lol

  • imageSymharmony:
    imageSarahTx5701:
    imagebuffyanne02:

    imageSymharmony:
    I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     

    Seriously?! Please. I respect my mom, and I did as a child. My mom rarely spanked me, but she did spank me. Ultimately, I knew when she spanked it was because she was dissapointed in me and even as good of a kid as I was, sometimes words just aren't enough.

    I'd love to know how I'm using this as a cop out, when I 1) never drank in high school, 2) never even sampled drugs, 3) had an amazing relationship with my mom through the rocky teenage years, 4) never abused an animal or stole or burnt down a house or even effing bullied a kid. Hell, I didn't even lose my virginity for ages because I respected my mom and didn't want to dissapoint her.

    Give it up. I'm pretty sure this post was about how we, as previously "abused" children, can look back and laugh at the hellions we were.

    That whole paragraph. word for word describes me. I couldn't agree MORE!!!

    Its the person which commands respect and the relationship you build withthem, not the method of discipline. It takes a whole lot more than spanking vs. not spanking to develop your child.

    Really, so do you spank adults to demand respect?

    reading comprehension my dear.

    The spanking did not make me respect my mom more. I respected her as a person and for what she taught me and the great relationship we had. I knew if I disobeyed her I could potentionaly be in for a spanking and I understood exactly why I was geting one.

    The spanking didn't make me love my mom any less, or make me think she was abusing me. Because I respected her for who she was not the act she was preforming.  I didn't FEAR my mom and respect her because I knew I would get spanked. 

    Maybe I'm not making sense, its hard to explain on a messageboard

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  • I definitely want to know which parenting tool only has to be used once to work. That will save SO much time and aggravation.
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  • imagekristennd:
    I definitely want to know which parenting tool only has to be used once to work. That will save SO much time and aggravation.

    Vasectomy.

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  • Hmmm does it seem to anyone else that those of us that were spanked are a little bit more easy going?? Hmm
  • imagebuffyanne02:
    imageSymharmony:
    imagebuffyanne02:

    imageSymharmony:
    I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     

    Seriously?! Please. I respect my mom, and I did as a child. My mom rarely spanked me, but she did spank me. Ultimately, I knew when she spanked it was because she was dissapointed in me and even as good of a kid as I was, sometimes words just aren't enough.

    I'd love to know how I'm using this as a cop out, when I 1) never drank in high school, 2) never even sampled drugs, 3) had an amazing relationship with my mom through the rocky teenage years, 4) never abused an animal or stole or burnt down a house or even effing bullied a kid. Hell, I didn't even lose my virginity for ages because I respected my mom and didn't want to dissapoint her.

    Give it up. I'm pretty sure this post was about how we, as previously "abused" children, can look back and laugh at the hellions we were.

    I never said you were abused.  If spanking works, then why were you a hellion as a child?  Why did your mom feel she needed to spank you more than once?  If it's suppose to be such a great parenting tool, then it should only happen one time and never again.   

    Hmm 'Hellion' was a bad word choice on my part. And it isn't necessarily a "great" parenting tool, but it IS a tool if used properly. Sym, do you never  have to discipline a child more than once after putting them on time-out, or taking away a priviledge, or verbally telling them you're dissapointed in them? I really doubt it. Children don't and won't always learn from their mistakes a first time, no matter what the method of punishment.

    I do discipline my children, but I leave out the hitting.  I don't see the point of spanking my children to get them to listen.  You can have the same results with time out and talking to your children.  Yes, they will do it again, because they're learning.  The meaning of discipline is to teach.  I don't agree with teaching your children that hitting is ever okay.     

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  • imagemommydale:
    imageSymharmony:
    imagebuffyanne02:

    imageSymharmony:
    I just saw this thread, so I'm going to respond here instead of there.  It's already on the third page of comments.  I've worked with children for a very long time, and I can tell you the kids that gave me the most problems were the ones that were spanked.  I think there are other ways to discipline your children without resorting to hitting them.  As the parent, you are the role model, and you're teaching your child that it's okay to hit a person if you are bigger than them.  I know I saw some people say it happened to me, and I turned out fine.  I always think this is such a cop out answer to try and justify what you're doing is an okay thing.  A two year doesn't understand why they need to sit in a seat for 2 hours or more, and hitting them doesn't do anything to change the behavior.  They might listen, but do you want your children to listen to you out of fear or out of respect?  I personally, want them to respect me and not fear me.  Even spanking in the calmest nature is still hitting, and I don't agree with it, ever.     

    Seriously?! Please. I respect my mom, and I did as a child. My mom rarely spanked me, but she did spank me. Ultimately, I knew when she spanked it was because she was dissapointed in me and even as good of a kid as I was, sometimes words just aren't enough.

    I'd love to know how I'm using this as a cop out, when I 1) never drank in high school, 2) never even sampled drugs, 3) had an amazing relationship with my mom through the rocky teenage years, 4) never abused an animal or stole or burnt down a house or even effing bullied a kid. Hell, I didn't even lose my virginity for ages because I respected my mom and didn't want to dissapoint her.

    Give it up. I'm pretty sure this post was about how we, as previously "abused" children, can look back and laugh at the hellions we were.

    I never said you were abused.  If spanking works, then why were you a hellion as a child?  Why did your mom feel she needed to spank you more than once?  If it's suppose to be such a great parenting tool, then it should only happen one time and never again.   

    Seriously???  Then explain to me why children need to be told NO multiple times or why time outs need to be done multiple times, since they are such GREAT parenting tools!

    How can you ask that without thinking about those things being brought in to question as well? 

    I was being sarcastic.  I know that every parenting tool needs to be used several times, but I don't think spanking is the right tool to ever use.  

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    That whole paragraph. word for word describes me. I couldn't agree MORE!!!

    Its the person which commands respect and the relationship you build withthem, not the method of discipline. It takes a whole lot more than spanking vs. not spanking to develop your child.

    Really, so do you spank adults to demand respect?

    Only if they're into it.

    LMAO! DH spanked me just the other night. Granted I didn't have the ball gag or a safe word, but I was into it. If I respected him more is in question, but I sure as heck loved him a lot more and will ask for it again. Maybe if everybody says spanking is abusive I'll just ask for the hair pulling next time.

    Does this mean that my unborn child has already been spanked, or will grow up with a fetish?

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    LMAO! DH spanked me just the other night. Granted I didn't have the ball gag or a safe word

    We have a safe word, but it's hard to say banana with a wang in your throat.

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  • LOL!  Although it was rare,  I remember being smacked with a wooden spoon, a fly swatter and a broom and very rarely repeated the offense. However, I should've been smacked a whole lot more. I was a huge PIA to my poor mother. 
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    imagemandaree:

    LMAO! DH spanked me just the other night. Granted I didn't have the ball gag or a safe word

    We have a safe word, but it's hard to say banana with a wang in your throat.

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  • imagemandaree:
    imagebuffyanne02:
    imageSymharmony:
    imageSarahTx5701:

    That whole paragraph. word for word describes me. I couldn't agree MORE!!!

    Its the person which commands respect and the relationship you build withthem, not the method of discipline. It takes a whole lot more than spanking vs. not spanking to develop your child.

    Really, so do you spank adults to demand respect?

    Only if they're into it.

    LMAO! DH spanked me just the other night. Granted I didn't have the ball gag or a safe word, but I was into it. If I respected him more is in question, but I sure as heck loved him a lot more and will ask for it again. Maybe if everybody says spanking is abusive I'll just ask for the hair pulling next time.

    Does this mean that my unborn child has already been spanked, or will grow up with a fetish?

     OHmygosh... yep, your poor unborn child has already been abused and will have self-esteem issues from birth. You should have just had your husband talk to you instead =P

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