when do you think you will tell work and family/friends?

CantWait2Be · October 2010

I'm torn on when to tell work and family/friends this time around. With our recent loss I hadn't told work yet and had just told my parents a few days before. We hadn't told in laws yet. We were trying to hold out until the first u/s at 9 weeks 6 days but when we went in for that u/s the baby had passed a few days earlier. I went in on my lunch break for that u/s and went over on the time allowed for my lunch, went back to work and told everyone why. Of course they were very supportive.

This time I am having an early u/s on Nov 3rd and I have the afternoon off. While I know that had I had an early u/s last time everything would have been fine at that point too so I don't know that it will make me feel like it's safe yet. I don't know what my doc appt or u/s schedule will be after my Nov 3rd appt. On one hand I want to tell people because they were supportive last time and would be happy and also supportive again should something go wrong but on the other hand I'm just not sure. I think we're probably going to tell family at Thanksgiving but I'm not sure. Maybe we'll just see how I'm feeling when it comes to telling work, if I'm making frequent bathroom trips and feeling crappy it may raise suspicion but so far I feel fine and can't believe it's real.

markyslove · October 2010

That's really hard. We have only told my best friend because we actually saw her in person last week and it will be the last time we see her for a while. I think we're holding out until 7wks for parents/siblings, 10wks for DH's aunt/uncle, and 13/14 wks for everyone (probably tell work right before then unless I'm really sick and can't hide it). We had thought about putting in our Christmas cards, but I'm a little worried people will post on FB before we come out on FB. I guess we'll see what happens.

gymnst1013 · October 2010

With my first pregnancy, we told everyone as soon as we got my beta results only to hve me m/c 2 weeks later. This time I only told my mom, BFF and FIL until our first u/s at 5w2d when we were sure the embryo was in the right place (first one was ectopic). Since then, we've told our families, some friends and my boss. We're not keeping it from anyone, just not actively seeking people out to tell.

izzyjenni · October 2010

We were torn also! I had an u/s at 6 weeks 6 days and saw the heartbeat. But don't have my next appt till we are into our 11th week. We haven't told our parents yet and currently are about 9 weeks along. It is my sister's birthday and husband's mom's birthday this next weekend so we think we are going to announce it to our immediate family then. My fear is that something could go wrong and we won't have told them or that we tell them and something is already wrong. Either way, I want them to know so that is our plan as of today! We've told some close friends because we had a dinner party last night and I'm not a good liar! We've also told my immediate grade level team at work because of all the appointments and nausea. Now it is a waiting game!

ikissedthecook · October 2010

So far I've only told my immediate family. We'll probably tell DH's family shortly after they get back in town. I'll be having another appointment 3 days after their return, so if that goes well, we'll tell then. As far as everybody else, we'll tell them after the NT Scan if all goes well.

Pinkwoman · October 2010

I haven't told my family yet (I am waiting for my U/S on the 15th) but I have told some friends

As far as being cautious, yeah, 1 out of 5 is a M/C....but 4 out of 5 is a healthy baby....I like the second one better

MommaA117 · October 2010

I am very close with my manager and my work is pretty close knit. They know. So does immediate family and close friends. Just not the whole world of Facebook. haha

Seaofclouds · October 2010

We told our family and close friends once we had an u/s to confirm our little one was in the right spot (which was done about at about 4.5 weeks). It was nice to tell everyone and hear how excited they are.

I haven't told my work yet, but only because I haven't been working recently. When I go back to work (when DH gets home) I will tell them.

luckyluvr · October 2010

I told my parents and IL's at 6 weeks (and then they proceeded to inform the family). I'll be telling my coworkers and the rest of the world next Friday/Saturday if all goes well with my u/s.

skidunks · October 2010

We've only told a couple of friends and my bosses. We're going to tell my parents next weekend because we have a big family GTG, so my sister and BIL will know then too. Other than that we're waiting until my first appt on the 5th. That's why I don't have a ticker for this baby yet, none of my nest/bump friends know yet.

kramerj · October 2010

I had a m/c last year at 7 weeks. I had told numerous people, and it was very painful to go back and tell people the news. There were also people who I only saw once a month (work related), and it seemed like I was reliving the m/c over and over again. Because of this, I am not planning on telling my mom until I get confirmation on u/s; however, I don't plan on telling anyone else until I reach 12-14 weeks.

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