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MIL vent. Am I wrong to have a problem with this?

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I went to my MIL house last night with DS.  As soon as I got there MIL was all over the baby (I have no problem with this.  SHe does not get to see him that often).  After a few min I went into the kitchen to get some thing to drink and I hear MIL say "Benjamin we are going to talk about sex.  Make sure to wear a condom everytime you screw"  And kept going with it in this stupid sing song voice.  I know he does not understand what she is talking about but come on!  Is that really an approprite conversation to be having with a 10 week old?

I come back into the room and say "cant you talk about something else"  She says "well he is going to have to learn" As nicely as I could I put her in her place.  I told her that my DH and I will have that coversation when the time is right.

So later I am changing DS diaper and she comes over and says "WOW Benjamin look at your penis.  You are going to make some woman very happy one day" I stoped what I was doing and said "Did you really just say that?"  She just blew it off like it was no big deal. 

I tried to tak to her later about how these things made me very uncomfortable and she told me I was overreating.  That he has no idea what she is talking about and why should it bother me. 

Would it bother you? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

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Re: MIL vent. Am I wrong to have a problem with this?

  • twopeasinapodtwopeasinapod
    That's just weird.

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  • reynahreynah

    WTF was she drunk?

    Umm.. yes, I would think that was very weird.

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  • Brookie-CookieBrookie-Cookie

    yes it would bother me.  not her place to have the talk and totally innapropriate talk for a grandma to have with her grandson (the making someone happy one day)

    good for you for saying something to her.  Leave with DS if she does it again.

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  • anna7602anna7602 member
    yes, it would bother me. if she's saying it now, she will be saying it when he is 2 years old and can repeat it to other people, even if he still has no idea what it means. can DH talk to her about it?
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  • chalmettechalmette

    I think you need to have a talk with smfinallymg - omg.

    Yes it would bother me!!!!

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  • brandonswife07brandonswife07
    psycho...
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  • Ash123Ash123
    It would bother me too.  Do we have the same MIL?  The night of our wedding she gave me a book entitled "Sexual Pleasure in a Christian Marriage." After she handed it to me (right before Dh and I left for the night) she looked at me and said "You two have fun tonight."
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  • vanillacouragevanillacourage member
    Yes.  Her sexualizing your 1-month-old is completely inappropriate and bizarre.  I would not allow her to be with him unsupervised, and if she made comments like that with me present I would take the baby and leave.

    I consider this the same as parents who let their 2-year-old daughter wear things that say "juicy" on the butt, etc.
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  • EDD36JJMEDD36JJM
    OMG she is a freak.  She makes my MIL look like a Saint and she is far from it!  Ick!
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  • jlb7640jlb7640
    Wow totally mental.  He may not understand what she is saying now but would she keep saying these things?  DH definitely needs to talk to her about this.  Plus, never leave him alone with her.  Creepy vibe from her.
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  • SweetJennaSweetJenna member
    Yeah, that would really freak me out.  Why is all her focus on sex?  Totally inappropriate for a child of any age...even if they don't understand yet.  Wow...people never cease to amaze me!  The horror of it!
     
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  • lizobsslizobss
    that's kinda creepy.  did she talk like that to your dh??
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  • RacerGirlRacerGirl
     No, you didn't overreact- she's a psycho. I agree, I wouldn't leave her alone with you DS.
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  • teacherjessteacherjess member
    That is seriously really effing weird. I would not leave DC alone with someone like that. So creepy, and beyond inappropriate. Good for you for saying something, but I think you need to lay down the law, like, "Mary, that is a really inappropriate way to talk to the baby, and if you continue to speak to him like that, you can't spend time around him" or something.
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  • mamamoosmamamoos
    yeah, that's just creepy. 
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  • Alison422Alison422
    That is weird, gross, and inappropriate!
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  • jjohn28jjohn28
    That's pretty gross to me. I'm glad you said something, but I would also have your DH talk to her as well. I really wouldn't want that to continue at all.
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  • candyisdavescandyisdaves member

    I talked to DH when he got home from work and he said that he was as shocked as I was.  He said that he would talk to her. 

    I refuse to leave DS alone with her.  I just don't get how she thinks its no big deal.

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  • Soter1Soter1
    that is f'd up!
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  • MandC17MandC17 member
    She sounds a little nutty.  That would make me very uncomfortable and a little afraid to leave him alone with her when he gets older.  That is your and DH place to have the sex talk, not hers.
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  • carrann82carrann82 member
    Holy inappropriate batman!  Hopefully your DH's discussion will put an end to that!
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  • cwhip77cwhip77

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    That is seriously really effing weird. I would not leave DC alone with someone like that. So creepy, and beyond inappropriate. Good for you for saying something, but I think you need to lay down the law, like, "Mary, that is a really inappropriate way to talk to the baby, and if you continue to speak to him like that, you can't spend time around him" or something.

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  • Angela.23Angela.23 member
    weird and creepy
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  • jenifairiesjenifairies

    OMFG, my jaw seriously dropped.

    I would tell her in no uncertain terns (niceness be _damned) that she is NOT to talk to your DS about sex or make sexual comments. Period.

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  • bob&bobbijobob&bobbijo member
    id be piiiiiiiissed!
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  • gee-ceegee-cee
    That is just weird! Every time I go over to MIL's, she monopolizes DD too but never with *that* kind of talk! Tongue Tied
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  • thaxmomthaxmom
    Wow.  That's beyond creepy.  If my MIL said something like that I'd have a really hard time biting my tongue.
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  • fridaflipfridaflip
    Creepy and totally inappropriate. I'd give her a piece of my mind and keep an eye on her around my DS. But that's just me.
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  • sweetie52006sweetie52006
    That is way out of line. No one but you or you're DH should talk you're kids about that. If I was you I would put her in place. If you do it nicelly and it don't work then mabey you should try talking to her not so nicely. Now that you're a mom it's more importent to look out for that baby then her fealings.
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  • shakespearenluvshakespearenluv
    Yuck. ?I would have definitely said something to my MIL if she said things like that to my baby. ?I think you did the right thing.
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