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Babies: 6 - 9 Months
My UO - raising little girls
I cannot stand it when parents call their daughters their "little princess", throw princess or girly girl birthday parties, or encourage their daughters to just be prissy.
Also, I will fight tooth and nail to keep Claire from being a cheerleader.
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Re: My UO - raising little girls
...although, I have to confess...I was a cheerleader. BUT, I wasn't a little prissy cheerleader. I was the cheerleader who had to lift and catch all the little prissy cheerleaders, lol.
Also, I had manic/panic red hair and wore a dog chain in high school, just to counteract the "cheerleader-ness".
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I wanted to be a cheerleader. My mother flat out told me no. Exact quote, "My daughter will not be bouncing eye candy for a bunch of football players and strangers."
I don't automatically equate girliness and dresses with weakness. I wear dresses every day, but I have a badass aggressive job and can play sports with most boys.
I dress Mae in pink and cute clothes, but I totally expect her to be a hyperactive tomboy just like me. I do not say Princess.
I have nothing against girly girls. I love me some new fancy nails and a flashy handbag. LOL
But I also will encourage Evelyn to do other things.
I would love to foster in her a love for science and math too. I don't think girls are really encouraged to become engineers etc.
But she will wear a dress and tights and patent leather shoes on Xmas. Mommy's rules. LOL!!
I was reading something about gender bias and what not and the advice was not to call her Princess and tell her how pretty she was all the time...
I probably will call my little girl princess
But I do still love bacon!
I'm not saying I won't encourage C to be feminine. She wears bows and dresses. I just hate when parents push their daughters into this weak, dainty personality.
If my girls end up wanting to be girly girls, I'm not going to hold that against them. My DD1 loves to wear dresses.
But I refuse to buy anything with crowns or that says "princess," "diva," "shopaholic," or anything about the child being "too cute to (fill in the blank)."
DD1, 1/5/2008 ~~~ DD2, 3/17/2010
I agree 100%. I want her to wear fabulous heels while crushing the necks of her opponents. LMAO! Ok, that might be a bit too violent, but you know what I mean.
No, no. That's the visual I have for Claire's future. lol
Ha! My mom has said more than once that Mae will be the first pretty female Supreme Court Justice. Poor girl has some expectations to live up to.
Meh, some girls like prissy things and girly girl parties. That's just who they are. Some girls don't.
If I ever have a girl, I will let her choose her own tastes.
I am with you on the cheerleader thing, though. I will discourage it, but it wouldn't be the end of the world if it happened, I guess.
vegan mama, military wife
My first was a boy, and I am well versed in all things boy now. I have played in the mud and bought everything with a tractor on it (he LOVES tractors) for the past 3 years. I was happy when DD came along so that I could add some girly things in there. I love dressing her up, and I definitely tell her she is my little princess. I tell Myles he is my little prince too. To each their own I guess.
On a side note though, both DH and I have strong, non-dainty personalities. I completely expect her to be a little ball of fire, not a prissy girl.
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I'm neutral.
I won't encourage her to be any certain way. If she is drawn towards girlie stuff then that's her choice, I'm not going to force a ball in her hands if she doesn't like sports.
I was a tom-boy and a girlie-girl. You would see me play with dolls and then go fishing with my dad or playing with toy tractors in the dirt with my brother....usually a doll was involved with that. As long as she's happy then that's fine with me.
She wears mostly pink, and TLM is my favorite Disney movie. Those weren't included in my UO.
I just despise it when parents don't encourage their daughters to be more than the stereotypical girly girl. Wearing pink doesn't make you a girly girl.
I rocked the vampire red manic panic hair too.
If we do have a girl, she will know how to change a tire and the oil in her vehicle and be able to wear makeup and a dress. Well, I hope at least.
I was (and still am) a tomboy. I wish I had done a little bit more girly things tho.
This. Nobody has said anything against feminine, just about calling girls "princess", which annoys me too.
I am hoping Corri will be the perfect mix of girly girl and badasss! Like I said in an earlier post, I know how to play with the boys, but I am still a shopaholic shoe and handbag whore that likes the get dressed up. I like to think of myself as a badasss in high heels. I do put Corri in dresses, but they are never frilly and RARELY have any pink in them. I love when she is in blue jeans and cute little shirts.
I also don't subscribe to the whole "girls can't do this" mentality...she can do anything she wants (although in our family, she will likely end up in the legal field, since all of us are, which would be great), and no one better tell her otherwise!
As for the cheerleader thing, I don't mind it, and don't think it makes you a priss at all. I did gymnastics my whole life and also was on kickline in high school (complete with cheerleader type uniforms) and dance team in college, and we went to nationals, which was an awesome experience I wouldn't trade for anything. People forget that we are athletes too...just because we dont throw a ball or whack someone with a hockey stick doesn't make us any less of an athlete. I competed (for kickline) with fractured hands and fingers, compressed discs in my neck and taped up ankles...just consider me a badasss in a pleated skirt!
I hope DD is into sports like DH and I are, we have visions of her play field and ice hockey. If she chooses cheering we will support that too. All my friends in high school were cheerleaders and they were some serious athletes who competed on the national level. Yea they bounce around in some short skirts but I can't say my field hockey skirt was much longer...
I will just be bummed if she hates getting dirty and has an irrational fear of bugs. Playing in the woods, building forts, camping and things like that were such a huge part of my childhood and I hope DD loves them too.
My mom said she gave me a girly girl name hoping I would be "such a little lady" growing up. Well that never happened. I was climbing trees, scraping my knees, building forts, going toe to toe with my brothers,...I just didn't know that was an internship for being a cop years later.
If Emma wants to be a cop or firefighter, MORE POWER TO HER!
We don't call her Princess. I do call her Lovely and Babyness. I tell her she is the most perfect little girl God ever made, I'm thankful everyday that I get to hold her in my arms and I never knew what I was missing till I met her. I think it's important to tell her she is beautiful and lovely. My older bro doesn't tell his daughters that ever and it makes me sad for them. Every little girl is gorgeous and beautiful.
My view on cheerleaders depends on the team. Some are worthless. Just sit there with their pom poms and flirt with all the guys.
But, some cheerleaders are effin hard core.
Some of the assumptions on here make me laugh. I'm a girly girl. I was a cheerleader. I'm a tiny little petite thing. Ask anyone IRL if I have a weak, diminutive personality and they will LOL. I'm assertive, opinionated, smart, confident woman (and have been since I was a teenager).
If I have a daughter, I'll want her to be the same way....whether she does it with poms poms and a cheerleading skirt or a hockey stick or an art easel and paintbrush. Being girly and a cheerleader =/= weak eye candy.
Okay, it was a bit of a generalization. But I do wonder what percentage of cheerleading teams are actually serious athletes and how many are like most high school cheerleaders I have seen in this area. In this area, the majority are indeed bouncing eye candy.
I would also say looks can be deceiving. My cheerleading squad wasn't hardcore. We competed but we didn't go to nationals or anything. I wouldn't have considered myself a serious athlete but it was fun and I enjoyed it. I liked doing my hair and makeup and fussed about my clothes. I was cute and I dated a good bit. Just seeing me, you might have thought I was a stereotypical cheerleader. But I also graduated 2nd in my class and went to an elite university. I was President of National Honor Society and in Student Government. The cheerleading squad consistently won the award every semester for having the highest percentages of members of a sports team on the honor roll.
Honest question here: Do you not feel like one of the main purposes of a lot of cheerleading squads is just to give the spectators something to look at? (and not necessarily in an innocent way)
I do have to admit that I call Addison my pretty, pretty princess. BUT she will not be having a princess party, wearing tiaras, etc. She will be the 2 year old in a pink tutu with grease under her nails from helping daddy work on his Mustang
And she "asked" for a pink dump truck for Christmas
meh, K wears dresses, bows, and her room is pink and princess themed.
but, she will also be put in sports, and tought how to defend herself. h's favorite saying " daddy didn't raise a victom"