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3rd Trimester
I really want to be angry, but I'm not...
A little bit of background before I start my rant: DH and I restore and fix-up cars as a hobby. One of our cars has been semi-delayed to due me being pregnant during prime working-on-car weather and his back injury (slipped and herniated disc).
One thing he really wanted to get done was to put new wheels and tires on the car, since that's something that we are actually able to do, with help. A few months ago he fell in love with this set of wheels, only to find that the company that makes them discontinued them for a while, and they wouldn't be back until sometime next year.
Well, the other day he found some guy on craigslist that was selling the exact wheels he wants for half the price WITH tires! Awesome, right? Except the guy lives in New Jersey, and we live in Maryland. It's like a 3 hour drive one way, which isn't THAT bad, except that I'm 2 weeks away from d-day, and I might be getting induced before then. I won't know until go to the doctor's on Thursday.
Here's where I think I should be angry: H says, "Well if they induce you on Thursday, I'll wait until Saturday to go to NJ."
I feel like I should be angry and upset that he doesn't think it's a big deal to go so soon after LO is born. But I have no idea when or if I will be induced, it's only 6 hours or so that he would be gone which is less than a regular working day, and it's such a good deal that even I think we shouldn't pass on it.
Basically what I'm asking is, would you be upset? I mean, part of me kind of is, but the other part of me isn't.
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Re: I really want to be angry, but I'm not...
If they induce you Thursday you likely won't be out of the hospital on Saturday. If you go to your appt. and they say "yea, let's induce" they will likely have you check into L&D that evening for cervadil and not start any other things (pitocin, etc) until Friday morning. This is at least how most of my friends with inductions have had it go. Even if you give birth on Thursday afternoon somehow you won't be discharged until Saturday at the earliest. And that is assuming no jaundice or other little issues newborns have.
Do you know anyone in the area that could pick them up for you and hold onto them?
Lurking...
I wouldn't be to upset. Like you said it is a really good once in a lifetime deal and its not like he is leaving you the day of or the day after. My DF had to go back to work the day after delivery and I had to have my sister take me home from the hospital which totally sucked but hey its life. Besides, a couple days after you will probably have so many visitors that will be MORE than willing to help you, that you probably won't even miss him....
I do understand where part of you is kind of upset though. You never know, when your LO actually comes, he might change his mind about wanting to leave so soon. I know my was at first ok with having to work the day after our LO was born but after he was born and actually had to leave, he cried and did NOT want to go!
Good luck!
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Lurking from 0-3...
I was induced on a Saturday and didn't even HAVE the baby until Monday (c-section).
Then I was in the hospital until Wednesday.
I'd be a little annoyed if the baby was already here, but most likely you'll be in the hospital anyway... I'm sure he'll change his mind once he's there.
Every marriage function differently, and if this doesn't bother you, then don't sweat it. I'm sure there are things my DH does that would annoy the bejesus out of some other women, but don't bother me because of how we function as a couple.
My only advice to you is to remember what you choose now may come back to bite you later. If you say okay to the plan, get induced, and have the baby, you may find youself changing your mind about being okay with being alone that soon.
I was induced on a Monday night (cervadil) had DS on Wednesday night and stayed in the hospital until Saturday morning.
It depends, do you have any other family around that can help you out? You are both dealing with the unknown right now and he is trying to make a good decision- he just isn't sure what that decision is. It might be nice to have your Mom or friend come over while he drives to get the tires.
I wouldn't be upset. That is how I am. I would just make sure that you have help available if you need it.