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If your dc has a lovey...

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At ds's 6 month appt the pedi recommended getting him a lovey (or transition something-or-other) to get him sleeping better at night (he still wakes up 3-4x/night).  I never had one of these, but know several people who did who couldn't sleep w/o them as they got older.  I really don't want that for ds.  Also, I don't know that I want to cart it around everywhere because he won't sleep w/o it.  Is it possible to just use it at home and/or at night?  Anyone have any recommendations/advice?

Not only that, but I'm not 100% convinced when they say they don't need to eat at night.  He jumped from the 10% at birth and is now at 75% and 50% (length/weight) so he is definitley growing.  Also, because of his reflux he can't eat a lot at one time or he spits it up.

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  • kgail11kgail11 member
    We give one (really, two) for DS's naps/bedtimes and we are SO GRATEFUL he loves them. They are major soothers for him - and we're not really that concerned w/him having a dependancy w/them. It's like some adults, they need to be hugging another pillow or whatever.. it's not really that weird, and not a huge pain to bring with us when we go out of town. It's a small square of fabric.. not a big deal.
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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    Sounds like maybe you need a new pedi.  It seems like you're asking for people to rebuke his advice and maybe you don't trust him?

    FWIW - both my kids have lovies for sleep time only.  I think they're great.  When we travel they acclaimate easily to a new sleeping environment because they have something familiar with them.  They never leave their rooms and they're not allowed to drag them all over the house.  I'm not worried at all about getting rid of them when the age is right.

    And I 100% agree that they do not need to be fed at night at this age.  If you stop the feeding at night they'll make more of an effort to get the food during the day.

    So...  I agree with your pedi even though I don't think that's what you wanted to hear.

    GL with your decisions!  Ultimately you're the mom and you get to decide what's best for you and your child.

     

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  • amygauntt@windstream.netamygauntt@windstream.net
    DD has one & I'm so glad. She actually has 4, 2 are 12X12 size, 2 are 14X14, so not really a pain to take places. And actually one stays in the car, so it's always there. But I'm also ok with it if she still wants to use it at 10, which I doubt will happen, but even if it does, it's just a little blankie!
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  • E.T.E.T.
    DD has one, we just started giving it to her recently.  At bedtime, her arms were all over the place, flailing around, searching for something to hold/play with.  She now likes to hold on to her lovey (small square soft piece of fabric).  It calms her down much more quickly.
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  • food_chickfood_chick member
    I like the idea of small piece of fabric, and it always staying in the room.  Thanks for the input ladies.  Regarding the pedi, I wasn't able to get in with our regular one and saw his partner instead.  I wasn't a huge fan of him, but he was really new and young.
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  • brittneycc1982brittneycc1982

    I wouldn't consider it a lovey, its a blankie, but dd sleeps ALOT better with it.  She doesn't need it, but its a huge help when putting her down for a nap or at bed time.  She had 2 of them, they are satin, and my grandma just made her 2 more.

    I am right there with you as far as night feedings go.  DD will only take 6 oz at a time and wakes up once at night for a bottle.  Do what you feel is right a mom. You aren't going to screw up!

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    Thanks brittney - it's hard to not let that thought go through my head!
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  • Erika6504Erika6504

    DD has a lovey.  It doesn't leave her crib.  When I get her up in the morning she says goodbye to her lovey before I pick her up.  She also has a duplicate lovey at daycare.

     It's helped A LOT with night wakings.  I watch her on the monitor and when she wakes up she'll grab the lovey and suck on it's ears.  That's her way of calming herself.  Most of the time she'll drift back off to sleep. 

    I agree with your pedi that they probably don't NEED a middle of the night feeding, but that doesn't mean that you can't feed your DS in the middle of the night.  My pedi said the same thing at our 6mo appointment.  It's just been within the past month that I decided to wean DD off of her middle of the night feeding.  Before that time I wasn't ready and I didn't think she was.

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  • HappyTXChickHappyTXChick
    I am so thankful for DS's lovie.  This summer we went on so many family vacations...to the river, beach, lake house, etc. and we took his lovie and slept great everywhere.  I love knowing that all we need is his lovie and we can take him anywhere.  We leave it in his bed so he only gets it for naps and night time.
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