HELP! Sleep training feels like abuse!

TayLeigh · October 2010

I am sleep training my son who is about to be 3 months he sleeps through the night but has always slept on my chest. Its time for him to go to his own bed but I put him to sleep and get him in his bed the he wakes up and cries and just wont stop last night he did great but today nap time is so bad !! what did you do? HELP please I cant stand him to cry like this but dont want a baby in bed witth my husband and I forever

norman25 · October 2010

IMO, 3 mnths is too young to CIO

PubStar09 · October 2010

norman25:
IMO, 3 mnths is too young to CIO

Yes

KKM · October 2010

Have you tried the swing or a swaddle?

TayLeigh · October 2010

what is cio

tbone22308 · October 2010

"about to be" 3 months is WAY too young to CIO. DD is almost 5 months and I won't let her cry for more than a minute or two. Do you swaddle? That may help him feel more secure. White noise? Pacifier? Pick him up when he cries, put down when he stops? Lovey blanket? Putting something with your scent on it (tshirt, etc) in his crib? Bounce/rock until drowsy then lay him down? It very well may take time to get him used to not sleeping with you. Don't expect it to happen overnight.

tbone22308 · October 2010

TayLeigh:
what is cio

Cry it out

Chelle0112 · October 2010

norman25:
IMO, 3 mnths is too young to CIO

Yep. Even CIO advocates don't recommend it until at least 4 months.

emily0829 · October 2010

norman25:
IMO, 3 mnths is too young to CIO

This.

That, and if it feels like abuse to you, then don't do it. Your parenting style doesn't have to reflect another woman's parenting style. It's different for everyone, and that is the beauty of opinions about the matter.

Also, how long are you letting him CIO? It's supposed to be VERY SMALL amounts of time.

KKM · October 2010

I think she is just looking for ways to get her son to not sleep on her.

Chelle0112 · October 2010

I forgot to type my advice. The only way DS would sleep in his crib at first was swaddled with a paci. The crib may feel too big for him right now, and swaddling may help him feel more secure.

TayLeigh · October 2010

im not using the cio method he cries I pick him up and put him back to sleep he did great during the night but nap time today was not having it and threw a fit. the most I was planning to let him cry was 3 minutes but even that felt like too long I just dont want a one or two year old sleeping on my chest.

PinkPeony6210 · October 2010

DD slept on my chest for 3 weeks, then I moved her into bed with us. Once I felt like I had enough, I went out and bought a co-sleeper type bassinet so she could be right next to me. The first couple of nights were rough, but she learned to sleep without me. If she started to fuss, I would just place my hand on her to let her know that I was there and comfort her. Have you tried that?

Fordlor · October 2010

KKM:
I think she is just looking for ways to get her son to not sleep on her.

This.

OP, try what pp suggested- swaddling, pacifier, etc.

Right now, my DD only naps in her bouncy seat. However, she does sleep swaddled in her crib at night. I need to start getting her to sleep in her crib for naps but I figure I'll wait til she is four months old.

TayLeigh · October 2010

I put my hand on him and it just makes him mad like you touching me...hold me!

GreenNGold · October 2010

You could put a heating pad on his matress for a few minutes before you lay him down to make his bed warm. Also try using some music or white noise. DD likes the sound of ocean waves. GL!

ougrad1 · October 2010

I felt like that with Emerson (CIO) but, this time around someone is always crying it seems and they're all just fine at the end of the day.

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