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amandaloren
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Other peoples reactions when you get pregnant?
amandaloren
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Do any of yall worry about what others reactions will be when you tell them you are pregnant. I don't necessarily worry about some, it's more like I dread to tell some. Mostily my MIL, I know she doesn't want to be a grandma yet (which is NOT her choice). But I have this feeling she is going to get this horrid look on her face and say something to ruin the moment. Anybody else have a bad apple in your family that you dread telling when you get pregnant?
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Re: Other peoples reactions when you get pregnant?
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Aww that sucks that your MIL feels that way!
Both sets of parents have been bugging us about having a baby for a good year and a half now, so they are ready. I'm more dreading some of DH's single friends complaining that he won't have time to hang out with them...sheesh!
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When DH and I got back from our honeymoon I found out there was a battle on facebook lol My sister and law had left a comment on my page saying I hope you come back prego
and like 5 other people (all close family members) started going back in forth (on my fb page) about how I am not ready for a baby yet, or I am ready....blah blah blah lol It was interesting to read especially since none of them have a say in it.
But when it comes to my MIL I don't know what her deal is. She just turned 40 and has a 3 year old so she thinks she is to young to have a grandbaby or she doesn't want our kid and hers close in age...Idk what the deal is.
Ugh my MIL. She told us that if we don't tell her the MINUTE we find out she was be really angry. Well, she is just gonna be angry because we are not planning on telling anyone until at least 8 weeks.
Yep, feel the same way!! We have only been married for about a month.
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Our families always ask "are you pregnant yet?" so I'm sure they will all be thrilled.
What I am nervous about is after we have the baby. I have a CRAZY step-MIL who seems to think I'm going to let her babysit, I won't even leave her alone with our dog, let alone our child!
My family will all be ecstatic, I think. So will DH's family. Of course, I am already 30, we just bought a house with 3 bedrooms, so no one will be really surprised.
The only reaction I am not sure about is my little sister. I think she wil be happy for me, but I think she'll be a little sad that it isn't her. She's the only one i told that we were TTC, because I tell her everything. So, judging from the reaction when i told her that, I dunno, at least she's prepared?
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As far as family and friends, everybody will be insanely ecstatic--I mean, crazy, over-the-moon happy. That actually includes co-workers.
The only place I have concern is with my employees and new-ish manager. I know they will be happy for me, but I worry that they will worry about my focus, my returning from maternity leave (as in, will I--which I will; have no choice), and me being on maternity leave fairly close to when I got my promotion and took over as their boss.
I had the SAME problem when we got pregnant with our first!!! We were very nervous to tell my MIL and she was shocked and seemed disappointed. She's kindof a worrier and kept saying things like "aren't you scared??" "the economy is so bad" and stuff like that.
Don't let that ruin the excitement for you though!!! I just brushed it off because at least I was prepared for a bad reaction! The great part is that after he was born she quickly gave up on her negative feelings and now can't get enough of him! So, there's hope!
Well if she just turned 40 and has a son that is married I would say she had her son too young. Not that she is too young to be a grandma. IMO Sorry that she may not give you the reaction you're wanting.
I have a MIL that should be friends with yours! Mine told me that it would be a "black cloud" over my SIL if we get pregnant before her since she has PCOS and has only been trying 2 months longer than us. Ah in laws, gotta love them!
I think I have the opposite of all of you! I am scared of the reaction of my family. My ILs will be over the moon. I'm pretty sure that it'll be a repeat of our wedding where my ILs helped us with everything and my parents and sister just had hissy fits the entire time... Sigh
Edited due to typing errors! Oops!
This for me as well. I think everyone else will be happy/excited for us, but my boss is a PIA. My mom always asks if we're "working on her grandchild" and DH's dad sent two parenting books to him last month which was really cracked me up.
Oh, she definetely did!!! She was 14 when she got pregnant and had him at 15. Way to young. We are about to be 25 so I am not sure why she thinks we are going to wait...My mom was 21 so she shouldn't be suprised either.
Wow, I am sorry to hear about your crazy MIL. I was so worried about telling my MIL because she, for some crazy reason, thought me and Hubby never wanted to have children. Well, my best friend accidentally let it slip to her that we are TTC and she was over the moon happy about it! Although I was kinda uneasy about the slippage of news, now it makes me happy because she won't think we accidentally got preggo. Just knowing that she knows we want it makes me feel better. My poor friend she felt so bad. She apologizes to me all the time.
I am most nervous now about telling my boss. I assume he will just get really quiet. Oh that scares me!
This exactly! My mil thinks I'm going to have a baby and hand it over to her to raise. She's made comments about sleeping over all the time so she could get up with the baby and stuff like that. I've already told her that I like my privacy but she told me that I'll change my mind. We are going to have to set boundaries right away. She's been bugging us for kids for at least 6 years and I really can't stand that she asks me everytime we speak. I don't even plan on telling her right away because I know she'll be up my a$$. On the other hand, my mother keeps telling me to wait because basically being pregnant is not fun and then once the kids come they scream and demand so much of your time. Really?! I'm going to be 29 next month, we've been together for 11 years and have a house. It's not unreasonable to want to have a baby. So frustrating!
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I'm less worried about telling them I'm KU and more worried about how to tell MIL that I want my mother to be the only one to stay with me for the first couple of weeks. She's welcome to come see the baby while we're both still in the hospital, but I want my mother to be the one with me at home. Found out after DH got hit by a car that his mother can be VERY controlling when it comes to care and telling people what to do, so I want to make sure that she doesn't try and tell me how to take care of my baby. My mom will be great!!
EDIT: As I was reading other posts, I remembered one relative who will be happy but probably heartbroken. DH's older brother (30) has only had one real relationship & they broke up a few months b4 our wedding, and he was in pieces. I'm hopeful that his new gf will be the one and that it will be easier for him to hear we are PG if he's seriously dating/engaged to her!!!
sadly I am not looking forward to all the people gloating that they were right that we were going to have more.
I hate to be wrong!
I'm a pretty private person, so pregnancy really takes me out of my comfort zone.
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since I am 34 and dh is 32, and we have been together for seven years (married for three), I think the will say "finally"!
everyone will be thrilled, especially my Mom.
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I was barely three when my nephew was born. It's an interesting relationship... When I was younger I saw him as a cool kid to play with when they came to visit, but now I definitely feel more aunt-ish since I care more about his actions and how his life is going in general.
My inlaws have been dropping baby hints since we got engaged. I think they'll be over the moon happy and I know they have boundaries. They live about 25 minutes from us but they always call before they come over and they are very careful to not stop on any toes.
MY mother on the other hand will be a nightmare. She's controlling and manipulative. I love her but I know she'll be a pain in the a$$. Several months ago on facebook my cousin asked my other cousin if she would just hurry up and have a baby so she can babysit during her summers home from college and I posted "so if I have a baby you'll come up and babysit for me?" and my mom went berzerk about how we're not ready for a baby for several more years and to not even joke about it.
Well, it's our say and our life so she can suck it. Thank God she lives an hour away from us so she hopefully won't be oer all the time.
My mom has made a couple of comments about how she thinks we should wait and enjoy being married and stuff. I worry about her reaction some. She just always seems to have to insert her opinions, both good and bad, and can't seem to bite her tongue. I dunno, maybe she'll surprise me. We've been married almost a year now, which is how long we said we'd wait, so she can't be too shocked.
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I am more nervous to tell DH's family. They have not brought up us having kids once (and we have been together for 10 years, married for 3), so I am not sure if they will be excited or not.
I know that some get annoyed when family members badger them about "when they are going to have a baby", which I can see as getting old, but DH's family is the complete opposite. Maybe it's because they all waited well into their 30's to have kids, but DH is 33 and I am 28, so it's not like we are teenagers...
Maybe they just want to stay out of it, which I guess I can appreciate, but they have no problem giving us un-solicited advise about everything else, so I kind of doubt that's the case.
I know that my family will be thrilled though!!!
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