How often do you have sex?

susie985 · October 2010

I'm just curious to know if I'm the only one who is not having sex. We didn't do it at all the last half of my pregnancy and since my 6 week appt. We have done it 3times. Actually make that 2, because the third time, we tried with lube and it burned me. For some reason all lubes that I've tried burn. The first time was successul for DH, but it hurt for me and the second time hurt even worse so we couldn't finish, and I had a c-section. It's been a good couple weeks since that last time. I am too tired and have no desire, poor DH! I can tell he's frustrated, but then again I don't feel too bad since I take care of DD pretty much 24/7 since he works midnights and then gets to come home and sleep most of the day. Sorry for the disorganized rambling as I am tired. Anyone else?

ASmallWonder · October 2010

S.E.X? What is this word? :-p

LJR 84 · October 2010

About 5x a week. I'm not sure if it makes a difference, but I had a c/s so it hasn't been uncomfortable at all as of 6wks pp.

KKM · October 2010

LJR 84:
About 5x a week. I'm not sure if it makes a difference, but I had a c/s so it hasn't been uncomfortable at all as of 6wks pp.

Indifferent

nicki070810 · October 2010

Usually 4/5 times a week depending on the week. We were at my parents all long weekend so we ended up doing it twice last night lol. I didn't tear at all though and was cleared at 4 weeks pp by my midwife.

IndieMum · October 2010

I'm just now getting to where I can stand it, but the lube all burns like hell for me too. I had a bunch if tearing so I thought maybe that was why, but if you had a c/s then apparently not. Maybe we should just try olive oil...

Mrs.T22308 · October 2010

Twice a month maybe?

It was like that pre-baby too. Its not because it hurt (never did and I had a c/s) but because a) I'm just too busy/tired and b) DH usually is a jerk on the days I am in the mood, which kills the mood.

jasrun80 · October 2010

only 3x since !!!! im depressed about it & you 4-5x a weekers make me feel even worse,,,,

how do you do it?

Cytina · October 2010

I think I might be a born-again virgin.

jilicious · October 2010

We try for once a week, lol, and I felt like a rockstar for that but then I read these 4-5 times a week posts and now I feel like a dud

susie985 · October 2010

jasrun80:
only 3x since !!!! im depressed about it & you 4-5x a weekers make me feel even worse,,,, how do you do it?

That's what I'm wondering! Even if I wanted to, I couldn't find the time.I forgot to mention, DD still sleeps in our room and we have his parents and brothers living with us in our house, unfortunately!

ankledolphin · October 2010

Cytina:
I think I might be a born-again virgin.

umm...me too!

you people really don't want to know how long its been...

finally went and bought ky and condoms because didn't look like dh was going to! now trying to find time to even attempt it again. we work split shifts so that makes it hard as well! sometimes i wonder how we even got our DD!!!

BlueRidge8 · October 2010

How often?

BWAHAHAHAHAHA *pauses* HAHAHAHAHA

none.

nicki070810 · October 2010

Usually after DS goes to bed we'll cuddle on the couch and end up fooling around which generally leads to sex. We were averaging 6-7 times a week pre-baby so it has decreased since DS. I'm not complaining though...guess we're just lucky!

LJR 84 · October 2010

jasrun80:
only 3x since !!!! im depressed about it & you 4-5x a weekers make me feel even worse,,,, how do you do it?

haha. I could not wait to get the go ahead from my doctor at my 6 week check-up. As for finding the time/energy...I've surprisingly had MORE since I've been back to work. Work is actually where I get to re-group/relax. It also helps that we now take turns getting up with dd every other night, so I'm actually pretty well rested. LO goes down around 7pm too, so that helps.

bsktbllqt11 · October 2010

Cytina:
I think I might be a born-again virgin.

Haha, this definitely.

sbabe214 · October 2010

haven't even attempted. I'm scared sh!tless about it (esp after reading posts) & DH seems to have lost complete interest...kind of depressing really

Starfish113 · October 2010

bsktbllqt11:
Cytina:
I think I might be a born-again virgin.

Haha, this definitely.

This this this! Haha

AvidVertigo · October 2010

Not at all since 35w pregnant....I know...we jus bought condoms the other day.

mm&m2010 · October 2010

like 3x since baby! And all you 4-5 time a weekers, either you are lying or you have a husband that helps you a TON because I have no time to eat dinner sometimes, let alone take my clothes- maybe while I am cooking dinner- if I even cook, I could let him cop a feel.HAHAHA!!!

scoutkate · October 2010

Once a week, sometimes twice. I still have some pain from my episiotomy.

emilysmommy2010 · October 2010

2/3 times a week. At first it really hurt but the more you "practice" the easier it gets and I had a c-section.

prego760 · October 2010

Sigh. We used to be crazy. He was working 24 hour shifts and every day home we'd do it. I work 9 hour days and by the time I get home I've been gone at least 11 hours. He has had the baby all day and makes dinner and either we'll watch TV or work on a home project after DS goes to bed. When I had DS I tore and ripped really bad. DS is 5 1/2 months and it still hurts so bad. I BF and I have no desire no energy. And certainly I feel bad for my H. I love my H and I know this is a need and I will happily do other stuff but it takes so much more out of me to do that then really what I get out of it. In the end I go to sleep thinking that was just as exilerating as doing the dishes.

MrsD627 · October 2010

We didn't at all for my first 12 weeks PP, but we have done it 3x since. So averaging once a week now? We are both pretty satisfied--this is how it was pre-DS anyway.

AshSchultz · October 2010

bsktbllqt11:

Cytina:
I think I might be a born-again virgin.

Haha, this definitely.

yup.. this,,, poor DH'

And it's weird for me b/c we were like evrery night for 3 yrs before I got pregnant... wow

tbone22308 · October 2010

DD is 5 months on the 21st. We've done it three times, only once to completion. So yeah...Sex? what's that?

cherylnicole · October 2010

We do it once or twice a week..we were doing it once a day before DS...I can't even fathom the idea of having sex now 5 times or more a week-I don't even think I would want to!

PinkPeony6210 · October 2010

4-5 times since DD was born...June 2nd! It is definitely something that we are trying to work on right now...I would much rather catch up on my DVR'd shows or sleep!

BamBam510 · October 2010

Usually once a week, sometimes twice, sometimes not even. THats how it was pre-baby too. I love it and want it all the time, my dh is the one who isn't in the mood as often. Although I've had a few times where I've cried after sex because I feel like such $hit about my body. Seeing my belly jiggle is not a turn on for me so my self-confidence is really down the drain.

marriedinaugust · October 2010

I'm glad to see I'm not the only one not having sex. I don't think we did it at all in my 3rd tri and I wasn't cleared for sex until almost 4 months pp. Then I made an appt for an IUD so we waited until after that so we didn't have to use condoms. It's been 5 weeks since and still nothing. We both want to but how do you find the time and energy?

ecu1995 · October 2010

jilicious:
We try for once a week, lol, and I felt like a rockstar for that but then I read these 4-5 times a week posts and now I feel like a dud

Hahaha....completely agree!

To the OP, I had a c/s also and it burns/pinches. I remember this from the last time after I had my daughter. I think it is b/c of all the hormones (I am BF), and also, things just "shift" inside...we have to remember that towards the end, there was an almost 9lb baby hanging out in there, making everything drop!

KRISTA555 · October 2010

Since we stopped using condoms, 4ish times a week. When we were using condoms, 1-2 times a week. Condoms were uncomfortable for both of us, even with lots of astro-glide.

susie985 · October 2010

ErinKD:
4-5 times since DD was born...June 2nd! It is definitely something that we are trying to work on right now...I would much rather catch up on my DVR'd shows or sleep!

Same here! BTW my DD is Ella Grace also!

jasrun80 · October 2010

susie985:
jasrun80:
only 3x since !!!! im depressed about it & you 4-5x a weekers make me feel even worse,,,, how do you do it?
That's what I'm wondering! Even if I wanted to, I couldn't find the time.I forgot to mention, DD still sleeps in our room and we have his parents and brothers living with us in our house, unfortunately

my lil guy still sleeps in our room too...but still 4-5 is not gonna happen even when he is out,,i wish we had that urge & connection though,,

nopegoat · October 2010

I was spotting until about 13wks PP so now that it has stopped we have had a lot of making up to do. It hurt the first few times, but if he goes slow at first I am good. We have had sex almost every day since.

rareskirt · October 2010

We try and do it once a week, but like many other people it used to be several times a week until I got late in my pregnancy and I was feeling horrible. It is still hurting pretty bad at times but I try and suck it up as best I can. I feel really bad for my so, plus feeling kind of bad about how I look. If I felt better about that and actually had time to shower every day I think it would be more often. I swear my dr. stitched me shut after my ds. He was a 10lbs baby so I often think I would have been better often with a cs.

rareskirt · October 2010

ErinKD:
4-5 times since DD was born...June 2nd! It is definitely something that we are trying to work on right now...I would much rather catch up on my DVR'd shows or sleep!

^Agree once my so and ds are asleep I often sit and watch my dvr shows and it is my time to relax even if it means less sleep.

jenxoxoxo · October 2010

We have sex at least 5 times a wk. It gets better and less painful the more you do it. I had a vag birth and tore from one end to the other. Since I am not on hormonal BC my sex drive is through the roof and it gets better after each child. DH helps out alot when he gets home from work. He is awesome!

ericndarcy2009 · October 2010

jilicious:
We try for once a week, lol, and I felt like a rockstar for that but then I read these 4-5 times a week posts and now I feel like a dud

This.

caitemarie16 · October 2010

AshSchultz:
bsktbllqt11:

Cytina:
I think I might be a born-again virgin.

Haha, this definitely.

yup.. this,,, poor DH'

And it's weird for me b/c we were like evrery night for 3 yrs before I got pregnant... wow

this exactly, but maybe once a week if i'm lucky.

LeviMakesThree · October 2010

Probably every other day, but usually quickies--DH was super romantic last night so it was way longer than usual--but who has time for 6x a week? And twice in 1 night? Yeah...these women have nannies or something

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