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luckyfrgg
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Need to stop reading the other boards
luckyfrgg
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My birth month board is making me crazy, and third tri isn't much better. I know this isn't particularly sensitive to people's choices and birth experiences, etc., but the number of inductions and the intervention domino effect is seriously starting to make me twitch!! I was doing fine until the birth month board started being composed mostly of 38-39 weekers who are all being told they need to be induced right away because their babies are so big or have doctors offering to schedule a c-section for them since they're so uncomfortable or who are complaining about why their hospital won't allow epidurals until you're 3 cm dilated. *sigh*
Snarky of me? Yes, I admit that. But I generally try to be very very patient with all different kinds of birth decisions and recognize that I have my opinions and everyone else is entitled to theirs, I'm just cranky and tired of it right now. So I'm going to switch to lurking here with the kindred spirits for a little while.
So hi. 
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Re: Need to stop reading the other boards
Ugh. Yes, normally it doesn't bother me, but right now I'm feeling very judgy. I just wish people would take the time to educate themselves rather than not using their minds/decision making abilities at all. That's what really bugs me. If you're educated and then you decide to get an early epidural or whatever it is, that's fine. Obviously you understand the risks and you've decided it's ok. Otherwise, GAH! That post on 3rd tri from the friend of a women who's water had broken 7 hours earlier and who wasn't being given pitocin (oh, dear lord...) etc., just about made me want to chew my arm.
*laughing* That was exactly the straw that broke the camel's back tonight!
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LOL! Yeah, that was a doozy.
Agreed -- but I get angry at both the medical establishment *and* the women. I'm a health care provider myself, and it amazes me how many patients come into my office with a long list of medications that they take and when I ask them what they are for or how much they are taking - they have NO idea. People need to take responsibility for their own health by educating themselves - pregnant women especially - this is your body. And the medical establishment needs to stop spreading so much completely unfounded fear to their patients.
It amuses me b/c many of the medical providers I know would never do the things that are commonly recommended or forced on patients. I have a colleague who is a hospital nurse, and when she reached 42 weeks and her midwives were legally required to discharge her care, instead of getting an OB, she got another midwife who was able to do a homebirth -- then waited until she naturally went into labor at 42 weeks and 5 days, pushed for 3 hours, and has a beautiful completely healthy 1 year old daughter. She said, "They would have never even given me the option to do that at the hospital and I knew nothing was medically wrong with me or the baby."
Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
Day Three
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
Could we be talking about our Octo-Mom board? Oh yes, I'd have to agree with steering clear of the birth stories on there. I read one once and forgot that it wasn't on the natural birth board and it made me angry! These last couple of days, I think I'll be sticking to my Naturale bumpies!
MuAhz!
oh dear -- i used to lead a nat'l birth check in about 4 years ago. Not only did they taunt me on the baby boards, but they found my home board and migrated to bashing me for fun over there too.
It hurt me so so deep and i was around the third tri then too.
I'm still not very active here as i've found a new home, but i can't lie -- when my friend told me she got this board accepted i was THRILLED. we all need a home where we can be supported in our decisions and openly learn from one another -- even if we still don't agree on everything.
hang out ~ find peace ~ and be sure to share your journey
It just makes me so sad, really, to read birth stories that aren't from this board. As I'm reading, I get to the point where I can see where a wrong turn occurred. You know that Mom didn't even know that the decision she'd made, often with the "help" of medical professionals, put her and her baby at risk.
Now that I'm about to go into labor any day, I just don't read anything that's not positive. I just won't believe that women are as broken as the general outlook on birth leads us to believe.
Me too. I was one of those women once. And reading those stories now is very hard for me. Especially when they're all, "My doctor saved my baby OMG" and it's pretty obvious that no "saving" would have been necessary if they hadn't let their doctor induce (or insert whatever intervention here) in the first place.
And then I also get kind of upset when people say, "I had a C-section/was induced and it was soooooo great." I'm all for positive stories but it still bothers me when no one acknowledges the risks of unnecessary interventions. When there are people out there saying it's okay to induce with Cytotec, for example, that is one thing that really pisses me off. Because it's just not true.
This was exactly my experience with the first birth I ever attended about 8 years ago. I've written about it here on the NB board several times - but it was so awful, from an outside perspective b/c I could see every wrong turn/decision being made or forced upon my friend by the nurses. And yet to this day, my friend truly believe that she had to have the c/s - that this was the only way. She was joking around when I first got pregnant about how horrible the entire labor would be for me b/c she truly believes this is just the normal experience of everyone. I never say anything to her. I know, at this point, she has to believe that and it keeps her sane. But it is just so sad to me.
I know exactly what you're talking about! I feel the same way when I read those birth stories. It's so sad.
Me too.. There are a few of us over here.. = ) I totally agree.. My OB has been trying to push for induction for over a week now and I just keep telling her I don't want to talk about it until I'm closer to 42 weeks. It's just scary to me that this just seems to be such common practice these days!
IMO
scheduling a c-section ever is somewhat stupid.
i know some women NEED to have a c-section. there's no doubt.
but why shouldn't they wait until they're in labor to have the c-section?
Its not like there needs to be a lot of planning with it.
at least the baby would be coming when it was ready.
(except i guess in the rare instance it becomes necessary to section for a medical reason and they do one at like 37 wks or something)