Hello ladies...
I had a miscarriage on July 25th. And I feel like I should be over it, but I'm not. We weren't planning the baby-- it was a total accident-- but we were really excited about it. I was 7 and a half weeks along when it happened.
I guess what sucks the most is that they say there's nothing I could have done. But that makes me feel like it's going to happen over and over again!
We were due in March, and now I feel like if I'm not pregnant again by March, I'm going to have a really hard time with it. We decided to wait until the holidays to try again...I thought I'd join here for some support. My IRL friends either aren't having kids yet, or have had successful pregnancies. No one has had a loss.
I used to be really scared that I'd have trouble conceiving, I don't know why. I didn't. But now I feel like I'm going to have trouble carrying to term, and I'm terrified!
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Me too. Whenever someone announces they're pregnant, I get really upset. And it's not like me. And the weird thing is, our wedding is Nov. 20th (now...it was supposed to be May 2011, we moved it because of the pregnancy when we found out) and we had been totally planning to not to TTC until next summer. But now it's all I can think about.
I was due in March, its not that date that terrifies me it is the whole month of September, which is when everything fell apart. We had planned our pregnancy and I didn't want to be huge in the summer, now I want to get pregnant again in January so that hopefully we will be almost full term in September and then if something bad happens maybe our baby will have a chance.
I think that its weird they give you a three month period to get better before you try again which would, if you got pregnant right away put your due date right around the date you lost your baby.
I want to try again and I just feel like I want a baby to much so much that either we will never get pregnant again or we are going to lose all our babies.
I'm so sorry for your loss and all the pain you are going through...
I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. This pregnancy was our first, and was also an accident, but that didn't stop us from being excited. We had a BFP on July 23, and found out last week, at my 12 week appt., that the baby had died at 8 weeks. My EDD was April 3, and I feel like if I'm not pregnant again by then it will be unbearable.
I also understand how you feel that this will happen again. I always thought that if we had any trouble having to do with pregnancy, it would be trouble TTC. It never even crossed my mind that I could GET pregnant but not STAY pregnant. Now I worry about conceiving and miscarrying! Even though everyone says "there was nothing you could have done," and "it probably won't happen again," it doesn't make me worry any less about next time. Hang in there, and I'm glad you joined us for support, I've found everyone to be so helpful and understanding. Wishing you all the best.
Hmm, I never thought about that..It is weird.
I am so sorry for your loss. Like you and pp's have said, I too hope that I'm pregnant come May, so that it would possibly be easier. Just make sure you have taken the time you need to heal. ((hugs))
I am so very sorry for your loss ((((hugs))))
This is a wonderful board, full of amazing and supportive women. I hope that you find some support and comfort here.
You are not alone, we're all here for you.
Welcome and big hugs!!!
I think everyone has that fear and it will probably always be there. Statistics show that most miscarriages are the result of chromosomal abnormalities and the next pregnancy is often healthy.
When I get pregnant again I'll definitely be nervous, but I believe you have to be positive and enjoy your pregnancy and baby. You can't waste that special time worrying that something might happen. Do what you can to ensure your baby is healthy... that's all you can do.
You have support whenever you need it! We all know how you feel! I think of it this way.... Every day you get through is one day closer to your baby. One day at a time. (((((***Hugs***)))))
BFP#1: 7/23/10, EDD 4/1/11, MC/DNC 9/29/10(14wks)
BFP#2: 1/12/11 CP (6 Weeks)
BFP#3: 6/26/11, EDD 3/4/12, Natural MC 8/5/11 (10wks)
TTC #1 since May 2010. BFP #1 - 5/31/10; m/c on 7/22/10
Started seeing RE in August 2011
5 IUIs: BFN; IVF #1 - Success! BFP - 7/25/12
To Jessicabarrup
Wow, same story here...I was due April 7 and my sil is due a week before me...She found out about a month or so after we did so she was still drinking and smoking whenever....yet she is still pregnant and I'm not...she also wasn't even trying and told me she wasn't ready yet....
I keep thinking it will be so much easier if I were pregnant, too....esp with the holidays coming up. Family who haven't seen her yet will be seeing her for the first time I'm sure come Thanksgiving etc. I really don't want to be there for that! I haven't seen her since finding out she was pregnant and I am so scared for that.
This was our 1st cycle ttc after waiting for my first AF. I just got AF today so I guess this cycle was a bust...that makes it so scary. I just keep thinking what if it takes longer than the 3 months it took the first time, what if there's another mc, her being pregnant will make either waiting or going through another that much harder....
Give yourself a pass for the jealousy and anger, I think we're human for it!