Hmmm... Wednesday sounds like a good day for a confession... or four...

kcisthebombdotcom · September 2010

saturdaynightdoubletree:

DD slept with a blanket from the day she got home from the hospital... they actually started using it at the hospital. I had lots of sleep sacks, etc. and tried to use those more frequently. Her blanket was super light weight with a lot of holes, not that it makes it "right". She always slept with her arms up above her head, and didn't move. Once she started rolling and moving, there was nothing in the crib. I'm not condoning this in any way, but people do it. And frankly, I think it's worse when people get all mad about a blanket, but let their LO's sleep with 100 stuffed animals in their crib.

With this baby... we moved to TX, so fleece pj's should do the trick... no blankets.

You know, my flameful confession is I don't get why people feel the need to put their kid in a bubble to prevent SIDS. Do you know how often it occurs? Out of 4.3 million live births in the US a year, 4500 babies die of SIDS. But if you god forbid you put baby to sleep on your stomach or use a bumper, you're a monster. If you want to talk risk, if you drive your child to daycare in the morning, that is much more dangerous than putting a blanket in their bed or sleeping with bumpers. Even if you make the choice to use blankets in the crib, you're not putting your child at any sort of considerable risk of death. The probability that your child will move the blanket in such a way to suffocate themselves is probably extremely small. We had a whole generation of people who survived with blankets, stuffed animals, bumpers, and sleeping on their stomach.

riserst · September 2010

KC_13:
saturdaynightdoubletree:

DD slept with a blanket from the day she got home from the hospital... they actually started using it at the hospital. I had lots of sleep sacks, etc. and tried to use those more frequently. Her blanket was super light weight with a lot of holes, not that it makes it "right". She always slept with her arms up above her head, and didn't move. Once she started rolling and moving, there was nothing in the crib. I'm not condoning this in any way, but people do it. And frankly, I think it's worse when people get all mad about a blanket, but let their LO's sleep with 100 stuffed animals in their crib.

With this baby... we moved to TX, so fleece pj's should do the trick... no blankets.

You know, my flameful confession is I don't get why people feel the need to put their kid in a bubble to prevent SIDS. Do you know how often it occurs? Out of 4.3 million live births in the US a year, 4500 babies die of SIDS. But if you god forbid you put baby to sleep on your stomach or use a bumper, you're a monster. If you want to talk risk, if you drive your child to daycare in the morning, that is much more dangerous than putting a blanket in their bed or sleeping with bumpers. Even if you make the choice to use blankets in the crib, you're not putting your child at any sort of considerable risk of death. The probability that your child will move the blanket in such a way to suffocate themselves is probably extremely small. We had a whole generation of people who survived with blankets, stuffed animals, bumpers, and sleeping on their stomach.

Lurking from 3-6.. but I can't resist not jumping in..

OP.. I am sure your baby will be fine... I am sure you are speaking of a light weight blanket (waist high as you said).

My confessions:

My baby sleeps with a blanket on her belly..and has since he was 2 weeks old. We have padded bumpers in the cribs too.

Life is good.

riserst · September 2010

riserst:
KC_13:
saturdaynightdoubletree:

DD slept with a blanket from the day she got home from the hospital... they actually started using it at the hospital. I had lots of sleep sacks, etc. and tried to use those more frequently. Her blanket was super light weight with a lot of holes, not that it makes it "right". She always slept with her arms up above her head, and didn't move. Once she started rolling and moving, there was nothing in the crib. I'm not condoning this in any way, but people do it. And frankly, I think it's worse when people get all mad about a blanket, but let their LO's sleep with 100 stuffed animals in their crib.

With this baby... we moved to TX, so fleece pj's should do the trick... no blankets.

You know, my flameful confession is I don't get why people feel the need to put their kid in a bubble to prevent SIDS. Do you know how often it occurs? Out of 4.3 million live births in the US a year, 4500 babies die of SIDS. But if you god forbid you put baby to sleep on your stomach or use a bumper, you're a monster. If you want to talk risk, if you drive your child to daycare in the morning, that is much more dangerous than putting a blanket in their bed or sleeping with bumpers. Even if you make the choice to use blankets in the crib, you're not putting your child at any sort of considerable risk of death. The probability that your child will move the blanket in such a way to suffocate themselves is probably extremely small. We had a whole generation of people who survived with blankets, stuffed animals, bumpers, and sleeping on their stomach.

Lurking from 3-6.. but I can't resist not jumping in..

OP.. I am sure your baby will be fine... I am sure you are speaking of a light weight blanket (waist high as you said).

My confessions:

My baby sleeps with a blanket on her belly..and has since he was 2 weeks old. We have padded bumpers in the cribs too.

Life is good.

Oh... and my last confession: I soooo miss the 3rd Tri drama on this board. It really is quite entertaining and it helped my 3rd Trimester fly by!!

Good luck to all with your babies... you're almost there!!

Anonymi · September 2010

My confession: I am so ready to be done with pregnancy. I am thoroughly sick of wanting to throw up all the time, having more or less an asthma attack from the stress the pregnancy is putting on my body every night, and having to be cautious about eating enough all the time rather than just eating when hungry so that I don't start having random contractions.

LinnyAnne10 · September 2010

JasmineBrooke:
I have at least one caffeine drink every day... sometimes two...
p.s. to OP - try checking these out:
https://jelly-tots-kids.com/index.php?currency=GBP

THOSE ARE SO CUTE!!!

xche · September 2010

KC_13:
You know, my flameful confession is I don't get why people feel the need to put their kid in a bubble to prevent SIDS. Do you know how often it occurs? Out of 4.3 million live births in the US a year, 4500 babies die of SIDS. But if you god forbid you put baby to sleep on your stomach or use a bumper, you're a monster. If you want to talk risk, if you drive your child to daycare in the morning, that is much more dangerous than putting a blanket in their bed or sleeping with bumpers. Even if you make the choice to use blankets in the crib, you're not putting your child at any sort of considerable risk of death. The probability that your child will move the blanket in such a way to suffocate themselves is probably extremely small. We had a whole generation of people who survived with blankets, stuffed animals, bumpers, and sleeping on their stomach.

While this may be true, it doesn't change the fact that you are putting your baby at a higher risk for SIDS.. If you think you could live with yourself after waking up one morning and finding your child dead because you did something you were warned against, that is entirely your decision. I think some of the responses have been a bit over the top, but this is what it comes down to. It's your baby, you will have to live with the concequences. If everything is fine, WONDERFUL, no one is wishing your baby ill so we can be vindicated... just remember that there is a reason we're advised against it.

New_MrsP · September 2010

Man, people are really freaking out about the blanket/bumper thing, but how many of you are planning on co-sleeping? That's a SIDS risk too, but I don't see people getting flamed for that.

https://www.sidscanada.org/safesleep/roomsharing.html

trinadesrosiers · September 2010

I didn't even know there were facial cleansers you aren't supposed to use, I probably use them all the time.

I'm with most of the PP's on the blanket, bumpers are one thing, but a blanket is a pretty flat out "I don't give a ***". It is your choice, and hopefully you get lucky and your baby is fine, but when you meet your sweet little child if you still are able to say I am willing to take the risk of losing them to sids ( my sister died of sids, it isn't as uncommon as you might think), I would be shocked. And it gets pretty dam cold in Canada to, but I'm not using a regular blanket, hopefully the miracle blanket to swaddle them is our plan.

trinadesrosiers · September 2010

KC_13:

You know, my flameful confession is I don't get why people feel the need to put their kid in a bubble to prevent SIDS. Do you know how often it occurs? Out of 4.3 million live births in the US a year, 4500 babies die of SIDS. But if you god forbid you put baby to sleep on your stomach or use a bumper, you're a monster. If you want to talk risk, if you drive your child to daycare in the morning, that is much more dangerous than putting a blanket in their bed or sleeping with bumpers. Even if you make the choice to use blankets in the crib, you're not putting your child at any sort of considerable risk of death. The probability that your child will move the blanket in such a way to suffocate themselves is probably extremely small. We had a whole generation of people who survived with blankets, stuffed animals, bumpers, and sleeping on their stomach.

Really? Everyone takes their own risks. But these are my reasons I think that is silly:

A couple things -Sudden infant death rate is at an all time low. Since 1983, the rate of SIDS has fallen by over 50 percent. This is because people know what some of the causes are now and do things to avoid them ( like not using blankets) and they didn't then.

In 2008 1,510 youth ( under 21) died from alcohol-impaired driving crashes, I guess that's less than sids, but I bet you think it is not worth the risk??

Just to put it in perspective, depending how you state statistics, it can look different, but it's not worth the risk if you can avoid it.

Aaron'sWife · September 2010

altarrose:

Eh, I'll play this game. I have a bunch

1. I sort of enjoy tormenting whiny pregnant women. I work with one, who at four months along already feels the need to sit constantly and complain, complain, complain. I like to talk about how I think pregnancy isn't an excuse for laziness and discuss how I plan to work right til the end. I'm kind of a jerk, but I don't care

2. I indulge in a glass of wine about once a week now- this includes in public, at dinner. I figure anything I'm comfortable enough doing at home doesn't need to be "hidden: or "secretive". I get awful, awful looks.

3. I chnaged the cat box the other day. It stunk and DH wasn't home. I washed my hands. I'm not the least bit worried.

4. I do have crib bumpers in my crib. The bad part of this is, I HAVEN'T done the proper research yet. The baby will be sleeping in a bassinet the first few months, so I am just leaving them in there because they "look pretty" for now.

5. I very much judge the fifteen year old in my birthing class who is naming her LO "Harmony Miracle"

How has no one commented on this? Drinking even during 3rd Tri is the most ridiculous thing I've ever read.

mom2hay · September 2010

JasmineBrooke:
I have at least one caffeine drink every day... sometimes two...
p.s. to OP - try checking these out:
https://jelly-tots-kids.com/index.php?currency=GBP

Those are so cute. Thanks for the site.

OctoberBabyH · September 2010

OP - I live in one of the most northeastern parts of PA and I think you're BSC.

If you keep the baby's room at a temperature that you feel is good for yourself, the baby will probably be just fine, according to books I've read, what my pedi says, etc.

Ashleygoo · September 2010

Sorry, lurking...

Read this if you're so upset about the blanket, cos in this it says

Avoid soft bedding materials. Babies should be placed on a firm, tight-fitting crib mattress with no comforter. Use a light sheet to cover the baby. Do not use pillows, comforters, or quilts.

I use a blanket to cover DD, and I dont feel bad about it. Oh, and some nights she sleeps on her tummy. She's just as much at risk of SIDS as your babies that co-sleep.

OP, do what you and your husband are comfortable with, cos you two are the parents. They shouldnt criticize you any more than someone should tell them that their co-sleeping is putting their baby just as much at risk.

Ashleygoo · September 2010

Ashleygoo:
Sorry, lurking...
Read this if you're so upset about the blanket, cos in this it says
Avoid soft bedding materials. Babies should be placed on a firm, tight-fitting crib mattress with no comforter. Use a light sheet to cover the baby. Do not use pillows, comforters, or quilts.
I use a blanket to cover DD, and I dont feel bad about it. Oh, and some nights she sleeps on her tummy. She's just as much at risk of SIDS as your babies that co-sleep.
OP, do what you and your husband are comfortable with, cos you two are the parents. They shouldnt criticize you any more than someone should tell them that their co-sleeping is putting their baby just as much at risk.

Oops, I forgot to put the link in (sorry, pregnancy brain is horrid the second time around!) https://health.google.com/health/ref/Sudden+infant+death+syndrome

wife1014 · September 2010

x_che:

KC_13:
You know, my flameful confession is I don't get why people feel the need to put their kid in a bubble to prevent SIDS. Do you know how often it occurs? Out of 4.3 million live births in the US a year, 4500 babies die of SIDS. But if you god forbid you put baby to sleep on your stomach or use a bumper, you're a monster. If you want to talk risk, if you drive your child to daycare in the morning, that is much more dangerous than putting a blanket in their bed or sleeping with bumpers. Even if you make the choice to use blankets in the crib, you're not putting your child at any sort of considerable risk of death. The probability that your child will move the blanket in such a way to suffocate themselves is probably extremely small. We had a whole generation of people who survived with blankets, stuffed animals, bumpers, and sleeping on their stomach.

While this may be true, it doesn't change the fact that you are putting your baby at a higher risk for SIDS.. If you think you could live with yourself after waking up one morning and finding your child dead because you did something you were warned against, that is entirely your decision. I think some of the responses have been a bit over the top, but this is what it comes down to. It's your baby, you will have to live with the concequences. If everything is fine, WONDERFUL, no one is wishing your baby ill so we can be vindicated... just remember that there is a reason we're advised against it.

Perfectly worded. But it doesn't surprise me that someone would state something like this and do it knowing there are risks. As small as these risks are, your child could die in their sleep and you were at fault. F that. I sure as hell wouldn't want that hanging over my head and heart for the rest of my life.

altarrose · September 2010

Aaron'sWife:
altarrose:

Eh, I'll play this game. I have a bunch

1. I sort of enjoy tormenting whiny pregnant women. I work with one, who at four months along already feels the need to sit constantly and complain, complain, complain. I like to talk about how I think pregnancy isn't an excuse for laziness and discuss how I plan to work right til the end. I'm kind of a jerk, but I don't care

2. I indulge in a glass of wine about once a week now- this includes in public, at dinner. I figure anything I'm comfortable enough doing at home doesn't need to be "hidden: or "secretive". I get awful, awful looks.

3. I chnaged the cat box the other day. It stunk and DH wasn't home. I washed my hands. I'm not the least bit worried.

4. I do have crib bumpers in my crib. The bad part of this is, I HAVEN'T done the proper research yet. The baby will be sleeping in a bassinet the first few months, so I am just leaving them in there because they "look pretty" for now.

5. I very much judge the fifteen year old in my birthing class who is naming her LO "Harmony Miracle"

How has no one commented on this? Drinking even during 3rd Tri is the most ridiculous thing I've ever read.

Well it is certainly your choice your choice to abstain completely. However- how do you think it is that generations prior to the seventies were born without defects ? Or babies in other countries ? Is it only American babies that seem to get FAS should their parents consume a unti of alcohol a week ? I am not condoning doing keg stands during pregnancy, but I am personally comfortable with a small amount of wine consumption at this stage in my pregnancy.

nadinethequeen01 · September 2010

you could use one of these instead of using an actual blanket. just a suggestion

https://www.target.com/b/ref=br_Newborn-Girls'-Sleepwear-0-12M?ie=UTF8&node=348947011&searchSize=30&searchPage=1&searchRank=pmrank#/abn?url=%2Fb.json%3Fie%3DUTF8%26node%3D348947011%26searchNodeID%3D348947011%26rh%3Dproduct_site_launch_date%253A-0a%257Claunch-date%253A-1y%257Cavailability%253A-2%257Ctarget_com_category-bin%253AWearable%2520Blankets%26releaseID%3D%26searchView%3Dgrid3%26searchRank%3Dpmrank%26searchSize%3D30&clear=false

Mommysaurus123 · September 2010

nadinethequeen01:

you could use one of these instead of using an actual blanket. just a suggestion

https://www.target.com/b/ref=br_Newborn-Girls'-Sleepwear-0-12M?ie=UTF8&node=348947011&searchSize=30&searchPage=1&searchRank=pmrank#/abn?url=%2Fb.json%3Fie%3DUTF8%26node%3D348947011%26searchNodeID%3D348947011%26rh%3Dproduct_site_launch_date%253A-0a%257Claunch-date%253A-1y%257Cavailability%253A-2%257Ctarget_com_category-bin%253AWearable%2520Blankets%26releaseID%3D%26searchView%3Dgrid3%26searchRank%3Dpmrank%26searchSize%3D30&clear=false

hahaha, DS would look silly in those!

I'm not saying I'm going to use the blanket every night... most nights it will be tucked firmly in at the bottom of the crib (like, folded over 30 times and only 6 inches wide, at the side opposite baby's head), but we have really inefficient baseboard heating and no other heat source at our house, so if it's really cold, he might need it. And seriously... I think it's crazy that people get so crazed about the blanket when they are cosleeping, using the prop-thingies, smoking, drinking, or are planning on smoking again when baby is born. Second hand smoke doubles the risk of SIDS...

heathhuns · September 2010

Hey

OH GAWD! I thought this was a place where we could come and bounce ideas off of each other you know. Where us preggos have something in common, and can feel comfortable asking questions and being supportive.

I think that you are brave, sharing the stuff that you fear people might have only negative reactions to. This is my third pregnancy. I have three at home already, (two bio, one stepson, and this one on the way). I always had a blanket in the crib, as for bumpers do what you want. Why do all of the crib sets come with blankets and bumpers, and what about all of the beautiful knitted blankets you receive??? As for SIDS, it is usually not attributed to any one thing. It's not called suffocated with blanket syndrome. Whoever "they" are change their mind every couple of years on what position to lye them on, side, back, or front?

I have to be the of the biggest worry wort moms going, always worried about my kids getting, hurt, having bad dreams, and all of that. We all love our children more than anything else, and would do anything to keep them safe. I still to this day, my boys are 6, 8, and 9, check on them at night to make sure that they are breathing. They have never stopped, but I could never forgive myself if I had the urge to check but didn't......

I had reservations about joining a site like this because I'm not the typical mommy group type of gal. I don't get off on judgmental people that think that their way is the only way. I don't care what brand of diapers you use, or for how many years you insisted on having a goat tied up in your backyard so that your child could nurse from it because you wouldn't dare feed him/her cows milk........................If this is you then great, that's what works for you. Just don't hate on other peoples choices of parenting. It is the hardest and most precious experience of a lifetime.

We need a real support system here ladies.

Peace

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