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Harper'smomHarper'smom
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DD has her first field trip to the pumpkin patch on Friday. DH and I are really looking forward to it. MIL saw the permission slip and told DH that she wants to come. I was like "no way!". First of all most kids are only going with one parent and we are both going. I think three adults is overkill. Second, why can't she just let us enjoy our daughter? Does she have to be involved in everything? Third, if she wants to take DD to the pumpkin patch she can do it on the two days a week that she gets to spend with DD while I work. Fourth, I took the day off work to enjoy it with my family and I am sure as heck not spending one of my 15 vacation days with her.

Of course we can't say most of the above but I think DH should have told her something like "we just want it to  be us, and we can plan another trip with you guys as it gets closer to Halloween". Instead he told her the school only allows two adults max. This irritates me but at least she won't be going.

Then again now that DD is sick it looks like none of us may go. The MIL karma gods probably think this is deserved.

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  • EcoBabyEcoBaby

    Wow - that would totally annoy me.

    I would probably do the same thing as your husband though. Embarrassed lol

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  • Soon2BMrsBoylonSoon2BMrsBoylon member
    I agree, very annoying especially since it's a first!  But maybe DH blamed it on the school so feathers would stay unruffled.  Hoping your DD just has a little cold and will be better by Friday!  I LOVE going to the pumpkin patch and I don't even have my little one yet!
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    Sorry, was lurking from 2nd Tri...
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  • Harper'smomHarper'smom

    I agree that the path of least resistance is sometimes best because it is not worth starting a battle with someone who is unreasonable. She's one of those "can't handle the truth" people.

     

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  • QuazelQuazel member
    I can't keep all the MIL's straight on here but I am assuming she is a wackadoodle.  Otherwise, I would think it is sweet.  It should have been phrased as "I would love to come if that is okay." but it is still sweet.  Again, I am assuming there is a lot of back story that I am confusing with someone else!  I would have done what your DH did, I love when the path of least resistance helps me pick and choose my battles.
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  • morganoremorganore

    sounds like something my mom would do....i don't have mil probs i have mother probs lol 

     i understand why your DH said what he did, but that is not going to help her understand that you have your family and you make the decisions for your family and she can ask to be involved but not try to control.

     i have had a hard time with this and my DH is always telling me that my mother gets what she wants all the time so we need to be more straight forward so she can understand. it is definitely hard for me and  i would much rather take the easy way out and blame it on someone else but then i would have it on my conscience and not feel like i solved the situation. 

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