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greengirl0909 · September 2010

MSUMamaof2:

Here's a novel idea. Why doesn't everyone just worry about what they and their families can afford and quit being upset about the perceived injustices in the welfare system?

If it upsets you to see Ms. Welfare Mama with her acrylic nails, fancy cell phone, and gold hanging out of her ears to buy formula for her KID using government money, ask yourself why you care. My guess is that you're thinking in the back of your mind, "Why should SHE get this when I have to do this?"

We could solve the world's problems if everyone would just mind their own business.

I disagree 100%. I would argue the reason we're IN this position is because there is too much of the MYOB attitude. Prior to the existence of public assistance, there were families who needed help. They received it from neighbors, churches, and charging bills at local establishments. There, things were 'personal.' You had to say thank you for the help and acknowledge that someone else was making efforts to make your life better. I feel strongly after about the 3rd time you had to look the storekeeper in the eye and tell him you can't pay your bill you might have been a little more motivated to work to help yourself. I cannot get over the number of people who recieve this assistance and have no idea where it comes from. "THE GOVERNMENT" takes care of it. Hello? Do you not know what that means?

And yes, there is some feeling that goes with why do they get that and I don't? How is it fair for those who aren't working to have those luxuries? I would love to stay home with my LO, but we can't afford it and keep insurance for our kid. My husband would love to have one fo those fancy phones but again, our budget doesn't allow for us to have that.

Furthermore, what if everyone just decided that they should be able to have everything they wanted and get assistance? The system breaks down because it depends on those of us who are working to provide for others. I'm glad to help someone who needs it but I'd also like to see them helping themselves. You're getting assistance and having a tough time? Put that money you're paying for a data package in a savings account. It's going to come in handy in the future either to help you out or help your LO out so hopefully they don't repeat the same cycle.

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · September 2010

guppysown@yahoo.com:
MSUMamaof2:

Here's a novel idea. Why doesn't everyone just worry about what they and their families can afford and quit being upset about the perceived injustices in the welfare system?

If it upsets you to see Ms. Welfare Mama with her acrylic nails, fancy cell phone, and gold hanging out of her ears to buy formula for her KID using government money, ask yourself why you care. My guess is that you're thinking in the back of your mind, "Why should SHE get this when I have to do this?"

We could solve the world's problems if everyone would just mind their own business.

I disagree 100%. I would argue the reason we're IN this position is because there is too much of the MYOB attitude. Prior to the existence of public assistance, there were families who needed help. They received it from neighbors, churches, and charging bills at local establishments. There, things were 'personal.' You had to say thank you for the help and acknowledge that someone else was making efforts to make your life better. I feel strongly after about the 3rd time you had to look the storekeeper in the eye and tell him you can't pay your bill you might have been a little more motivated to work to help yourself. I cannot get over the number of people who recieve this assistance and have no idea where it comes from. "THE GOVERNMENT" takes care of it. Hello? Do you not know what that means?

And yes, there is some feeling that goes with why do they get that and I don't? How is it fair for those who aren't working to have those luxuries? I would love to stay home with my LO, but we can't afford it and keep insurance for our kid. My husband would love to have one fo those fancy phones but again, our budget doesn't allow for us to have that.

Furthermore, what if everyone just decided that they should be able to have everything they wanted and get assistance? The system breaks down because it depends on those of us who are working to provide for others. I'm glad to help someone who needs it but I'd also like to see them helping themselves. You're getting assistance and having a tough time? Put that money you're paying for a data package in a savings account. It's going to come in handy in the future either to help you out or help your LO out so hopefully they don't repeat the same cycle.

you do realize penalty charges apply for canceling phone packages, right? You are a dingleberry. Stop projecting your jealousy on others. At least admit it.

cma1989 · September 2010

shortyred919:
guppysown@yahoo.com:
MSUMamaof2:

Here's a novel idea.? Why doesn't everyone just worry about what they and their families can afford and quit being upset about the perceived injustices in the welfare system??
If it upsets you to see Ms. Welfare Mama with her acrylic nails, fancy cell phone, and gold hanging out of her ears to buy formula for her KID using government money, ask yourself why you care.? My guess is that you're thinking in the back of your mind, "Why should SHE get this when I have to do this?"
We could solve the world's problems if everyone would just mind their own business. ?
I disagree 100%.? I would argue the reason we're IN this position is because there is too much of the MYOB attitude.? Prior to the existence of public assistance, there were families who needed help. They received it from neighbors, churches, and charging bills at local establishments.? There, things were 'personal.'? You had to say thank you for the help and acknowledge that someone else was making efforts to?make your life?better.? I feel strongly after about the 3rd time you had to look? the storekeeper in the eye and tell him you can't pay your bill you might have been a little more motivated to work to help yourself.? I cannot get over the number of people who recieve this assistance and have no idea where it comes from.? "THE GOVERNMENT" takes care of it.? Hello? Do you not know what that means?
And yes, there is some feeling that goes with why do they get that and I don't? How is it fair for those who aren't working to have those luxuries? I would love to stay home with my LO, but we can't afford it and keep insurance for our kid.? My husband would love to have one fo those fancy phones but again, our budget doesn't allow for us to have that.?
Furthermore, what if everyone just decided that they should be able to have everything they wanted and get assistance? The system breaks down because it depends on those of us who are working to provide for others. I'm glad to help someone who needs it but I'd also like to see them helping themselves.? You're getting assistance and having a tough time? Put that money you're paying for a data package in a savings account.? It's going to come in handy in the future either to help you out or help your LO out so hopefully they don't repeat the same cycle.?
you do realize penalty charges apply for canceling phone packages, right? You are a dingleberry. Stop projecting your jealousy on others. At least admit it.

Protecting her jealousy, Seriously? What does she have to be jealous of specifically? Cause I'm not seeing it. I am not jealous of people on assistance one bit. I take care of my kid because I chose to have her, not the government.?

RadicalDreamer143 · September 2010

shortyred919:
guppysown@yahoo.com:
MSUMamaof2:

Here's a novel idea. Why doesn't everyone just worry about what they and their families can afford and quit being upset about the perceived injustices in the welfare system?

If it upsets you to see Ms. Welfare Mama with her acrylic nails, fancy cell phone, and gold hanging out of her ears to buy formula for her KID using government money, ask yourself why you care. My guess is that you're thinking in the back of your mind, "Why should SHE get this when I have to do this?"

We could solve the world's problems if everyone would just mind their own business.

I disagree 100%. I would argue the reason we're IN this position is because there is too much of the MYOB attitude. Prior to the existence of public assistance, there were families who needed help. They received it from neighbors, churches, and charging bills at local establishments. There, things were 'personal.' You had to say thank you for the help and acknowledge that someone else was making efforts to make your life better. I feel strongly after about the 3rd time you had to look the storekeeper in the eye and tell him you can't pay your bill you might have been a little more motivated to work to help yourself. I cannot get over the number of people who recieve this assistance and have no idea where it comes from. "THE GOVERNMENT" takes care of it. Hello? Do you not know what that means?

And yes, there is some feeling that goes with why do they get that and I don't? How is it fair for those who aren't working to have those luxuries? I would love to stay home with my LO, but we can't afford it and keep insurance for our kid. My husband would love to have one fo those fancy phones but again, our budget doesn't allow for us to have that.

Furthermore, what if everyone just decided that they should be able to have everything they wanted and get assistance? The system breaks down because it depends on those of us who are working to provide for others. I'm glad to help someone who needs it but I'd also like to see them helping themselves. You're getting assistance and having a tough time? Put that money you're paying for a data package in a savings account. It's going to come in handy in the future either to help you out or help your LO out so hopefully they don't repeat the same cycle.
you do realize penalty charges apply for canceling phone packages, right? You are a dingleberry. Stop projecting your jealousy on others. At least admit it.

I must've missed it... how is she jealous, and who is she jealous of?

greengirl0909 · September 2010

shortyred919:
guppysown@yahoo.com:
MSUMamaof2:

Here's a novel idea. Why doesn't everyone just worry about what they and their families can afford and quit being upset about the perceived injustices in the welfare system?

If it upsets you to see Ms. Welfare Mama with her acrylic nails, fancy cell phone, and gold hanging out of her ears to buy formula for her KID using government money, ask yourself why you care. My guess is that you're thinking in the back of your mind, "Why should SHE get this when I have to do this?"

We could solve the world's problems if everyone would just mind their own business.

I disagree 100%. I would argue the reason we're IN this position is because there is too much of the MYOB attitude. Prior to the existence of public assistance, there were families who needed help. They received it from neighbors, churches, and charging bills at local establishments. There, things were 'personal.' You had to say thank you for the help and acknowledge that someone else was making efforts to make your life better. I feel strongly after about the 3rd time you had to look the storekeeper in the eye and tell him you can't pay your bill you might have been a little more motivated to work to help yourself. I cannot get over the number of people who recieve this assistance and have no idea where it comes from. "THE GOVERNMENT" takes care of it. Hello? Do you not know what that means?

And yes, there is some feeling that goes with why do they get that and I don't? How is it fair for those who aren't working to have those luxuries? I would love to stay home with my LO, but we can't afford it and keep insurance for our kid. My husband would love to have one fo those fancy phones but again, our budget doesn't allow for us to have that.

Furthermore, what if everyone just decided that they should be able to have everything they wanted and get assistance? The system breaks down because it depends on those of us who are working to provide for others. I'm glad to help someone who needs it but I'd also like to see them helping themselves. You're getting assistance and having a tough time? Put that money you're paying for a data package in a savings account. It's going to come in handy in the future either to help you out or help your LO out so hopefully they don't repeat the same cycle.

you do realize penalty charges apply for canceling phone packages, right? You are a dingleberry. Stop projecting your jealousy on others. At least admit it.

I acknowledge feelngs of resentment, I wouldn't call it jealousy per se, I don't want to be on assistance. But tell me, how would you justify the fact that you have a droid phone and my husband and I don't, while my husband and I both work full time jobs and do not receive assistance and you get to stay at home with your kids and do receive assistance? (and I in no means want to single YOU out, I'm saying you as an example)

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · September 2010

guppysown@yahoo.com:
shortyred919:
guppysown@yahoo.com:
MSUMamaof2:

Here's a novel idea. Why doesn't everyone just worry about what they and their families can afford and quit being upset about the perceived injustices in the welfare system?

If it upsets you to see Ms. Welfare Mama with her acrylic nails, fancy cell phone, and gold hanging out of her ears to buy formula for her KID using government money, ask yourself why you care. My guess is that you're thinking in the back of your mind, "Why should SHE get this when I have to do this?"

We could solve the world's problems if everyone would just mind their own business.

I disagree 100%. I would argue the reason we're IN this position is because there is too much of the MYOB attitude. Prior to the existence of public assistance, there were families who needed help. They received it from neighbors, churches, and charging bills at local establishments. There, things were 'personal.' You had to say thank you for the help and acknowledge that someone else was making efforts to make your life better. I feel strongly after about the 3rd time you had to look the storekeeper in the eye and tell him you can't pay your bill you might have been a little more motivated to work to help yourself. I cannot get over the number of people who recieve this assistance and have no idea where it comes from. "THE GOVERNMENT" takes care of it. Hello? Do you not know what that means?

And yes, there is some feeling that goes with why do they get that and I don't? How is it fair for those who aren't working to have those luxuries? I would love to stay home with my LO, but we can't afford it and keep insurance for our kid. My husband would love to have one fo those fancy phones but again, our budget doesn't allow for us to have that.

Furthermore, what if everyone just decided that they should be able to have everything they wanted and get assistance? The system breaks down because it depends on those of us who are working to provide for others. I'm glad to help someone who needs it but I'd also like to see them helping themselves. You're getting assistance and having a tough time? Put that money you're paying for a data package in a savings account. It's going to come in handy in the future either to help you out or help your LO out so hopefully they don't repeat the same cycle.

you do realize penalty charges apply for canceling phone packages, right? You are a dingleberry. Stop projecting your jealousy on others. At least admit it.

I acknowledge feelngs of resentment, I wouldn't call it jealousy per se, I don't want to be on assistance. But tell me, how would you justify the fact that you have a droid phone and my husband and I don't, while my husband and I both work full time jobs and do not receive assistance and you get to stay at home with your kids and do receive assistance? (and I in no means want to single YOU out, I'm saying you as an example)

In my case, I am on my parents' family plan, as are my husband and my grandmother. It is cheaper for us to do it that way. I bought the droid when we had money to go towards an upgrade (rebate). When DH lost his job, my parents told me it was no problem for them to help us out until we pick our feet up. I have a close network of people that help me out. I also do freelance graphic design to help afford luxuries. We qualify for assistance. I will not apologize for that.

greengirl0909 · September 2010

shortyred919:

In my case, I am on my parents' family plan, as are my husband and my grandmother. It is cheaper for us to do it that way. I bought the droid when we had money to go towards an upgrade (rebate). When DH lost his job, my parents told me it was no problem for them to help us out until we pick our feet up. I have a close network of people that help me out. I also do freelance graphic design to help afford luxuries. We qualify for assistance. I will not apologize for that.

And I would suggest whomever pays for your phone, be it you or your parents, would be better to either put that money in a savings account to help you get back on your feet or for your LO's future. Too often people, myself included, fall into, well it's just $$ a month or whatever. When you start thinking about it that seemingly "little" amount each month adds up and could be a much larger amount providing you more security in the future. I'm not asking you to apologize for receiving assistance. I'm suggesting your statement didn't seem like you were grateful for the assistance your family and the government can provide.

StrawberryAlarmClock · September 2010

MSUMamaof2:
Here's a novel idea. Why doesn't everyone just worry about what they and their families can afford and quit being upset about the perceived injustices in the welfare system?
If it upsets you to see Ms. Welfare Mama with her acrylic nails, fancy cell phone, and gold hanging out of her ears to buy formula for her KID using government money, ask yourself why you care. My guess is that you're thinking in the back of your mind, "Why should SHE get this when I have to do this?"
We could solve the world's problems if everyone would just mind their own business.

It is our business. There's no such thing as the "government's money".

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · September 2010

guppysown@yahoo.com:
shortyred919:

In my case, I am on my parents' family plan, as are my husband and my grandmother. It is cheaper for us to do it that way. I bought the droid when we had money to go towards an upgrade (rebate). When DH lost his job, my parents told me it was no problem for them to help us out until we pick our feet up. I have a close network of people that help me out. I also do freelance graphic design to help afford luxuries. We qualify for assistance. I will not apologize for that.

And I would suggest whomever pays for your phone, be it you or your parents, would be better to either put that money in a savings account to help you get back on your feet or for your LO's future. Too often people, myself included, fall into, well it's just $$ a month or whatever. When you start thinking about it that seemingly "little" amount each month adds up and could be a much larger amount providing you more security in the future. I'm not asking you to apologize for receiving assistance. I'm suggesting your statement didn't seem like you were grateful for the assistance your family and the government can provide.

And like I've already mentioned, the penalty costs would be more of a detriment to savings than paying a little each month. But thanks for playing.

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