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May 2011 Moms
I feel I need to get ready for the endless "This wasn't planned, was it" comments.
Comebacks anyone?
I also have been, well, not exactly thrilled about babies (it's amazing that I'm excited about my own, to tell you the truth), so I am trying to figure out what to say when people say "But you don't like kids"...
The first one is annoying and bugging me, because, well... it's true. Cletus the fetus wasn't planned.
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Re: I feel I need to get ready for the endless "This wasn't planned, was it" comments.
"My uterus, my business." and "I'm pretty sure that was just your kid I didn't like."
Ok not really the second one but the first totally applies.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Well the #1 thing my childfree by choice* friend hears constantly from the Breeders is that "It will be different when its your own". And for you, it is.
People are such bullcrap. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
*Childfree by choice means childfree...permanently. She does not ever want kids ever. That doesn't mean she can't eventually change her mind, but if she were to get pregnant now she would not keep it. ChildLESS just means has no kids but wants them eventually. Just putting it out there for those who don't know the difference.
totally planned..... it was a one night stand!
sorry! I am a totall smart as s when it comes to this stuff. My favorite come back about being pregnant.
Question: What are you having?
Reply: A baby
I like that... 'We are very excited!' Which I am guessing you are a little as you aren't talking about adoption. (Only guessing here.)
100% agree.
Well, you plan to keep it. That's a plan.
If people really say "but you don't like kids!", ask them if they want to babysit until it's 10.
Oh people. I swear, people get verbal diarrhea when it comes to talking to pregnant women. They begin to think it's totally ok to ask very personal questions and invade personal space simply because you're growing another life inside you. Your life and the choices you've made/will make do not have to be public knowledge unless you want them to be (which, I'm in your shoes and do not want them to be). If it were me, I'd probably shoot back some non-commital answer like "We're very excited" (as PPs have said), or if hormones were raising, some smarta$$$ comment if I were witty enough to come up with one on the spot.
A few things you could say that wont let people really into how you feel, sarcasm is always nice.... "It was a pleasent surprise." "I like this one!" "Maybe it was just others parenting I didn't like!" "Well, I'll learn to like them." "Life is full of surprises!"
Good Luck, Im sure youll be a great Mom!
I have a kid, and I still don't like other people's kids. You're allowed to like your kid and not anyone else's, you know??
And as far as the planned thing, I like the whole "it was a pleasant surprise" comeback. Seriously, you don't owe anyone any answers, so just smile and be on your way.
You can always just look at them and say "Did you know if you have sex you could end up pregnant?"
"Did you know if you have sex you could end up pregnant?"
FOR THE WIN!!!! oh yeah, I'm totally using this if the mood is right
And thanks for the comments, you're right, I should just be able to say "It was a pleasant surprise" and if they press I'll pull the "Why are you so interested" with my disapproving mom look. I guess I have to practice it somehow...